I know this seems contradictory but I was in a bad relationship, My ex moved up here from Florida and stalks me. She keeps buying me stuff to stay with her. She works a part time job and comes home. She dont give me time to relax (she gets off work around noon and parks in front of my house, I work from home). I keep on telling her to leave me alone and she wont
I explained to her I need my time and she wont give it to me. With all the hell I been through (see my prior question) and Im considering of being back with her, but I dont need the headache. Im going to be 30 and I just wish the bull would stop. So I will ask the same question here. How do you stop the bull?
2006-11-09 03:33:25 · 16 answers · asked by null 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
, you seem to not want to hurt her feelings , you need to come out and say you don't wish to spend time with her at all, the tired from work and time, she thinks you're busy and she will find a time to fit your schedule
change your phone number and email (or block hers )
be consistent, don't invite her in or engage in conversation
prepare a letter and when you see her, walk out hand it to her and get in your car and drive off, in the letter ...tell her to cease her gift buying and coming to your resident, if she fails to do so you will seek alternative methods. just don't open an opportunity for her to come in,
if she shows up again call the police explain you have formally asked this person blah blah and would they please approach her and express your wishes to vacate the property
there's NO middle ground with her, you cant be just friends, you will have to totally cut all ties.
good luck to you
2006-11-09 05:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems like the needy type. The only way to stop the bull is to
tell her how irritating she is and all you want is a little time to yourself
instead of her constantly invading your space, if that doesn't work,
get a restraining order. Tell her to get the hell out of your life cause she's a lunatic!
2006-11-09 11:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by kz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sitting in front of your house? Constantly calling? Following you at times whereever you go? That my friend is "stalking". You'd be wise to either petition the court for a restraining order however I suspect you'll have to get the police involved first and get her into the court system.
I don't think you have any other alternative. If you refuse to have her pinched then I don't think the courts will issue an order.
2006-11-09 11:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is stalking if you've told her to go away and you don't want to see her any more. If you're 'explaining' maybe you're being too patient. It is hard to tell someone bluntly that they need to leave you alone, especially if you're sensitive and know it will hurt their feelings, but this is about you, not her. She isn't dealing well with reality and needs a wake up call. Be firm, tell her she needs to step back and look at what she's doing - tell her that you don't want her coming to your house, buying you gifts, or contacting you, and that if and when you're ready to be in touch with her, you will be. I'm not sure why you'd consider going back with someone who disrespects you so much but that's another matter. Have the serious talk with her and tell her you're not talking with her any more..and don't. If she still won't listen, maybe you could ask a friend of hers or one of her family members (gently and caringly) to talk with her about her inappropriate behaviour. If that doesn't work, you'll need to talk with someone with authority - have a lawyer draft a letter telling her that she needs to stay away from you. Stalking is illegal.
2006-11-09 11:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Essmi d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're accepting this stuff she's buying you, you're feeding the flame. Also, if you are considering getting back with her, you're sending mixed messages.
If you seriously want her gone, tell her so. If she doesn't leave call the police and get a restraining order.
2006-11-09 11:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like stalking to me; file a police report, and if it doesn't stop, get a court order for a personal protection order. Don't know what state you're in, but talk to the city attorney, it's free to get advice.
2006-11-09 11:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you will call the police the next time she does that. They will give her a warning. If she still persists, get a protective order against her. She needs to learn the meaning of the word NO.
2006-11-09 11:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order. If she still doesn't get the hint move. Or a simpler way (although this may make you look like a jerk) be mean to her. Maybe then she'll get a clue.
2006-11-09 11:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A restraining order seems fitting. Better safe than sorry.
2006-11-09 11:44:53 · answer #9 · answered by artimis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
psycho woman. Try getting a restraining order.
2006-11-09 11:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by S T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋