what should I do, there's a good possibility that it is mine, but i'm too young to know anything about being a parent and how should I tell my parents
2006-11-09 03:04:20 · 39 answers · asked by chris 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Maybe you should have used protection! There's not much you can do about this NOW. I'd wait to see if she's pregnant for sure (or just wanting attention) before you tell your parents. But if she is, tell your parents immediately. They'll just be more mad if you wait. You'll have to wait until the baby is born if you want a paternity test. Good luck and hopefully this teaches you to USE PROTECTION.
Oh and whether she gets an abortion or not is HER decision. Don't try to tell her what to do, it will probably only push her the OTHER way. It's her body and she will make that decision.
2006-11-09 03:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Just tell your parents. You are too young to be a parent, but you had sex. You shouldn't have sex if you aren't ready to be a parent. But what's done is done and now you have to figure out what to do. You are just as responsible for this as the girl is. I think one of the worst things you can do is question whether the baby is yours or not. Unless she has said that she's not sure it is or you truly know that it could be someone else's. If she's not sure it is yours then when the baby is born you should have a DNA test. It doesn't sound like you love this girl, so marriage is probably not the best idea. Does she want to keep the baby? If she keeps it and you are the father you will be legally responsible for the child. Adoption would be the best solution. Then you and the girl could both finish growing up before you start families and some couple who has probably been desperately trying to have a baby can finally be parents.
2006-11-09 03:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, its only been a month since you had sex with her. I would wait for a bit to make sure she is pregnant before you make any firm decisions.
If there is just a "good chance" that you're the father get a paternity test done (if she is even pregnant and has the baby). Just a side note....pick nicer girls to be with, if you're just one of many she's not a girl you want to get too attached to.
If you're not ready to be a parent, keep this in mind the next time the thought of sex comes up. Take more precautions, or just wait until you feel you could handle any outcomes from being sexually active.
Good luck!!
2006-11-09 07:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I understand how you feel. My sister and her now husband were your age when they had their first baby. First go to the Family Planning Clinic near you together and have them do a pregnancy test. Make sure she gets all her prenatal care, the clinic can help with that. Depending on her home situation she may not get full welfare coverage, my sister only got some medical coverage and childcare so she could finish high school, which she did, on time. Once you get the results back from the test you should both talk to each of your parents, and yes there may be some serious anger and disappointment but having a united front and being honest is the best for both of you. Once the baby is born you can see about having a paternity test done to ensure it is your child. Be honest and support her until you know for absolutely sure the baby is not yours. I wish you the best of luck. I was the first one t know for sure about my sister and she and her boyfriend(husband now) talked to our parents. Don't let her face her parents alone because in some homes the consequences can be devastating, I had a friend who told her parents alone and it wasn't good. I can not tell you enough to be honest with her parents and yours.
2006-11-09 03:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by Diana H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There isn't very much you can do, except find out first if she's actually pregnant. You can't do paternity tests until the baby is born.
The key thing to consider is how ill prepared you are for this so-easily avoidable outcome, if she's actually pregnant. I'm sure you've heard of birth control, like condoms. Ask yourself what the hell is wrong that you didn't get the message. If she's pregnant, you should probably inform your parents of this, so they can consult with the girls parents. If she's not pregnant, think this over carefully and remember the fear the next time you decide to dip your wick without a rubber.
2006-11-09 03:08:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't want to sound like a parent, but If you have a good relationship with your parents, you need to tell them. My son is 17 and he can talk to me about everything. They are going to say you should have used or condemn or you shouldn't have had sex at all. Expect the lecture. It's coming. Don't be afraid to ask for their help. They will support you no matter what. All parties involved need to get together to find out if you are the father. The rest is up to you. Good Luck.
2006-11-09 03:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by kayjay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These are things that you should have thought about BEFORE you started having sex you need to be in the position make sure your parents know that you may be the father of this baby, and after the baby is born you need to get a paternity test. You kids need to be prepared for the consequences of your actions, if you insist on having sex use a condom, because pregnancy and STD's are not something you want o be dealing with at your age. Use your head adults don't insist on this for their health.
2006-11-09 03:17:14 · answer #7 · answered by canegirl0700 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look bud! If you were old enough to rumble in the sack with her, you're old enough to accept the consequences for your action. Don't want to act and be treated like an adult one minute, then say, "But I'm just a kid" the next.
You're not the first this has ever happened to. Just be upfront and honest with your parents. They may yell and scream at first, but, once they have cooled off, they will probably try to help you and she, along with your options. I would let them know ASAP, because the longer you wait, the more it is going to eat at you. You may try to hide it from them, but parents have a way of knowing something is not right with their kids.
Sorry if I sounded a little too calloused in my opening remarks. I do feel for both of you, and pray that God will give you his wisdom and strength in this matter. But, you knew there was a chance this would happen when you two slept together, especially if neither one of you took the preventive measure of not having any protection available. That was an action of an adult, and you cannot pick and choose when you want to be treated like and adult, and when you want the advantage of being an innocent kid who didn't know any better.
2006-11-09 03:12:46 · answer #8 · answered by rhino 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You're going to have to tell them, there's no way around it.
First off, find out as much as you can from the girl- when she's due, of course, what her thoughts are, but also find out stuff about HER. Your parents are going to ask about this girl and you will look like an idiot if you just keep saying "I don't know".
Be prepared for a frank discussion about sex and babies, as well as any plans for your future. If you don't know how you feel yet, just say "I don't know how I feel about this yet".
Your parents will be upset, yes, but take their punishment like a man and they will respect you for it. Stay calm. Remember, if you want your parents to treat you like an adult, you have to act like one. This means keeping control of your emotions and not making excuses for bad behavior.
Good luck.
2006-11-09 03:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by Milana P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's hard - you need to talk to your parents and ready or not, you are a parent. Sex, even protected sex can lead to pregnancy. I got pregnant on three different forms of birth control - the pill, the condom and the diaphragm. Part of the responsibility of sex is bearing the responsibility that should a child be born, you take care of it for the rest of the child's growing up years.
It's not the baby's fault for being here after all. As far as telling your parents, please visit Carenet - they will counsel you and your girlfriend about this.
2006-11-09 03:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by meoorr 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋