My friend just called and left a message that she needs someone to talk to.Her twin brothers funeral was yesterday. I don't know what to tell her or how to start off the conversation.
2006-11-09 05:58:51 · 13 answers · asked by Christy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You dont have to say anything. Just being there and listening is a great thing. Cause most of the time people have a tendency to forget about you 2 or 3 weeks after the funeral. Your friend will need support then to. Everybody grieves differently and and you may understand her grief if you have been through it yourself. Just be there to listen.
2006-11-09 06:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by firefly06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know how close u are to ur friend. so u would know best.
u don't have to start anything...
go calmly, see how she is at the moment n act accordingly. no over-reactions, no showing that u r detached either. just ur presence should be the first relief, maybe that's why u r asked for.be a good listener, n u will if u care... she probably would have a lot to speak.
compliance, else silence, a hug when needed n that she knows that u care is most important. n reflect what is ur true state n emotion. all else would follow.
2006-11-09 06:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by abh_gup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start off telling her how sorry you are for her loss. IF you have lost a dear, close loved one, you can also say you know how she must be feeling.
Death does have it's way of putting people in a weird behavior and not know what to say.
IF she's your friend, be there for her, even if you can't feel her grief. Lend her your shoulder and love.
2006-11-09 06:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call her. She'll start the conversation and then all you have to do is listen. She is probably angry, hurt and every other emotion tangled up inside. She wants to vent....and you will never understand until you go through a loss.
Sorry for her loss and I hope she gets through her pain.
2006-11-09 06:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by voandginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Express your condolences, sorry for your loss. Then just listen to what she has to say. During times of grievances people just need someone to talk to and not just about the situation at hand. They may want someone to take their mind off of what occurred.
2006-11-09 06:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by inquisitor1125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you are sorry for her loss, and are there if she wants to talk. This is a time to listen, don't try to think of things to say. If you have something to say,then say it, but don't talk just for the sake of talking. Just listen right now. Be a good friend. Good luck. Sorry to hear about your friends bro.
2006-11-09 06:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by suchaprettyface11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to say anything. She just really needs company.
I would start with: I am very sorry. *hug*
I would not want to make her talk about anything she wasn't ready to talk about and I would not want to say the wrong thing... so, I would simply be there with her and not say anything. Saying nothing is okay, too.
2006-11-09 06:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by Shibi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for sure and I know how it feels to lose a brother and saying I'm sorry without knowing how it feels to lose someone may make some people mad like it does to me
2006-11-09 06:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can say is you're sorry and extend them an invitation to listen if they should need to talk.
2006-11-09 06:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by illusions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really don't have to say anything at all. all they need is for someone to be there and listen to them. all you can do is be there for your friend...it's good to know people care about you even though they say nothing....
2006-11-09 06:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by vicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋