My girlfriend has confided that she wants a black male stripper for her birthday. She said that if I got her one, she would allow me one wish also, like my fantasy about her dressing up like a maid. She said that she has been faithful and would just like one fantasy and would not ask for more. She stresses that I would be the only one who benefits from her being turned on--she would attack me shortly after the strippers performance. She says that she would not do anything sexual with the stripper, but would touch his big package if I agree. If not, she would just look. Should she get it out of her system? She IS a faithful woman and is extremely open with me. She says that she is 25 this year and would like to do one crazy thing before we marry. I have had much more sexual experience than her and she thinks this would even the playing field, so that she has no regrets when she settles down. Rather than sneak around, she wants my blessing. Should I give her a dark fantasy night?
2006-11-09 04:29:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
i would honor this. that she came to you in the first place shows respect for your wishes, to allow this shows you trust her. it relaxes the 'rules' of the relationship a little, making more open, honest problems like this in the future have a better chance of being resolved successfully. respect and trust like this will last the lifetime of the relationship. if she asks for this request again at some point...that's different.
2006-11-09 04:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by Jeni 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound like you're convincing yourself in this question, and so far, the 'yes' part is winning. So if you think it's not a threat to you, then let her. If you aren't comfortable then admit it.
You really don't sound like you're ready to get married, sorry. But this sounds like you are both about sexual exploration and going fantasy for fantasy. In other words, to both of you, it's all about you and what you get in order to give.
This won't make her have no regrets.
She'll still fantasize.
You can't send a woman to the strippers to straighten her up for marriage. Being wild doesn't get out of people's systems, that's just how they are.
I may have read that wrong. If you're just a couple of people who are sexually adventurous and that's it, then alright. Good for you.
2006-11-09 06:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by KeM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your comment you state, "She says that she is 25 this year and would like to do one crazy thing before we marry." Where is the love? Sexual fantasies like those may give you more trouble than what you're asking for. Maybe at this stage in her life she's not ready to settle down because once she's had this fantasy this may set her off for more. She can tell what she won't do after this but nobody knows, not even her. You have to be careful about these situations because they can and will backfire on you.
2006-11-09 04:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This made me laugh SO HARD!!! Glad I wasn't drinking milk, or anything, my screen would be covered. LOLOLOLOL!
Anyway, are you going to a bachelor party with a stripper? If so, she should have one, too. If not, well...I think that if you will be really uncomfortable with it, let her know. BUT keep in mind that that if you deny her this, you will never be able to set foot into a strip club, EVER. I know that if my fiance said he didn't like the idea, but HE had stripper, or ever went into a strip club after that, I would be PISSED. (Double standard, inherently unfair, what's good for the goose...you get the idea!) Anyway, congratulations on your pending nuptials, and...Thanks for the laugh!!
2006-11-09 07:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, please : Do it !!! do it !!! ... drive her "crazy" !!!!!!!!
If she needs it so much just full fill her dreams ---
You can only win! May be she gets very very horny and seduces You in the same night... And --- please --- do not be afraid of the male stripper. He is --- may be ---- more attractive than You are. But those guys are mostly "gay" --- so there will be no danger. You just "take" her in the same night, because a male stripper makes us really HOT & HORNY ---- Just trust me. I know what I am talking about. My last birthday was a Roman orgie in the old
style --- and we did not regret one minute...
Viktoria
2006-11-09 04:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why not? We all know you're not the only man on the planet she will ever find attractive (and vice versa). But you can still be the only one she does anything with. It's no different than a guy going to a strip club.
2006-11-09 04:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Please do not make rules about what is allowed when fantasies are involved...how will either of you be completely happy if you are negotiating what kind of sexual practices you can carry out.
Women are CONSUMED by sexual fantasies that they cannot resolve...here is a link to help..what is the basic cause of her appetite...is a question to ask yourself...I wish you well.
http://www.healthyplace.com/Communities/Sex/sexpsych/sexual_fantasies/top10_female_sexual_fantasies_3.htm
2006-11-09 04:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by Tabor 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If that's her fantasy, I think you should support her, if I was you I would give her an entire night to completely fulfill it.
Think about it... If you really love her, why don't give her everything she wishes for..?
Society teach you otherwise, but society is not gonna live your life, and society doesn't care about you or your girlfriend, but you do... It is YOUR life mon ami.......
2006-11-10 19:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by Maverick G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a male can have a bachelor party so can a women. You should let her its better she asked you then just did it without.
2006-11-09 05:59:35 · answer #9 · answered by jwurm99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow her, because if she wants your opinion and trusts you completely then trust her for one night with no regrets. But if you dont want to, then u may feel bad afterwards because she prob. loves you too much to do it behind your back and she would be disappointed.
2006-11-09 04:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by lady_wolf_sushi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋