i need advice
my husband loves eaither being on the playstation or the computer chatting and playing games he hasnt taken me out in over a year and he a few weeks ago was all over me white on rice wistling at me telling me how pretty i am now its like i'm non existant i feel like he hates me or something i tell him i love you in a sweet tendervoice and hes like yeah i love you too and i was like wtf was that tone and he goes to his friends telling them how terrible of a person i am and how i never cook or clean but i'm a nanny so what time do i have to do anything for him and then he only wants sex on his time and his terms . i feel like crap b/c i'm highly allergic to make up *certain brands* and i put some on to look good for him and eh comes home and says oh you look good i had to point it out to him though. i tryed ignoring him nothing theres nothingi can do to make him understand hes hurting me.
what should i do please some help
2006-11-09 03:38:14 · 15 answers · asked by glitterladybug2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I hope I'm not wasting your time with this answer as I'm guessing you've already tried, but incase you haven't: Talk to him. Not in the middle of an argument or when you two have a reason to be 'not ok' with one another, but when everything's good and you two have a few minutes where you can talk something out maturely and hopefully accomplish something. Let him know that you wish he would spend more time with you. Both time just laying around the house with you and going out. I'm sure you've at least made comments about how you wish he'd do it more. I strongly encourage you to do it when nothing is wrong though. I think a lot of people make a big mistake in waiting to bring up an issue until they're both upset with one another and the issue just gets lost in whatever petty argument they're into at the time.
2006-11-09 03:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately chatting and being on the computer games become a habit and the person get addicted very easily...well make him busy with some other stuff ,ask him to watch a movie with you or suggest a dinner out or having a walk in the park ,if he doesnt change ..you start making urself busy like him.. and give him no attention ..if he asks why tell him because I feel lonely ..that may work hopefully!
2006-11-09 03:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What made this man so selfish? I suggest getting him to go for counseling with you. Otherwise, if this keeps up, he will continue to make you feel like no one. Do not lose yourself. It is not worth it. Why should finding time be all on you to get him to do it. If he doesn't want to give you any of his time, then it's time for you to put your foot down. This situation will not get any better. He is a controlling type and that is not a good type to be with! If he won't go to counseling or at least work with you on your marriage, sweetie, do not waste your time staying with him...all he's going to do is make it all your fault. Even tho it is probably his! Good luck!
2006-11-09 03:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you asked so I'm gonna tell you.... Unplug that computer and hide the cords... take the Playstation to the Pawn shop and go buy Clinique make up. It is almost impossible for it to break you out. I have a problem with alot of makeup, but Clinique is Hypoalergenic... If he gets mad about you hiding comp. cords and getting rid of the Playstation... give them back to him, and go out alone... it won't take long to get the point across... I promise...
2006-11-09 03:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMMMMM... Leave!
Just go, it sounds like he won't even notice. Let him see how it feels. And DON'T take him back, if it didn't work the first time, it won't work the second, cause you will always keep what he has said and done to you in your mind. Find someone that is going to pay attention to you.
2006-11-09 03:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to grow up and stop being so selfish. Put your feet down and tell him how you feel. Tell him how you'd like things to be once in awhile.
2006-11-09 03:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...not to be harsh but it sounds like you bore the crap out of him if he would rather be on the computer or playing video games than playing with you.
2006-11-09 11:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start going out with your friends...Act like your single but without the hooking up with other people...Hes sure acting like your not even there why should you ...
2006-11-09 03:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump his **s ! In other words, " drop that zero and get a hero ". BTW, dont mind Mr. JP, he's probably boring as well.
2006-11-09 18:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by mathlete1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have told him how you feel and he still does not acknowledge you then leave him. You deserve a real man.
2006-11-09 08:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by Torturedsoul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋