i know he loves me but he need to more affectionate and just a bit sweeter what do i need to to to let him know. i have already told him but it didnt work. weve only been married 2 months.
2006-11-09 03:22:33 · 8 answers · asked by j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It all depends, was he ever romantic? Did you marry a "bad boy" hoping to change him with marriage? If he's only lost a little romance, try the things you tried back before marriage, special meals, movies, playfulness, etc. Do things to take the worry of a new responsibiltiy off his mind and get him focused on you.
If you married hoping to change him--start changing yourself--he won't.
2006-11-09 03:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by theoldguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some independence going!
If you swoon around him and expect him to lavish affection, forget it, men are not really into the coochy stuff and tend to show their love in different ways like fixing something, buying you something. They aren't natural born romeo's that you would find in the hollwood movies - real life is a dissapointment when we compare what we have to the glamour of the screen.
Telling him is like a request he cannot fulfill - a man needs to be tantalized by the chase of something and the best thing you can do is to suprise him and lure him into being more romantic with you. This doesn't mean dressing in a killer outfit or wearing tons of make up, but flirting with him and being more confident in the way you are around him.
Make it a challenge for him to want to kiss you by biting and sucking on his lips - this will bring some excitment to him and he will want to ravish you. The key is that it has to be spontanious and not forced. If you go up to him and put your arms around him and if he loves you enough, he will respond. But try not to be too clingy or demanding as this frightens many men even when married as they perceive it as 'neediness'.
So this is why you need to try and be a little more independant of him too and will keep him on his toes a bit. If you are too reliable and too predictable, this can lose his interest in you romantically so the best thing to do is get out a little more and really enjoy doing something outside of the home. He will miss you and long for you more if you are out a lot more than you are already.
The plan is to make him be the one to come to you rather than you yearning for him to come to you. Give him something to chase you for like being unavailable when usually you are waiting for him to make the move. Say that you are busy with something, have some time of your own. He will be far more likely to show his affections and feelings with you the more you stand back a little and like yourself a lot more.
It takes time to master the art of seduction, but you will get there after you begin to find your own identity aside from the marriage.
2006-11-09 08:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
J, the starting point is for you to be romantic in the first place. It's always said that you can't give what you don't have. So, if you improve on your romantic virtues by being more creative, then the sky is NOT going to be your limit in transforming him in that direction. May be you should also learn some creative techniques of oral sex - trust me, it works like magic. You know, it's a give-and-take affair, so you must approach it as such. Cheers!
2006-11-09 03:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've told him and it didn't work, then he's not going to change - if you 'know' that he loves you, then he doesn't NEED to be romantic, does he?
If he's not going to be romantic, simply stop having sex with him; when he asks what the problem is, just tell him that you haven't been MOTIVATED to be sensual...tell him that he already knows why, but he chose not to do anything about it.
Or, you can skip all that and just move out now.
2006-11-09 03:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like trouble already,was he romantic before marrying him? maybe u should initiate some romanticism by setting the stage for it, start with wine and candle light or maybe a small fire in the fire place and some wine and sexy outfits for him if he wont then you know how to set things up to where he has no choice. good luck !
2006-11-09 03:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by raymond r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are in my situation, you're going to have to do all the work to get him in that mood. You be romantic and he can't do anything but to go with the flow.
He's just not the romantic type.
2006-11-09 03:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him better quality and more frequent fellatio. That will go over much bettter than nagging him.
2006-11-09 10:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Withhold tour wifely favors , then he will ask you what is wrong.
2006-11-09 03:26:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋