I've been trying to convince my boyfriend for 3 STINKING YEARS to get neutered. He's convinced they'll screw it up and castrate him instead. I've heard this procedure is simple and easy and not all that painful. Is it all that bad?
2006-11-09 05:45:36 · 20 answers · asked by marcia_mahoya 3 in Health ➔ Men's Health
What some men will do for a piece...
2006-11-09 05:51:11 · answer #1 · answered by Clark 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ten years ago -- second-best thing that ever happened to my sex life (meeting the woman I married being #1).
It's simple, it's easy, I was a little sore (lots less than a toothache) for half the evening after my procedure. I had Tylenol (ibuprofen thins the blood, makes it harder to heal), a couple of beers, and some extra-hot salsa -- hot peppers make your body release endorphins, nature's pain-killers.
Biggest disappointment: the procedure was done on me by two middle-aged guys talking about golf. And the shave-prep was done dry -- no oversexed red-headed nurse with a sponge of warm soapy water. Ah well.
The answer to the number one question All Guys Want To Know: "As soon as the discomfort lessens enough that you want to," is what my doctor said about how soon I could resume activities. My wife polled her friends whose husbands had had vasectomies, and they all said "about three days." So naturally, I had to beat that... 33 hours from snip to spurt -- I AM the man!!! :-)
As for fearing they'll castrate him, he'll be awake during the entire procedure (if he asks for a general, tell him he should just get a boyfriend). So he can watch the doctors and make sure they don't take out the chainsaw or the mini-guillotine. It's just a couple shots of novocain in the happy sack -- which for some guys is the worst part. First, it's COLD when they inject you, and that feels really weird. Then you go tingly and numb, but not in a good way.
The actual area they cut is NOT on the testes themselves; the cuts are on the pubic bone, on either side of the penis, in the fleshy area from which the testicles are suspended. The cuts are MAYBE all of half an inch long.
Oh, and because of the way guys are plumbed, note that he MAY still be able to get you pregnant for up to a week or two after the procedure. How this works: Sperm cells are created in the testes, and transferred from them through the vas deferens (hence vasectomy) to the seminal vesicles, which are small sacs that are filled with semen -- a mix of sperm cells with fluid produced by the prostate and the Cowper's gland. The cut is made BEFORE the seminal vesicles, and only severs the tube that brings the sperm cells, which make up approximately 1% of the ejaculate. But any sperm cells which were already IN the seminal vesicles can still be ejaculated, and therefore it's possible for a man to impregnate a woman for a few days after a vasectomy. To be safe, he'll need to have a semen sample examined under a microscope, some time after the procedure; I was told to bring a sample after ejaculating ten times. Yoru boyfriend's doctor will have the details, I'm sure.
As for after-effects -- there are none, except we don't have to worry about babies any more. Hooray! (We have three kids, love 'em all, don't want another.) I've been monogamous since before the onset of AIDS, so we went from birth control pills to the diaphragm to Let's Have Kids before we had to endure condoms; for us, "safe sex" always meant "Don't wake the baby." So I really never warmed up to condoms, never figured out how to make it feel like something other than humping a balloon (and I know there are guys who like that, but I'm not one of them).
So... In addition to any fears he may have, there is really only one reason not to consider a vasectomy, and that is if there's any chance he'll want to have kids at some time in the future. For us, we KNEW we were done -- I was 40, my wife 38, we were having our third child (we'd always figured on having two) and he was our "surprise bonus child" -- born exactly nine months after my 40th birthday. But while it's possible to reverse a vasectomy, it's REALLY involved, and there's a LOT more discomfort (a highly technical term used by doctors to mean "pain, when experienced by somebody other than me").
Other than that... a total win.
2006-11-09 20:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by Scott F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eeeks... don't call it neutered.. that's when they remove your uhh.. "beans", entirely
My sister's husband just got snipped recently the other day, he had no problem with it. He said it was slightly painful, but not enough to be a big deal. He's also said there was no change in performance.
For the record, he wasn't lying to try and convince me to do it, because my girlfriend has already had her tubes tied/burnt.. (whatever that phrase is).
He's a wuss, so if he was cool with it, it really must not be that bad.
2006-11-09 05:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by Deadguy71 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby did it...he said it was very easy, nearly painless. They gave him a "happy pill" before the surgery and he LAUGHED like crazy and talked all the way through the surgery. Then he went home and crashed with an ice pack. He needed nothing but advil for a couple of days. He wasn't slowed down by it at all. It's an awesome feeling of freedom because we can have sex anytime, anywhere without needing anything.
2006-11-09 17:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by kherome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not that bad at all, and he will never be castrated with a vasectomy. HOWEVER, he should be very sure he does NOT want a family or to father any children BEFORE he makes such a decision. I might add, that it is HIS body, and he should make the decision free from any pressure by you.
Chow!!
2006-11-09 07:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by No one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Virgina... snipping is horrible.
However it is a perminant fix to allowing the saliors to take shore leave ..... is he sure he never wants to replicate?
Alittle swelling ... like he got donkey kicked in the nuts for three days or so ... ice bags help...... they say no heavy lifting or such for a few days ......
But were all different ..... I was laying concrete block two days later.
Make sure. he's sure ... the snipping is easy .. it the retro fit later to return the flow that isn't joyful !
Have fun .. unloadin' the gun !
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2014-09-11 04:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman who has been with 2 of them. I'm fixed myself. It can make sex better because they're not worried about unwanted pregnancies anymore. My current man only has one. I felt lumps & encouraged him to go to the dr.+ he ended up having one removed. He still works fine! It is a very simple procedure. Usually in the dr's office with a local.
2006-11-09 05:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, Vasectomy is a simple operation, but man has to do it only when really conscious of what it represents. If (you and) he likes sperm and the ejaculation is an important satisfactory fact, then you had to find a different contraceptive method.
2006-11-09 06:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by whole_feelings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad had this procedure done. it is a bit painful. his balls got swollen and he had to put ice on them, but it is a lot safer for men to have that procedure than it is for women to take birth control. Birth control can cause strokes, and the procedure in for women is more complicated.
2006-11-09 05:55:59 · answer #11 · answered by pegasis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋