What you think of this situation! A wife and husband want to have a threesome with another chick. The wife has just met a female friend that likes her, and the wife likes her also. The wife claims that she doesn't want to sleep with another man, and the friend claims the same (she's engaged). The friend lives like an hour and a half away from the married couple, and the wife goes to see the friend when her fiancée is at work. Should the husband tell the wife she can't see the chick since this is a diode (one way) type of thing? DON"T NOT post answers like... the married couple shouldn't be doing things like that in the first place (though it will be inevitable that some of you will say something smart like that anyway).
2006-11-09 06:27:04 · 17 answers · asked by Druz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've seen this happen twice before, with the husband loosing in the end. You opened up a can of worms to a latent homosexual, now you know who she is and so does she. Good luck Bub.
2006-11-09 06:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think, that it should be discussed between all 3 of the parties. discuss what it is that they are doing without the husband around. if they are shopping or chatting then no harm, but if she's going to "see" the other woman, then it should be said...she can only see her when all 3 parties are involved in the same room at the same time. however, there lies a trust issue. if the husband feels that he cannot trust his wife over at another woman's place that they are "seeing", then that should be discussed and haave a conclusion between the husband and wife and then shared with the 3rd party (the friend) about the "rules and regulations" of this "sexual realtionship". hope this helps. good luck
2006-11-09 14:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by AnneeMoon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife need to agree that your marriage comes first. Then, if it bothers you that she's going to see the other girl, then tell her that it bothers you and she needs to stop. On the whole, though, it never bothered me when my wife went to see her girlfriend. Also, this is not a threesome, you're right, it's a diode, so if your wife wants a threesome this isn't cutting it, and if you want a threesome with your wife tell her this isn't that.
2006-11-09 14:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's having sex (with a male or female) without her partner's consent, then she is cheating...plain and simple. A threesome is an agreed upon situation...but if one party of the couple wants to see the "playmate" w/o the other party of the couple, there needs to be consent from the person being left behind...
If you don't like what is happening, then make it known and make known what you will do if it doesn't end...and stick to it.
2006-11-09 14:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest to god I can't understand you - how did an electronic diode get worked into this question about girl-girl sex?
Most people and their frail egos simply cannot handle a 3rd person in an intimate sexual relationship. Invariably 2 people are more attracted to each other, leaving the third one feeling rejected.
Keep it a fantasy but acting on it will ruin one relationship or the other.
2006-11-09 15:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if it bothers you then you should say something, but not just because it is a one way thing and you are just trying to get a tree some. It is unfair to guys that women will do things with other women and their men think it is sexy. Girls don't think it is sexy for their man to be with another man or woman, either way it is cheating. Just let the girls have this one, we get called sluts and hoes all the time and have to live with a constant double standard. If you just want to have a threesome with your wife and for her not to be with another woman with out you voice that to her because cheating is cheating, sexy or not.
2006-11-09 14:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by micah z 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what you are saying is you don't want your wife to see the other chick without you. If that is the case then you should tell her that. If you are open enough with each other to include other people in your sex life, you should be open enough to tell her what you are thinking. Are you afraid you are missing out on some action?
2006-11-09 14:33:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha!
If the man wants to sleep with this other chick, then don't be surprised if the wife goes off in private with her.....hey, once you allow an outsider into the bedroom, anything goes!!!!
This is what you risk when you open Pandora's Box.
2006-11-09 14:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he needs to tell the wife how he feels and for future situations establish ground rules. because it sounds as if the wife want to have this experience alone and it's nothing wrong with that but the husband needs to establish that bot parties meaning husband and wife need to agree on all sexual escapades
2006-11-09 20:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by kinya p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has every right. The deal was the COUPLE and another woman. Not woman-on-woman. That would be considered cheating, because as a couple they agreed to the threesome, not a twosome.
2006-11-09 14:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by Floss 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋