I had my daughter 2 months ago today and have been gradually trying to have regular intercourse with my husband.
However, there is still one specific spot that continues to feel as if it is burning or streching despite anything we try to do. It is the exact spot that the stitches from my Perineum Tear would have been.
There is no infection and the stitches have all healed, but there is almost a bump and tenderness in just one pin-pointed spot.
The Doctors are no help as to when it will stop hurting or if it even will.
Will this start to feel better over time, or is this something that will be a lifelong thing and possibly the Doctor's may have stitched it wrong?
2006-11-09 03:46:41 · 8 answers · asked by Jacq 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My friend had her baby almost six months ago, and has the same issue. Only hers is much worse. She has a bump also, like the stiches were made wrong, and six months is a long time to not endure sex. She cant handle it AT ALL the pain is so bad.
My thought is that is takes 6 weeks to heal on average, you're at about 8 weeks, and tears take a little longer than not.
If it doesnt get better in a few more weeks, or theres no progress, i would seriously tell your doctor that its a real problem and what you can do about it.
2006-11-09 03:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despite the fact that each person's going to claim the whole "make him discontinue, it can be his job", there are quite a lot of motives why intercourse hurts and it can be not always the man's fault. I am an extraordinarily petite lady like your self, and my partner is fortunately well endowed, and regularly it may possibly hurt. What motives it is the apprehension of intercourse which makes you fearful, this then explanations your muscle groups to tighten and avert any ordinary lubrication, making intercourse tricky. Although humans simply say lube will help, it could actually most effective help to this point. If you are unable to chill out, your muscular tissues will stay tight and hence you'll be unable to 'match him in'. The vagina naturally extends and enlarges to permit the penis in when fully at ease and looking sex. My recommendation to you might be to allow the swelling and tears and so forth to heal before taking part in any longer intercourse as this will rationale illness and scarring if it does no longer heal accurately. When you need sex, are trying foreplay, with touching and kissing and so on to get each other turned on and relaxed over a very long time, so while you do get round to sex it can be extra secure for you both. Additionally, when he enters you, make sure he does it slowly and that you simply still use some lube so it is at ease and your vagina can adjust to his size. I'm hoping that helps.
2016-08-09 22:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by aliaga 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every woman is different some women are fine the day after they have their baby tear or no tear, and others take months. I had a 4th and the doctor told me I could have sex at 6 weeks, well 6 weeks came and gone and it wasn't happening. What you need to do is work with your husband and gradually work your way to intercourse a little bit at a time. What helped us is using lots of Lubrication. At about 12 weeks after my baby was born and the stitches were gone we were back to normal. It still hurts down there sometimes though. The most important thing for your comfort is LUBRICATION.
2006-11-09 04:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 16 months old and it was atleast 6-7 months or longer before I stopped feeling the burn. It almost feels like there is still a little tear there. I know exactly what you mean
2006-11-09 03:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by sallymollyap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually 6-8 weeks, but everybody's different. Try going to an adult store (not trying to be nasty, but this works, I swear.) and buying some desensitizing cream. You can get it in flavors, if you want it that way.You can either ask one of the workers or find it yourself. If that's too embarrassing, go to Wal-Mart and buy some Lanacane. The benzocane is what does the trick, and it works.
2006-11-09 04:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you breastfeeding? My OB told me that when your breastfeeding it can make you less "pliable" so it feels uncomfortable. I had my daughter 3 weeks ago and I saw my doc 2 weeks after and he cleared me to have sex and its been fine except hes right it does feel a little uncomfortable not painful just weird. He said to make sure and keep some KY on hand.
2006-11-10 14:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by addisonsmom17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is 20 months old and my husband and I can only have sex in certain positions....missionary position makes me feel like i'm ripping in half...i would say try lots of lube or get another doctor to look at you
2006-11-09 04:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time, and take it easy for a while.... mine still hurts on occation and it has been a year. but it is better than before.
2006-11-09 03:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by who be boo? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋