My wife doesnt have any hobbies. We have two kids. She has been in a serious rut the past couple of years and i want to get her something extra special. She doesnt like massages or things that a strangers will have to touch her. She is not really into jewelery. She is terrified of flying and boats. So i think a vacation is out. I would love some good advise or suggestion on what to get for her for Christmas? She is a great mother on the brink of a breakdown. She has been a at home mom for 2 years.
2006-11-09 03:16:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did a scavenger hunt for my wife (she's a lot like yours). I got a sitter for the kids. I gave my wife a note to meet me at a flower shop where I gave 12 roses and another letter. The letter told her to go to Victoria's Secret, where I arranged for them to have a bag waiting for her. She had to put it on there in the dressing room and inside the bag was another letter that told her to meet me at our favorite restaurant. After dinner, I told her I had to go to the bathroom, but I really went to a hotel. 10 minutes later, the waiter gave her a letter to meet me at the hotel. Once she got there, she came up to the room and there were lit candles. I took her clothes off with the lingerie underneath and made love to her, and then we spent the night, ordered room service in the morning, and went home smiling :-)
2006-11-09 03:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by TrainerMan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OOOhhh hunny! Get that woman out of the house! I know that may be next to impossible, but she really needs to get out of the house & do something, anything. It's called cabin fever & it happens to the best of us trying to be the best mom we can be. Unfortunately we don't catch the signs of depression & it when it sets in it takes over quickly. A vacation isn't out of the question by the way... perhaps you could plan a vacation by driving to your destination. Although & obviously it shouldn't be too far a drive that it takes most of your time to get there. Find a good hotel with a hot tub in the room for a romantic dinner. Then get her out of the room & go sight-seeing. If you can perhaps take a vacation that doesn't include the holiday in it, you'd be better off.. as far as rates & tons of people driving all over. The hustle & bustle might be a bit overwhelming for your wife.
No matter what you do or where you go... just get her out of the house. :) She should concider if possible... to get a part time job doing something. It doesn't have to be a huge ordeal, but she needs something to do outside the home that doesn't involve kids, or house hold things.. ie: cleaning, cooking or whatever. Even a couple hours a day, 2-3 days a week will be better than just staying at home constantly.
2006-11-09 11:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by its_me_horses 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off all women are different, but if you'd like a suggestion here goes:
Find a family member or trusted friend to watch your 2 kids for a weekend. Make reservations at some cute little B&B or a nice hotel in a place that means something to her. Instead of paying someone to pamper her do it yourself. Spend the entire weekend doing only what she wants to do, let her know how much you appreciate her being such a wonderful mom to your children and how much you love her. TALK.....I will say that again TALK and listen to what she has to say. Find out what she thinks she needs to help her get out of this rut, and then do whatever you can to make those things happen for her. The BEST gift a man can give his wife........ himself. His time, his love, his attention, completely without holding back.
Just one woman's opinion.....SMB
2006-11-09 11:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by sbourque79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On christmas morning wake up early with the kids and make her breakfast in bed. Then open presents and clean up the whole mess. Silp away and fill up a bath for her and take her to it. While she is in the bath make your christmas dinner with the help of your kids or make sure thay are occupied. This would be the best present for me. No cooking, cleaning or listening to kids scream or banter. Also see what you can do for New Years and give it to her on christmas. Like rent a hotel for the two of you and get a babysitter, then take her to a nice dinner. Somewhere fancy so she has to dress up. Sometimes being a Mom all the time makes you forget you are still a woman.
2006-11-09 11:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by Me, again 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, from what you said.....His and hers cemetary plots.
It just might be the thing that makes her appreciate all the good things she has in her life or something that she secretly wants but will not ask for. And their easy to wrap up and hard to exchange. Try a little humor, like they say "it's not as easy as it looks" being a stay at home mom. She has lost a lot of her individuality serving the family, she needs something that will put into perspective that. Create a crisis scenario where she is the superhero, today so by Christmas she will be involved with her life again.
2006-11-09 11:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by Outside the box 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.) Hire a babysitter, for the night.
2.) Clean the whole house (so when she returns it is done)
3.) Turn off all the lights and radios.
4.) Put an oil lamp in each room.
5.) Prepare or purchase a great dinner and serve her fine dining style in your dining room.
6.) Run her a really nice bath, stick around just long enough to wash her hair and her back, pour her a drink and leave her soaking in a lamp lit bathroom.
7.)But some KY scented massage oils, you don't need to massage her just slowly rub the oils into her skin while she lies quietly on a big soft throw on the living room floor.
8.) while rubbing the oils tell her the truth about how you love her, whisper softly.
9.) slowly make love (SLOWLY is key) tell her how great she really is the whole entire time. Let her know why you admire her.
10.) Go to bed naked (both of you) rub her gently including running your fingers slowly through her hair as she drifts off to sleep.
Simple things like a towel warmed in the dryer, make the entire night about her and her only, show her your heart and let her see a really soft and wonderful side of you... make it romantic to the core and she will wake up the next morning feeling secure and loved.
2006-11-09 11:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My suggestion would be to set aside a day just for her. Let her know she's appreciated; prepare a special dinner with her favorite food, and maybe rent a movie that you think she will like. This will show her that you really pay attention to her interests and to what she wants. Maybe you could even write her a poem to express how much you appreciate her sacrifices and hard work during all of your years of marriage. These things that come from the heart, I think, are the best kinds of gifts.
2006-11-09 11:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by Persephone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for me, i am also a stay at home mom and i would won't to sit by the tree with cup of coco.And you telling her how much she means to you and you appreciate her very much and love her and talk about the old days like when you two first fell in love and when you guys use to date . The birth of the kids how it made you feel and what she felt. That means ever thing to us.
2006-11-09 11:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by stephanie_kanode 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have yourself and the kids work on a project for her for being such a great mom and wife. Some sort of an "award". Make it very personal.
2006-11-09 11:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Somebody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A night out on the town!!!!!! Better yet, drive to your closest city and spend the night. Nice dinner, show, and alone time with you. Leave the kids at home.
2006-11-09 11:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋