My girlfriend has confided that she wants a black male stripper for her birthday. She said that if I got her one, she would allow me one wish also, like my fantasy about her dressing up like a maid. She said that she has been faithful and would just like one fantasy and would not ask for more. She stresses that I would be the only one who benefits from her being turned on--she would attack me shortly after the strippers performance. She says that she would not do anything sexual with the stripper, but would touch his big package if I agree. If not, she would just look. Should she get it out of her system? She IS a faithful woman and is extremely open with me. She says that she is 25 this year and would like to do one crazy thing before we marry. I have had much more sexual experience than her and she thinks this would even the playing field, so that she has no regrets when she settles down. Rather than sneak around, she wants my blessing. Should I give her a dark fantasy night?
2006-11-09 04:28:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Music
Totally let her. My wife and I have had an utterly faithful 9 years together, yet we have been swinging for the last 5. At first this seems contradictory, but its not. The faith is about love and openness with one another, and utter trust that their love is unquestionable, and utter faith in yourself that yours is too. Mutually consentual sex with other partners, so long as you are both getting what you want out of it, and truly enjoy seeing the other person in that situation because your want is nothing more then for them to enjoy themselves, and they are able to return the same sentiment with you... Now thats beautiful, and the farthest thing from unfaithful I can think of.
What you're describing, it shows she has enough trust to voice her fantasies with you, and you trust her enough to consider them. This is a precursor to the same thing my wife and I have. You ought to be commended for being so decent and open minded about it.
2006-11-09 04:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by Psychedelico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very difficult situation you have there. I understand why you would be concerned. Despite her faithfulness to you, you do recognize the potential for error. Either on your part or hers. One thing I would suggest you do is rid yourself of this idea that the "playing field" needs to be evened. That isn't necessary. If you approach the situation from that angle, then there is bound to be problems. Speak to your girlfriend, express your concerns rather than posting them here. I understand thay you may be hesitant to address it with her, you need the support of others, but this is something she needs to know. Let her know what you fear could be the result of allowing this 'Fantasy' to take place. She has promised you that she will fulfill your fantasy- which is great. You do you. But there is an unavoidable difference between yours and hers, that is, hers involves another person. Your concern, your fear lies in her fantasy being fulfilled, or satisfied through another individual, instead of yourself. You really need to do some self exploration here. Ask yourself if this is something you can recover from. By that I mean, jot down what the repercussions of this could be. How could this affect you (and her- or rather your relationship) in a short term and long term sense. She has been faithful. And I am sure that you are a good judge of character, but you do need to realize that each action does become a precursor to another. By allowing this to happen, you may "open" a gate for other things to be requested of you. This may or may not happen. And I am not trying to scare you, I just want you to consider the consequences. But if you are confident in yourself and what you have with her, and you have invested a great deal of time in speaking to her about this. Asking her questions, finding out her concerns about this, and you feel that you are in a position where allowing this 'fantasy' to take place will not be detrimental to your relationship, then by all means- let it happen. You're young, life is a blessing and it offers you so many great things. Make use of the time you have and live it to the fullest. I know how you feel. I've been through something similar. I hope I was able to at least provide you with a way to get to the "answer" if not the answer itself.
2006-11-09 04:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by Elle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you intend to stay with this person for a long time, I would say yes you should allow this. However, remember that no matter what she says now, there can be no assurances that in the future she may not want another. Remember that fantasy is just that...fantasy. It is often true that having a fantasy is more erotic than getting a fantasy. All too often one finds oneself in the awkward situation of making a fool of ones self and feeling ashamed for that behavior. You must both be sure and secure enough to be able to recognize this and work through it. Another thing to remember is a fantasy lived is a fact and looses its luster upon reflection. Good luck.
2006-11-09 04:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by Tom H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way it's roll playing. If she says she won't touch the stripper then go for it. My cousin was a male stripper and they do turn women on. In the state of Colorado (where I live) We cannot touch a male or female stripper, for some stupid reason it's against the law and if one were to get caught it would be a $250 fine. Trust your girlfriend and enjoy the amazing experience you will receive afterwords.
2006-11-09 04:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by kim_in_craig 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she only wants to watch and possibly touch, but nothing more, then I think its okay. If she thinks it will "even the playing field," and nothing more, then go ahead and let her. If you aren't comfortable with her touching, then say that, but don't deny her of her sexual fantasy. If she's so faithful and a good woman, then there really is no problem. Plus, it seems as if you'll get something good out of the deal, too!
2006-11-09 04:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say let her go for it. You two plan on getting married and for some reason if this night changes things then it was never meant to be. You can be faithful to each other for years and end up going separate ways. So its better now than after you get married. Go have fun and have no regrets of what you are doing. You can only learn from your mistakes. Best of luck to ya.
2006-11-09 04:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by TINA R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your lady have fun on her 25th. Why not? If anything goes awry, better now than later. Sounds like she just wants to get hot and horny. Ever hear of a Bachelor party? Men get all hot and horny from female strippers.
2006-11-09 04:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by Caffeinated 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a gift you should book her the black stripper that she wants. But when you are booking this black hunk for her, just ask for one that has a tiny member. It will teach her that one can't judge how big a guys member is by the color of their skin.
2006-11-09 05:52:14 · answer #8 · answered by blackbeetlewidow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell, yeah. You get laid, a big plus (trust me, the frequency lessens after you marry and is almost non-existent once the kids come along) and the girlfriend isn't going behind your back, because you are right there watching the whole time.
Besides, you might get your groove going just watching her reaction.
2006-11-09 04:38:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For her birthday or for her bachelorette party? If you 2 want to be fair i think you should get a stripper too!
2006-11-09 04:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by Snuz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋