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Question

I'm a 14 year old guy....but i'm homeschooled.


And I just moved across the country so i don't have any friends.


I see kids my age walk by my house every day coming home from school...but since i'm homeschooled, i don't have any friends, and I'm a freshman in highschool.

I'm kinda shy, but people say i'm easy to get along with...any suggestions on how to make friends, or any good conversation starters?

thanks. :D

Mr. Stickers:

I actually am a Christain, but instead of going to church, we have a house church....and nobody is within 7 years of my age. :-|

But thanks for all the suggestions, I'll be back in a few days with 10 pts. ;-)

Answer 1

Just because your homeschooled, doesn't mean you can't get involved with local teen groups/clubs.

Find out where the local teens hang. It's usually easier to approach one single person, than a group, so I suggest you approach a kid you see walking home alone and ask them what gives in your new town and area.
Bet you make a new friend too.

Answer 2

I have a thought for you that may help you break the ice with anyone that walks by your home - wherever you may go.

You mention that you are able to see the other children walking by your house every day, right? You might have a hobby, or a talent that others may find impressive. Something creative. You're a 14 year old male... what could you do that would interest others of your age group. Masks. (Think Halloween)

There are many places (you can find them on the internet) that offer mask kits. They come with things like a mannequin head and various dyes, powdered latex (you just add water), templates, patterns, tools, instructions, etc. And they offer replacement and additional supplies when you need them. Start off in the kitchen and make a few. When you feel comfortable with the things you can create, take it outside where these kids walk by your place. You may find that some of these kids (and older people, too) would like you to show them how you do it. This will allow you to be creative, develop artistic talents, and interest those who watch you create them.

Of course, there are many things you can do. If you like computers, you could buy a book on HTML and learn how to design a web page. Write simple HTML code to allow anyone who reads it to answer questions (or place orders for items you want to sell – like the masks, baseball cards, old toys, etc.). If you do both, you can actually start your own business. Make your masks, get to know people, print out business cards and direct them to your web site where they can make special requests and buy your products. Who knows, you might be taking in a 5 or 6 figure profit by the time you’re 18.

The bottom line here is to find something you’re interested in and make it work for you. Star Trek fans have Star Trek conventions all the time. CB Radio users have get-togethers all the time almost everywhere. You’re 14, so you can already go to a few bands in the HAM radio frequencies (though you aren’t likely to meet too many kids your age in your area by doing it.) It would help you to get to know the area, the people, and you could go to local places for pizza where the kids hang out to meet with your fellow HAM operator buddies (with your folks, of course!) 

Answer 3

Peyton, you are in a similar predicament as the majority of home schooled kids. School is the best way to socialize and learn important social skills. Skills that will be invaluable in the real world. There are, however many other places you can socialize and learn these skills. There are many associations you can join in order to meet your objective. There's the Boy Scouts, the YMCA, 4H Club and many others.

The one thing you will have to do in order not to cause yourself any grief is to take it up with your parents first. Since homeschooling was more than likely their idea , they have to agree that they only way you'll learn the social skills and make the friend you need is by participating in any healthy activity that will afford you the opportunity you're looking for.

I wish you the best of luck in your endeavor!

Answer 4

You could hang outside of your house playing ball or skateboarding and when the other kids walk by simply say "Hi, my name is ___ what do you guys do for fun around here?" Or you could join a group or team and you'd find people with the same interests then. Even though you don't go to school you can still attend school games or hang out at the local mall or whatever the "cool" place is to hang out.

Answer 5

Do you have friends at church? Is there a homeschool organization close by? I know a guy about your age who is homeschooled and his mother takes him to dance classes -- hip hop, jazz, that sort of thing. He acts like he's having a blast and the girls are just crazy about him. It's great exercise and good for his social life! Hope you're having a good day :)

Answer 6

I'm 14 too, but I'm a girl, any way it must be hard not having friends. i couldn't live with out my friends because there almost the only ones i can talk to about somethings. one thing you might want to do is ask your parents if you could be put in a normal school. then you could make friend fast. but another way is just like go to parks on the weekends and hang out there. play sports there, or go to the YMCA. you could meat a lot of people there.

Answer 7

Hey, I'm in exactly the same situation, except I moved when I was about nine. I found it quite helpful to go to a church. There are tons of GOOD people in churches that will give you a good influence, and a bunch of friends. I was extremely shy back then, but now I'm not so shy, so yeah, I'd say go to church. And I know that alot of people don't want to go to church because they don't want to give up certain things in their lives. But you don't have to. For example, I'm a commited Christian and I listen to Metallica! So find a church that is fun and will accept you. Go to their youth group and have fun!

Answer 8

Like alot of these people have been saying join clubs get into some sports. If you want to make friends you have to get your name out there. When you do people wont hesitate to talk to you because theyll see that you are a cool guy.

Answer 9

try joining a gym, YMCA, or something

join sports clubs in your area.

if you are in high school, You are old enough to get a job at McDonalds. They hire at 14. You won't get a ton of hours there but you'll meet more people your age AND you'll make money

Answer 10

Pull a chair outside and read or do homework there...see if anyone says "Hi". Go to church. Get involved in hobbies, etc.