When my best friend told me that she was in a lesbian relationship with one of her other friends. I got angry because I had developed feeling for her and I let her know, she admitted to me that she had feeling for me but we decided to just go on being friends but her lover is always jeolous of me and she act like she's afraid of her. She tries to get me and her lover together as friends and I've tried to be her lovers friend just to please her. But the truth is I can't stand of lover and sometimes I think she is using me to make her lover jeolous so it can bring them closer together...I hope this is not the case.. because this woman would do anything for me...lend me money or anything I ask for.....we had lunch Sun and it was great....but her lover called and she made sure she told her that I had brought her lunch and then she told me that her lover got jeolous. I have feelings for her. What should I do.
2006-11-09 04:45:58 · 7 answers · asked by dee r 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Show her that you have feelings for her. Make the other chick get the stepping.
2006-11-09 04:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are best friends and it's not uncommon to have feelings for each other. Are you sure they are not just jealousy feelings also? Your friend simply "found" the other woman first before your feelings were known. If your friend is "using" you and it sounds like she is on purpose or not it could become just a competition. It sounds like your friend is enjoying the attention from both of you. Try to look at your relationship and separate yourself for a minute. Think outside the box so to speak. It's nothing to be angry about unless she is purposely playing the two of you against each other. One can not help what one feels. In order for the three of you to get along. The three of you must think outside the box and just take the relationship for what it is. Right now they are together. You are the friend. You've made your feelings known. Fine. It's not your place to come between them nor is it the other woman's place to come between your friendship. You may have to be the bigger person here and take the step of stepping back. You can't blame her for being jealous if your friend is insinuating to her something might be going on with you. Tell your friend to quit playing. If she's serious about this woman. Maybe she's not serious about her. In that case you still need to tell your friend to quit playing. Otherwise your friendship may be compromised. This other woman may come or go but how important is your friendship?
2006-11-09 05:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't see by your message if your of the same sex as the friends, however, male or female, discuss the issue with your friend about your feelings. Communication is a great way to clear misconceptions and problems!
2006-11-09 04:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by KC V ™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with KC"Communication is a great way to clear misconceptions and problems!" You should let her know how you feel and what you want..AND how your feeling used at times..Express that you really need to know where you two stand so you can either move on ..or move on with her..(emotionally that is) you should get a response.. Good luck
2006-11-09 05:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is common to hetro and homo.
You have to respect the wishes of the other party.
Saying NO doesn't mean MAYBE.
Find your own other and leave that one alone. Otherwise you are a stalker and a potential criminal.
2006-11-09 04:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your friend and she might start having feelings for u.
its worth a shot.
2006-11-09 04:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by taylorneil14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rape her.
2006-11-09 04:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by kevin m 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋