Are there long-term effects of unforgiveness?
2006-11-09 06:36:23 · 17 answers · asked by Pigskin Princess 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
long-term effects of unforgiveness is unresolved issues which will hinder future relationships - i dated a guy who could not forgive his ex wife and had so much anger towards her you could literally see his face change when he spoke about her - he has been wandering aimlessly in and out of relationships for 6 yrs. now because he cannot bring himself to forgive her.
2006-11-09 07:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is a state of understanding the big picture. Hearts were not designed to harbor unforgiveness or evil. The long-term effect is a sad heart, never being quite happy in life and not being quite at peace either.
2006-11-09 09:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can forgive, but not forget. Forgiveness has more to do with what kind of a person you are, and less to do with the person who needs the forgiveness. When you cling to an injury, it takes up your energy and thought, it it like an acid to your sense of self. Why let someone have so much space in your life?
2006-11-09 06:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important to truely forgive because it can help you move past whatever hurt or offended you in the first place. Not forgiving usually causes you to stew in your own anger, often making the current perception of the problem many times worse then the original offense.
2006-11-09 06:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. But I'm bad for it. I tend to hold grudges and be sensitive. When I do forgive someone, say an old friend who I am no longer friends with, I nostalgically remember all the good times I had with them and how much I loved them at one time when everything is good. I care about them again and sincerely hope that, no matter what they did to me or think of me now, they're doing good. To me, this is much better than remembering whatever hurt me so badly.
2006-11-09 06:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by KeM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because in forgiving others, you help them to heal rather than carry the burden of having done something wrong to somebody. Their asking for forgiveness actually helps them more than your forgiving them does, though...but if you don't forgive them it creates a sore spot in the relationship that, for most people, is all they can see. Many don't understand the self-healing that happens when they apologize for something.
2006-11-09 06:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by fishman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you don't forgive you don't forget and the longer it's in your head it'll turn into hate then you'll be thinking about it more than you want and it'll get in the way. You can forgive someone it doesn't mean your obligated to be the same way with that person just remember your not perfect maybe someday you'll want someone to forgive you too!!!
2006-11-09 06:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness makes me stronger.
A child holds a grudge. An adult forgives.
2006-11-09 07:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To have a friend, you have to be a friend
long term effects of unforgivness: No friends cause they don't think you care about them, Bad Karma
2006-11-09 06:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a spirit thing. If you do not forgive others of thier sins against you, you will not be forgiven of your sins against God.. You break communion with God, and that unforgiving state opens the door for all kinds of demons, disease, and torment.
2006-11-09 06:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by mr.phattphatt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋