I want to name the baby but so does he....please help?

Question

I have picked the names Bryson Dakota or Makenzii Shiian. I want my baby to have a unique name that is also pretty. He doesn't like them. He wants the baby to have a "common" name. I get to carry the baby for 9 months, shouldn't I have the right to name it or should I let him? Help. I'm stuck and I can't get out!

Answer 1

My baby was called "cutie pie" for almost a month after we had him....finally we compromised....you will work it out..be a little flexible! lol!! Congratulations!!! :)

Answer 2

I would recommend that both of you write down a long list of names that you like. Each of you picks out several names from the other person's list. Those names are then used for the baby's name. You should pick the name together. If you can't agree real well then one of you should pick the first name and the other should pick the middle name. Flip a coin if you have to to decide who picks the first name. Both of you should have an equal say. If you win due to the argument, "well I carried the baby for 9 months and you didn't." He'll hear that argument over and over and over again with you using it like a trump card and that is not good to do to someone you love.

Try finding a name both of you like. It may take a while, but it's worth it.

I personally like the names you picked: Bryson and Dakota, especially Dakota. I'm not so much a fan of Makenzii Shiian.

How about Dakota Brian? Brian is common and you could use it as a middle name. If the child doesn't like Dakota or his first name he could use his middle name in school. I think Dakota sounds kind of rugged and cool like a name some model would use.

My parents said marriage is about compromise and BOTH of you really need to compromise on a name. My parents have been happily married since 1969. They said the best advice they were ever given is never go to bed angry at each other. Stay up all night if you have to to work it out.

Answer 3

It's his baby as well as yours. Just because you are carrying the baby for 9 months doesn't give you the sole right to name the baby. You should both pick a name. You may have to compromise. There are plenty of "common" names that are pretty. Try to find one that isn't used so much any more. Maybe he just wants a traditional name. Actually right now I would say that both of the names you have picked are very common. If you name your son Bryson, you will probably find that he won't be the only kid in his class with that name. And I can't tell you how many McKenzie's or Kenzie's I know.

Answer 4

I like the Bryson Dakota, but the other name will get the kid into some teasing at school (it is too feminine sounding) - you need to think about it. Eventually, you need to compromise on names here, and let your husband participate - that way, he will feel his part as the "Family" man. Being a son, I would think that you would want his inputs. Anyway, based on the Bryson Dakota, why don't you consider a compromise such as Brian (or Bryan) Dakota (that sounds masculine - not "pretty"). After all, your husband wants him to be a boy. Good luck - just pray that the baby is healthy regardless of the name he gets stuck with. Just don't make it a name he will have to "fight" for.

Answer 5

the only reason I'm saying this is because I've recently seen a news segment that show statics of people with none common names have a less chance of employment. know granted you have a long way to go but it's good for the both of you to consider. may your unique name could be the middle. Dakota Mackenzie (correct spelling unless that was unique) and Shiian are very pretty Dakota is not that unique and Bryson don't do that to your child 1st, middle or other. besides it doesn't have to be very common it could be fun for you and your baby's daddy to pick one and agree together good luck!!and congrats!!!

Answer 6

Compromise! It seems that men like common names and girls like unique names, or at least a lot of people I talked to have had this problem. Choose the part of the name you like the most and let him pick the other part: you like Bryson but could handle a different middle name than Dakota then let him give the middle name.

Answer 7

I'd go for something that is common enough that everyone doesn't say "what?" everytime your child tells someone the name, but something that every other child on the playground isn't going to have. My goddaughter's name is Jessica, and especially when she was little, I'd call her name on a playground and almost every little girl (who was either named Jessica, had a friend named Jessica, or a sister named Jessica) would turn around and see if I was calling her/her sister/her friend. I personally like the older names like Henry and Hazel. They were common several generations ago, and not many kids on the playground would have them. Makenzii may be spelled uniquely, but there are a lot of little girls with that name. Bryson is too close to Brian. Congrats,a nd good luck!

Answer 8

I don't know what the status of your relationship is, but if it's definitely long term and you foresee your significant other being physically present for your child's life, you're going to have to compromise. While I'm sure that if you name your child without his input he won't love him or her any less, however he might hold a grudge against YOU for not letting him be a full participant in the naming. Think about it - once you decide a name, you're really going to start bonding with your child. He or she is no longer "it" or "the baby." Why not give your significant other the same opportunity to bond and choose names together?

Perhaps you could consider giving him or her a common first name and then a unique middle name or vice versa? That way, you can allow your child to choose to identify with whichever name he or she is more comfortable with growing up.

Answer 9

I am with your boy friend: Everything is in a name.

I think giving a baby weird names will only make them unhappy later in life and perhaps doom him to a life of low paying jobs - and the kids in school are going to crucify a kid name: Makenzii Shiian ( good lord what drugs were you on when you thought that one up?)

Maybe if you want to name the kid Mackenzie or Sean then name him that but not that weird ghetto spelling stuff.

The child has to live with this name all his life and it can give him a lot of difficulties and pretty much give people the wrong impression that he is low class and comes from a ghetto and has no education. He can have problems getting a decent job: imagine you are hiring a person and you get a resume with a candidate named: Makenzii Shiian. I would laugh out loud and then toss the resume. Your kid will never get his foot in the door for a decent job and he will end up calling himself Pete or Johnny or Sam to make up for the terrible name you gave him.

Answer 10

Compromise is the way to go. I gave up the unusual name I had chosen for my son at his father's request and have regretted it ever since. Kids have 2 names - you pick one and let him pick the other. And if he is really strongly opposed to the name you choose, then pick another of the 4 you like. You can call him the baby whatever you want in the long run!

Answer 11

You both created the baby so he should get to have some say in what the baby is named.......If I were you I would compromise. Give the baby one unique name and one common name. My husband and I had the same problem with our first child he wanted a common name and I wanted a unique name so we compromised and named him Dayton Ray.