Are there any websites or support groups that can help all of us? I THINK my folks want to try to work through it.
2006-11-09 04:30:33 · 12 answers · asked by curious for knowledge 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
For your mom:
http://www.straightspouse.org
For you:
http://www.colage.org/
Bi means he's probably still interested in your mom, and I hope they want to work things out, too. It's good that they're being honest with you and each other. Good luck to you all!
2006-11-09 04:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not judge your father...what he and your Mom do is their business, not yours. Whatever they work out is fine for them and does not concern you....they both love you dearly. Fully 50-70% of people are bisexual-able...that does not mean they do it, but it means they can and would if social pressures were not so great. In fact, I am not so sure this figure is not low. Look at it this way...it is far safer, if you father is going to mess around, that it be with a safe guy than with a woman...he will not be leaving your Mom for another man...that happens when another woman gets involved. The "other" man is NOT competion for your mom, she knows that. We all have our quirks...one way or another...and this is your dad's .. he is allowed. But again, this is not your problem, so go about your life as if you had no idea....for in fact, unless you have actually seen this, you really don't . good luck, relax, and let it go. What happens happens, that is how life works. We would all love our parents to be icons on marble pillars, but they are not..they are no different than we are...faults, strengths, weaknesses, abilities, etc. In fact, they are....... HUMAN!
2006-11-09 13:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you search the web under "bi-sexual support groups" which will give you a lot of results to work with. You should decide which provides the best information. I also have to agree with Sheri that a lot of folks are going to be mean with their responses and you should just ignore them. You dad loves you for who and what you are....you should continue to love him as you always have!
2006-11-09 12:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by KC V ™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is going to be difficult for your Mom to work through this because if your Dad acts on his bisexual feelings outside their marriage then cheating is cheating. If your Dad wants to maintain his marriage and his family but has stated he is bisexual and had sexual relationships with both sexes in the past; then I think you can learn to understand those feelings and so can your Mom.
Whatever happens: You did not cause this. It is not your fault. You will not be bisexual because your Dad is; unless you want to be.
There is nothing wrong with being bisexual but there are simple rules of disease prevention and marital vows that pertain to the practice of any sex outside the marriage.
http://www.uncharted-worlds.org/bi/
2006-11-09 12:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how confusing this must be for you. I am in the same situation as your Dad and I want you to know I am sure he loves you. He is having a very difficult time right now I am sure. I am in the same boat me and my wife are trying to work through it and it is very difficult. You need to realize that you have nothing to do with this situation. I am sure he and your mom are trying the best they know how to in order not to impact you. If you need to talk find out from him which relatives know about him and talk to one of them they may at least be able to make you feel less alone and less isolated.
2006-11-09 12:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's still the same dad he always was, but i do understand your confusion. PFLAG (parents and friends of gays and lesbians) is a wonderful supportive organization and they have chapters all over the country and are available online. just remember this isn't about you, he still loves you this is just something he had to confront. good luck!
2006-11-09 13:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check in your area to see if there is a chapter of the national group called Parents & Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG).
They can be very helpful
2006-11-09 12:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't help with that, but try not to treat him different, he is still your dad....and I am sure your gonna get some real jerks on here, just ignore them, and listen to the ones that understand! Good luck, dear!
2006-11-09 12:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by Yahoo Answerer 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just remember your dad is your dad. That part of his life is not your business and he should not visit it on you. That issue is between your parents only
Should they part and he leaves the home to go live another life, that life should be private.
Your personal relationship with your dad should not be impacted.
2006-11-09 12:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by June smiles 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i know that it must be a bit shocking for you and your family. i highly recommend www.pflag.org. there are many chapters of this organization all over the US. check it out, it may be beneficial.
2006-11-09 12:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by Patrício Euilhã 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋