What do I do?

Question

I think my dad is cheating on my mom. What should I do, if anything?

Answer 1

You should talk to your Father about it.
(If it's true) you should let him know how much respect you just lost for him.

If nothing is going on then there's nothing to worry about. The worst case is that it may bug him a bit, but he'll know for sure you're mature enough to confront him on issues such as this and he'll understand it.

Whether he is cheating or not, I'd not tell your mother about it, nor hold a blackmailing time-table over his head for him to do it.

Telling your Mom is not a position you want to be in, nor if your Dad knew you told her, he'd distance you for all the wrong reasons and he'd never know it until it was too late.

Answer 2

First of all my heart goes out to you. I can't imagine the turmoil you must be in. If you think your Dad is cheating then I think you're probably right. If I were you I would try and talk to your Dad about it if you have the kind of relationship that allows you to do this. Tell your Dad that you don't want to know any details, you don't need to know who, why etc. it will only hurt you and after all you are the child not the counsilor!! Explain to your Dad that he will be hurting the whole family not just your Mom if he continues and ask him to talk to your Mom about anything that is worrying him about their marriage. Men find it real hard to do the talking thing but he MUST try if he wants to continue being with your Mom. If he doesn't want to be with your Mom it will be hard for everyone but he must face it if anyone has a chance to be happy. Try not to worry too much about it sweetie. Good luck xx

Answer 3

You really cant do anything! I went through is in my family and I told my dad! but b/c of that I was put in the middle of their divorce and had to testify against my mom in court it was awful and my relationship with my mom has never been the same!

Answer 4

Your mom probably has an idea about it already.

Have a private conversation with your dad. Tell him gently that you suspect. See how he reacts. Even if he denies it, tell him how you feel and how it effects you. He may brush it off but it may hit a nerve in him.

Answer 5

Are you close enough to your Dad to talk to him? If so, you should let him know what you're thinking and if he is, tell him he needs to STOP or you will tell your Mom.

Answer 6

Ask your dad and if he starts coming up with excuses, you might want to talk with your mom and see what she thinks. If women's intuition is right, she might be thinking the same thing.

Answer 7

You may wish to confront him with some solid evidence. If he cannot satisfy your curiosity go to mom and tell her. Any man that is having an affair and his kids become privy to them is an idiot twice over. You may be surprised and find your mom knows about his trysts.

Answer 8

You talk to your dad. If there is a reasonable explanation, no harm-no foul. However, if it is true, then you give him XX amount of time to tell your mom or else you do it. She needs to know if it is true.

Answer 9

i would let him know in a respectful way. put it to him like this ask him dad if i was married and my husband cheated on me how would you fill and how would you want me to handle that.

Answer 10

I would say, do nothing for now. Depending upon you relationship with your dad you may be able to bring it up with him tactfully if you feel you have very good evidence.