I have 2 brothers and I'm the only girl in the family. My mom is the only one that gets on my case everytime I want to do things on my own. I am 18 years old and I'm going to a community college and I don't have a job. I feel really hopeless. I told my mom that I'm not going to school next semester and that I'm going to work instead. She got really mad about what I said. And to be honest, I can't always make her happy by doing whatever she wants me to do. I already feel unhappy because I'm not making my own decision and that shes making it for me. I don't know what to do or say to her. I can't yell at her because thats not right. And if I do talk to her she'll just give me the silent treatment. She's been doing that for like a week now. I don't know what is up with her but why can't she understand that I'm not a little girl anymore and that I need to do thing on my own. CAN ANYONE PLEASE HELP ME OUT HERE. I NEED SOME ADVICE OF WHAT I SHOULD DO. PLEASE!!!
2006-11-09 06:22:42 · 6 answers · asked by kauaigurl4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you cant be playing nice anymore. If you tryed already talking to her in a calm way and it didnt work then now you have no choice but tell it like it is. You need to do watever you have to do so she can see that its your life, yell till she listens sometimes it helps to be a little ***** to your parents. She does not want to let you go and she is having a hard time doing it. she needs too.
2006-11-09 06:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by rubikisses muuah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart its not about you being a little girl in your moms eyes its about getting out to the big world the right way, you should just continue to go to college, getting a job right now is not the best way to go about anything it doesnt prove anything i was put in your situation a two years ago and instead of going to college i became a smart *** and got a job i felt as though highschool is all i truly needed and i was wrong and i remained at the job for one year there was no escape finally i quit and realized just what i did, sweety listen to your mom just stay in college she knows what she is talking about and yes your not a little girl anymore but you are just getting out in the world do it the right way and go to college and make something before you have to work cause its a pain in the *** been there done that and wish i had done things the right way. I hope this helps
2006-11-09 06:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay. so you are 18 and completely restless. i know how that feels. it makes you crazy. you are living at home and going to a community college. no job = no money. you want to work next semester to make some dinero rather than go to school. mom is mad about that. okay mom is probably thinking that she wants her only daughter to be successful in her life. and in today's world, success in any way, shape, form, or fashion pretty much is the result of having a degree. taking a semester off - forgive me - means getting lazy in the book area. honestly, i'm not trying to hurt your feelings - rather this is a form of encouragement. i hope that you will see it as that. if you take a semester off you are really very likely not to return the following fall. you will get used to having a little cash flow and not having to worry about studying all the time. but listen to this - everyone in college is dirt poor. people go to extreme measures in college to make it - they live on ramen for goodness sake. but think of college as an experience and as a stepping stone to getting where you really want to be. you want to have more mula. that's great. if you go to college and finish it with a good degree, you will have more mula. just hold out girl. stay in school. i'm not trying to sound like a commercial. but that's what's up. stay in school, focus on what you have to do which is study and make the grades. if it will help you to get mom off your back, transfer to a state school or something. you'll probably get some good aid if money is a problem, and if you don't get enough aid, then borrow the cash to cover it with. student loan companies are very good and they have very low interest rates. it's hard for moms to let their daughters grow up - that's true. and you will just have to tough it out for a while, you know? it will get better eventually. start hinting around that you are growing up. say things like, man my next birthday i'll be 19! i'll be 20 after that - geez! also do things that will make her trust you. she may already trust you, i dont know, but do more. show her that you are really maturing, and you are capable of making decisions on your own sometimes. but remember this: no matter how old you get, you will always need your mom. and mom is pretty much always right. sometimes we have to find that out the hard way. we know that mom is always right because why would she ever tell you anything wrong that she knows would hurt you - and of course because in the aftermath we do see that yes mom's advice was the way to go, and i should have listened. don't underestimate what your mom says. she is older and much more experienced. and please don't feel so hopeless - college is there honey to give you hope for a brighter future. go through with it, finish it all at once so you will get to that brighter future faster. live on ramen. bask in the glow of those experiences. i recommend a cute book to you "the broke diaries" by Angela Nissel.
http://www.angelanissel.com/broke/
everything will work itself out - it always does!
2006-11-09 06:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fix you 2 a nice luch and sit down and TALK.
You have to tell her straight out that your a lady now, not a little girl.
You have to let her know you want to make decisions in life for yourself, because you won't beable to grow as a decent young lady if you can't experience the ups and downs in life.
It takes experience for all of us to grow, rather it's good or bad.
Tell her your glad you have her love, now your asking for her respect of allowing you to make your own decisions.
2006-11-09 06:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because she cares it may not seem like it but when you are a parent you will understand.Parents only want the best for their children especially the girls because girls have more worries than men and you are her only one. Trust me she has probably been through the same thing.
2006-11-09 06:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by mrsspongebob26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compromise. take 1/2 course load and work part time.
2006-11-09 06:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by Hando C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋