split up for a weekend we are completly misserable and I ran into a mans arms that I had been telling my troubles to. My husband and I have talked and we no longer have the same feelings for each other. This other man has been in my life for 11 months and we have fallen for each other. I have two kids one on the way. I am fixing to be laid off and dont know what the hell to do WHAT AM I GOING TO DO HELP please!!
2006-11-09 06:18:33 · 14 answers · asked by momof2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is some thought on what I should do.
2006-11-09 06:22:22 · update #1
Take it slow. It may be exciting to be with another man, but down the road, it will slow down and there will be something about him that will make you mad. Slow down. Don't let him rush you. You need to go to your family or just be alone with kids. I totally understand what you are going through. I was pregnant with my third child when I went through my divorce. It don't get any easier if you speed into another man's arms. He will tell you what you want to hear. I got remarried 2months after divorce was final from first husband. You can email me if you want to talk more. I was in your shoes almost a year ago. I hopefully can help you not make the same mistakes I've made.
2006-11-09 06:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by missy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I think you already know the answer to the question you are asking. You should just do whatever makes you happy. And what will better the lives of your children,there is no point staying with someone that makes you unhappy...your children will be able to see it. But don't just go running to the one man that listens...it may only be a rebound. Basically just sit down and have a long talk with your self....way out the pros and then the cons and make whatever decision you see fit. Which may not please everyone, but just stay strong and do what makes you feel the most happy.
2006-11-09 14:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just checked some of your past questions......you have been leading up to this for a little bit now. Can you trust the other man in your life to be there for you as...what you need or do you need to try to be on your own with kids and figure out what is best for the 31/2 or you?
2006-11-09 14:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to take responsibility for your own actions. You should never tell a member of the opposite sex your marital problems! That always leads to trouble. I would ask hubby to forgive you and see if you guys can get counseling. If that isn't a viable option, then check for any assistance you can get from the gov't in your area. Then go get a skil that you can support yourself and your kids with. Good luck, honey.
2006-11-09 14:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by daj11551 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This guy has been in your life for 11 months and you have a kid on the way.Your husband would not have feelings for you as you have been cheating.
Presumably you should go with the father.
2006-11-09 14:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worry about your children first. Don't run off with the guy you fell in love with. It is perfectly fine to change feelings for your husband, but talk things over and decide what you are going to do about your children. Good luck
2006-11-09 14:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by Heather M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You no longer have the same feelings for each other???? What a cop out! Marriage is hard work lady, you dont just leave at the first sign of trouble!
2006-11-09 14:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well lady looks like your in a huge predicament hey? who's baby is it? your ex's or this new guy? well what i think is definitely do what you feel is right... if u feel that your kiddies need their dad then make sure u stay close to where their dad lives. nothing is worse that having your children being raised without a father. in my opinion u should just stay with ur ex 4 the kids. id like to know more though maybe we can chat 1 time bye 4 now
2006-11-09 14:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by tianna 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a deep breath and slow down. You really need to slow down with the lover and step back a bit. Only then can you start to appraise your situation. If you act based on emotion and not thought you won't do what is best for yourself or your kids.
2006-11-09 14:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by Patrick B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it easy!! Go back to your husband and apologise. If he does not take u back, give him time and he'll come round. You have too much going for you to throw away just like that. The other guy is the cause of your problems and is most likely going to ruin the rest of ur life!! Take your time.... It heals.
2006-11-09 14:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by newmakes 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋