At school he'll try to kiss me in front of our friends, which can be awkward if we ALWAYS are kissing. Is this just me, what should I do? Friends gave us time to kiss... but I didnt, I like kissing in the moment, not "having time" to kiss. What do you think? He gets really impatient and I dont think he understands, that can be awkward, Im not that kind of girl. But my friends say its ok???
2006-11-09 06:08:59 · 26 answers · asked by Audrey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If hes your boyfriend and best friend then sit down and tell him that your a person who likes to keep thing discreet.
2006-11-09 06:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥ L ♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this is my opinion you don't have to like it or follow it just read it. You say he get impatient an doesn't understand what are you to him a girlfriend or some thing to show off with. Talk to him again tell him you feel awkward kissing him in front of an audience and you would like all of your kisses to mean something not a just for so kind of thing and if he still has a problem do what your heart wants you to do not what someone said to do
2006-11-09 14:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable kissing him in front of people or when you know someone is leaving the two of you to yourselves just so you can "have time" to kiss, don't do it. Kiss at a pace that is comfortable to you. If this guy really cares about you, he should try to understand and work with you to come up with some kind of a solution. If you do kiss him when you don't really feel like it, you could feel bad about it later. Maybe soon, you'll feel more up to it. Don't get carried away, though. Keep it modest! (Also, should you really be kissing at school? It was against the rules where I went to school.) Be nice about it, and talk to your guy. Better to talk about the situation than for it to be sprung on you later.
2006-11-09 14:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok! Tell him that you like kissing in the moment. I personally am the same way. And I dont like to see people in public kissing. There is a time and place for public affection. It is ok if you dont want to in front of your friends. Maybe a peck or one on the cheek would make him happy?! Good luck girl!
2006-11-09 14:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by lucynlynsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine pretty much refuses to touch his girlfriend in public (he holds her hand some times and hugs her if she initiates it but that's about it in public). He's not a touchy feely kind of guy and I know girls that are like that too. I think it's awkward and pretty annoying when guys and girls are all over each other everywhere. If you don't feel comfortable kissing in public, your boyfriend should understand. It's just your personality. Nothing against him and nothing that he did wrong. Try to actually explain it to him. Guys don't get hints AT ALL. You have to spell it out! I have been told this by more than one guy. Not making it up :-)
2006-11-09 14:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by Katie L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a comfort level. Personally, my girlfriend and I are comfortable kissing in front of other people. I've also kissed my best friend (a different girl) on the cheek in front of other people. I think it's okay to kiss in public as long as one of you isn't wearing a military uniform. There are military conduct rules against this.
2006-11-09 14:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by iuneedscoachknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not your friends or your boyfriends decision. When you say no, that is exactly what it should be.
A lot of girls and women do not like to show public
affection. And sweety school comes first. If something would happen and you went to far, how
many friends do you think you'd heave then. Babies aren't a toy and this is a serious situation
your in.
Tell him to back off or you'll have to split. Take charge of your life. Wish you the best.
2006-11-09 14:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by Catswoman1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's fine that you don't want to be affectionate in front of people. And I agree that you shouldn't have to plan time to be smoochy with your boyfriend. It should be a natural 'in the moment' type of thing. If your not into public affection, just tell your BF that you would prefer to make out when the two of you are alone, not in the halls at school...
2006-11-09 14:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you aren't into PDA. If he doesn't respect that or your wishes then there are bigger problems you need to talk about. Definitely don't let him guilt you or pressure you into doing things your don't want to Intimacy and kissing is a two way street.
I don't like PDA either, sometimes that will upset my boyfriend. But as long as I assure him that I do care about him, I just don't like to be overly affection in public view. A little kiss is ok, but making out and groping is inappropriate.
2006-11-09 14:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by t433_sd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly alright that you don't like kissing in front of people, and no one wants to schedule their moments of affection, kissing to me should be a spur of the moment thing. Just explain to him that to your shows of affection should be between the two of you not everyone at school.
2006-11-09 14:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how that feels me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years and I still feel odd having his family and friends watch kiss. Even if its just a goodbye kiss or hello.
So just don't let people have you do things that you don't feel comfortable with doing.
2006-11-09 14:35:23 · answer #11 · answered by mizthang_keisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋