I'm not about bashing, I'd just like to know why. Booty call? Because it was there? Problems at home? What? Also, was it worth it? I define cheating as any innappropriate physical and / or emotional relationship with someone other than your spouse / significant other. I'm looking for candid comments from adults, so no silly replies from teenagers or adults unable to act their age...
2006-11-09 03:06:02 · 8 answers · asked by Le_Roche 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I specifically asked for a man's point of view, I've already heard from enough women. Yes, cheating allows for equal opportunity. Again, I'm just asking for honest answers.
2006-11-09 04:17:04 · update #1
Interesting comment Dano; personally, I know a few women (myself included) whose sexual appeites for their husbands increased after marriage, but their husbands' declined. I'm not disputing what you're saying, it's another perspective.
2006-11-09 04:22:11 · update #2
Most of the time men cheat for the same reasons that women do something is missing, they have picked the wrong mate, or maybe they just have a sex problem they can't control. However this never justifies breaking a persons heart or leading them on in hopes of a honest relation ship.
2006-11-09 03:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by William R 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK, serious answer. I think it is impossible to give a single straight answer to this question. Having seen enough of it in a third party role it would appear that the best reason is confusion and desperation. I have never witnessed a booty call or known anyone so Ice cold enough to cheat just for the physical satisfaction. so I cannot comment on that option. So, confusion and desperation, Take for example, your married and really do love your partner but a very important part of the relationship is lacking or missing, Passion, Sex, or Butterflies. you meet someone who has similar problems, already a dangerous mixture. and wham! it happens, temporary companionship, might be alcohol mixed in but that is not the reason, just the excuse and not a very good one. But I think the major reason is a fear of walking on egg shells and not talking about problems before they lead to someone cheating. Hope this answer helps you a little.
2006-11-09 11:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by Charlie 1967 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
A REAL MAN will not cheat. Maybe it's the men that a number of women seem to like that always do them wrong, the Bad Boy Thuggish type. I don't cheat... Men do what they do because it's all that society has presented to them. A number of things were instilled in them from youth and it just carries over into adulthood. The problem is not was they are doing, it's why they do what they do, the thing at the root.
2006-11-09 11:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Understanding 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't cheat (in this marriage) . Previously in another I did after her second time of cheating on me (that I know of). However in defense of many men they go into marriage with a female that they are having sexual relationship with. The sex is good and often with the woman appearing to enjoy it as much as he. Following the marriage the woman many times is unable or unwilling to keep up the charade of enjoying sex. Therefore the intensity and frequency drops to a level which is far below that desired by her mate making him much more open to another and in view of the deception by his wife in luring him with a false display of sexual desire he feels somewhat vindicated in seeking that please elsewhere. It doesn't make it right but it is more complicated than just being open to have sex with anyone at any time. Sex isn't the primary concern in a relationship but this deception is in fact dishonesty.
2006-11-09 11:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by dano 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I never did in ninteen years.But as my wife became less and less loving given the chance I probly would have jumped at the chance to be with someone who cared about me at all.She has moved out and I am moving on.I glad I never cheated but looking for a new life partner starting the day she left.Moving on with a vengence!
2006-11-09 12:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
just need someone to care 4 u n someone who will support u everytime u r down espcialy when u r millions miles away but u must know the limitations and up to where point ur going, u must put a border. u must always know where is ur place n u must be honest to that fella about this relationship nothin really serious
2006-11-09 11:18:19 · answer #6 · answered by jov 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
New data suggests that women cheat as much as men do. So, this question isn't just for the "fellas."
Peace out.
2006-11-09 11:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by TrainerMan 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I define cheatting as not giving your partner what they want and need and if that is the case.then 1000's of women are waiting to fill the void.or vice versa.....
2006-11-09 11:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋