How can you trust that ANYONE will be truthful, when EVERYONE is capable of deceit?
How can you trust that ANYONE will be helpful, when EVERYONE is capable of neglegence?
How can you trust that ANYONE will be dependable, when EVERYONE is capable of betrayal?
If anyone can come up with an answer, please post it. If you don't know, say that, too.
2006-11-09 04:21:38 · 30 answers · asked by Black Angel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's hard to choose a best answer...
Thanx a lot to all that answered.
2006-11-13 02:23:13 · update #1
FAITH
2006-11-09 04:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by Saint 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, good question.
I see the emphasis is on ANYONE and EVERYONE, but I think the clue for the answer is in the word 'capable'.
You say EVERYONE is capable of deceit, negligence and betrayal. That is correct. But EVERYONE is also 'capable' of being truthful, helpful and dependable. which means EVERYONE is capable of doing it the good way or the bad way.
I know, in a world like this, it is hard, but that is why there is such a thing as forgiveness... to be able to give the next SOMEONE a chance!
REMEMBER:
It is much worse to not trust SOMEONE trustworthy (and miss out on a potentially good experience) than to trust SOMEONE untrustworthy (which would be a good learning experience anyway)!!
2006-11-09 16:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbeam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I asked myself these same questions about a month ago, the conclusion that I came to was, If you constantly worry about your significant other hurting you, you're the one who has put up the walls, you're the one who has put that distance between the two of you. So the best thing you can do to help your relationship stay cheat free is just believe what she says until she gives you a true reason to question her, don't make up reasons, trust her, give her the benefit of the doubt. Everyone is capable of hurting everyone, no matter how nice they are, and you probably will get hurt, but would you rather be happy for 10 years and be hurt for 1 day or would you rather spend the rest of your life alone because your terrified of someone screwing you over.
2006-11-09 12:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by psychotic_milf 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you trust that ANYONE will be truthful, when EVERYONE is capable of deceit?
I can trust that I will make a good decision when faced with deceit, even from a loved one.
How can you trust that ANYONE will be helpful, when EVERYONE is capable of negligence?
I can trust that I am capable of picking up the pieces if someone I counted on fails.
How can you trust that ANYONE will be dependable, when EVERYONE is capable of betrayal?
I can trust that I am dependable enough to be true to myself.
2006-11-09 12:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is hoping that someone or something won't let you down.
Hope is not knowing , but a feeling of what is desired. What you want to happen.
It is always a leap of faith. You take the risk or you don't: however, if you don't you can bet on being lonely and miserable. Take the closest person to you, put your trust in them and until they do all those things then keep trusting them...even when they do let you down...give them a chance to rebuild that trust. I know one thing for sure, as much as people will let you down, you will let some down as well. It is just a cycle, but in my experience one that has great rewards.
2006-11-09 12:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by heaven o 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How would we know what happiness is if we have never felt sadness....
for every negative there is a positive, that's the was life is, ying and yang,
life, love everything is a learning process, we learn from mistakes we've made and that makes us who we are today..
if everyone lived life thinking negatively there would be nothing but war and hate..
if we never felt sadness, we wouldn't know what it's like to be ecstatic, if we were never deceitful we wouldn't know what truth is, if we were never neglegent, we wouldn't know what helpful is, and if we were nener betrayed we wouldn't know what dependency is...
everything would be monotonous...
and you wouldn't have had to ask this question!
2006-11-09 12:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is easy, 3 things; 1) Time - this will earn your trust in the person that is in question 2) Faith - sometimes you have to step out on what you don't know and see what happens, 3) As you put it Trust - people will earn your trust if you have faith in them and you have time with them. Good Luck!!!
2006-11-09 12:26:10 · answer #7 · answered by jman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Through personal experiences, I can adamantly say that no one can, or should be trusted. I know this sounds overly cynical, but it's a fact. That's not to say you should shun everyone throughout your life. You just have to put people in "categories", or levels. There may be accept ions, but they would only be close family members. Always remember this rule, "once a mistake, twice a habit"
2006-11-09 12:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by isis8x3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So as to conclude, the only one a person can trust is herself/himself. I agree with what you stated. I suppose that many have been betrayed by their best friend or even family members at some point in their life. Well, to me, no one else is truthful, helpful and dependable except myself. Cheers ^_^
2006-11-09 12:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by Daffodil 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are all CAPABLE of all of those things, yes. However, the kind of person we are and the morals and values that we hold are what determine the choices we make. Most good people will try their best to be honest, helpful and dependable whenever possible. We are all human however, and we will all slip up sometimes because we all make mistakes. Its our intentions that matter.
2006-11-09 12:25:20 · answer #10 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give everyone the benefit of the doubt, within reason for your safety. Trust them first. the first time shame on them, the second time shame on you!
Trust within reason. Don't invite a crackhead to stay at your house or lend one your car, but believe he is a good person that has made mistakes.
2006-11-09 12:28:01 · answer #11 · answered by Joshuwa G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋