i am 20 yr old raped girl need advise?

Question

i raped by my tution sir ,, i cant inform to my parents but that rapist is still try to make relation with me is there any way to get out??

i cant tell to my parents because they r very inocent, and they may stop my further study, i dont wnt to spoil my education carrer

Answer 1

Tell your parents and your school/university authorities immediately...you can help someone else from going thru the same ordeal!!!

Answer 2

You say you were raped by your tuition Sir, did he use force? I can assure you that without the use of physical force no single man can rape a 20-year-old woman. Did he threaten you with a weapon? I don’t think so or else you would have mentioned it. Did he black mail you? Quite possible, that is why you cannot tell your parents. Being 20 years old, if this is true then it would be consensual sex not rape. Where did this so call rape happen? Probably at his house where he may have seduced you not raped you. He has something on you, which is why he is not afraid of you telling anyone, which is why he still demands sexual favours, which is why he can have you without physically hurting you. If you really want to put an end to this I suggest you call his bluff. Whatever he has on you cannot be as bad as what he is doing to you. Your ‘innocent’ parents know about sex so tell them. There are other tutors you know.

Answer 3

You say you were raped by your tuition Sir, did he use force? I can assure you that without the use of physical force no single man can rape a 20-year-old woman. Did he threaten you with a weapon? I don’t think so or else you would have mentioned it. Did he black mail you? Quite possible, that is why you cannot tell your parents. Being 20 years old, if this is true then it would be consensual sex not rape. Where did this so call rape happen? Probably at his house where he may have seduced you not raped you. He has something on you, which is why he is not afraid of you telling anyone, which is why he still demands sexual favours, which is why he can have you without physically hurting you. If you really want to put an end to this I suggest you call his bluff. Whatever he has on you cannot be as bad as what he is doing to you. Your ‘innocent’ parents know about sex so tell them. There are other tutors you know...

Answer 4

Dear Blue_b

First of all I am very sorry to hear about your unfortunate incident. I'll pray to God to give you strenght to tide over this difficult phase in your life. However, I dont think that hiding the truth from the world i.e. your friends and family will help you in any way. You will continue to suffer in silence and your sir will continue to take advantage of you by trying to have illegal relationship with you. To bring the rapist to justice and to make sure he gets the punishment he deserves, you must inform your parents and even the police.
If you cannot approach your parents directly then request a close friend or brother or sister to tell your parents. Believe me they are your parents and they will not wish anything bad for you ever. So they will not think of stopping your studies

So to make sure that you do not suffer again in the future please tell the concerned people so that they can help you. All the best.

Answer 5

first of all i m very sad on hearing that.
look u has to do five things at any cost if u respect any of the members of the yahoo group
1)believe in god(that's must,without that u can not move even a single feet.he will to do everything right)
2)talk with ur parents(if u have any doubt that they will stop ur studies than throw that out of ur mind.look me and every member is with u and if u need me than i will personally tell the situation to ur parents,they will not stop ur studies)
3)be brave and try to forget that incident
4)its good if u change ur tution but its better that ur tuition sir is behind the walls.so do something do,need any body help than say..but do something.he can do that with others also)
5)what has been done will not be changed if u thinks for 200 lakh times,and what is going to happen will happen in the future.
so no need to look at the past but its good if u keep urself busy and do the best of what u can do today.
god will help u ,u know y
because he knows what is important,what is good for others.
no need to take any tension.nothing will get out of that
and if u can't do all that things than simply do one thing
talk with ur parents and put each and everything in the hands of the god
i assure u nothing will get out wrong in that
may god bless u
my email id is [e-mail]

Answer 6

I'm very saddened to hear this. But do not lose your confidence. This is not your fault. Its his problem, do not hesitate to tell your parents. They are the ones whose support is needed for you in times like these. Get checked up with Doctor. Sometimes it may not lead to pregnancy. Dont feel guilty about what has happened have faith in the future. As long as you feel afraid of the fact that beast will try to take control of you. Be bold and face the future, inform your parents about this incident. It may be very hard for you to do that but they are the ones who will help you. I can give you a advice but I cant help you physically. Now you should be mentally strong. Read Bible you will have the way. This life is not permanent, we have hope for future. Be brave and bold to face the future. You can do it....From now on what you will do will define your future. So please be careful, now you need the support of your parents more than anybody else. Explain the fact to them and ask them to be strong Future is infront of you and future is yours. It is colorful and waiting for you. All the Best.... I pray to God that you will have a bright future.

Answer 7

Hey girl, I know its easier said than done and I understand the way the so called society of ours work, but this is the time in your life when you need to get all your courage together and do the right thing. Which ofcourse is informing your parents and lodging a police complaint against that b!@#$%^. You must understand that he deserves to be behind bars, and you cant just let him trouble you and god knows how many more girls. I've always believed in one thing, its always better to regret what you did than regret what you didnt. Just keep your calm and do the right thing, I'm sure you dont wanna regret letting him go free for the rest of your life. Best of luck !!!

Answer 8

u cant just take it in like that. tell ur parents and get this man arrested. if u want to continue ur further studies then tell ur parents and im sure they well understand. they well understand u. but right now u need to be with ur parents. u need them. u cant take this all by yourself. u dont deserve this. this man does not deserve to use u like this.
but having ur parents in mind i can understand what ur worried bout. u can also tell ur parents that u want a different tution. that this teacher isnt very good. but i think ur parents have the right to know. and u should tell them.

Answer 9

I know it is hard, but you HAVE to tell your parents, a friend or the police!!! You cannot let this guy keep on doing what he did to you... It's going to take time to get over it, and it is not going to be easy, but the sooner you tell someone, the better!!!

Please, my friend, tell your parents as soon as possible!!! It will help you start the healing process. And it is nothing to be ashamed of, because it was not your fault!

And promise me, after you have told your parents or the police, that you will go to the hospital to make sure you are not pregnant, and that this b@stard didn't give you any diseases like HIV/AIDS. Promise me you'll do that as soon as possible!!!

I know what I'm talking about...

Answer 10

If you dont complain, then the blaim will come to you. People will ask why didnt you complain. Its best to complain as soon as possible. I can understand that you are hurt, and may be psychologically weak to do anything now. Try to get help from the friends, to gain confidence.
And the best people are parents. I dont think your parents will stop you going from school. Instaed they will certainly fight against the person.

Answer 11

you need to tell your parents. There are more cases like your than you might think. If you dont tell, think of what he could do to other girls! you can call an annonymous hotline that can help, go to a counselor, tell your parents. Do you go to church? -talk to your pastor or a close church family member! I have a friend who doesnt know if she was raped or not because she was intoxicated and was passing out and wont talk to anybody about it, and I tell her she needs to tell her parents that maybe they can help. She did go get tested for STD and pregnant. You may need to go get tested just to make sure! Good luck and God Bless!