If you were or are a teen mom?

Question

I am just wondering if you:
1) Got pregnant because you didn't have proper sex education
2) You knew everything about how to protect yourselves from pregnancy and still didn't anyway because of pressure from the guy
3) You didn't protect yourself anyway because you somewhere wanted to take the chance?

Would it have made a difference if you mother had taken you to an Ob/Gyn and put you on birth control? Would it have made a difference if your school taught you how to properly use a condom and to use it always?

Also, did you come from families that expected you to go on to college, or did you expect you'd go to college? I am just wondering how much education factors into the equation.

So if none of the above, then why?

And I am 24, through college, and have applied to medical schools. It was just drilled in my head from a young age to use protection and NEVER get pregnant before college was through, so I just wanted to know how it was for those who did get pregnant young and how education played into the whole decision-making or prevention process.

Answer 1

I was 17 years old when I got married and 20 years old when I had a baby boy. My dad asked me not to get married but to go to college instead. " Any college I wanted to, because you will never go back to school if you get married!" I promised I would...and I did...., but it was the hardest thing I ever did. You can't study or do homework when the baby is awake, so I had to wait till he was asleep for naps and at night. I always put my baby first. That didn't give me much time to study and rest my-self....I took two years of college and plan on finishing it this year starting in the spring. I took some time off to really be just a mom, like my mother did. I want to be able to provide well for my baby and myself. I am divorced now, so its imperative that I do something. I wish I had listened to my dad. But I wouldn't be blessed with my son which keeps me on my toes, and I love it.

Answer 2

Im a Teen Mother. I got Pregnant at the age of 16 and had my daughter when i was 17. Yes i knew all the proper sex education. But for my boyfriend and I which is my husband now, we used a condom and it broke. I didnt get on birth control until right after I had my daughter b/c i has to have someone else take me to get on it my mom was to imbarriced. I Just got my ged from droping out and planned on going to college as soon as im able to sign up. My mom has been help me through everything tho and has exccptted the fact and always been there for me hoping for the best. She is even in college almost ready to finish. The School i went to did make you take 2 classes of sex education and even gave out free condoms. So far as a teen mother i could say it really hard at time but always has it up and downs as well.

Answer 3

I got married before I had children, at 16. It was my choice 2 marry my husband (although it took 5 years 2 realize what an *** he really is) at that age. I had my daughter when I was 19 (after having 2 miscarriages) and I had my son 3 month's ago and I'm 20. I think that it doesn't matter what age you are when you have kids, what matters is if you are responsible enough to take care of them and I do believe being educated enough does mean alot when it comes to having sex. I would have waited to have sex until I was married or 18, but unfortunately that choice was taken away from me at 14 years old. Sometimes you don't have a choice in the matter. Therefore, that question has many answers.

Answer 4

I was 19 almost 20 when I had my son. I always knew about sex ed - and was taught properly. My mom had taken me to the gyn at 15 to be put on birth control to regulate my periods. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 17. I always wanted to go to college and my parents always expected me to go.

Education is a HUGE factor. I have not gone back to college - and believe me - it's very hard to get a decent job w/out any college! I am planning to go back in the spring! Are you pregnant now? How old are you?

Answer 5

I had my first baby when I was 17 with my high school sweetheart.
I dont think any of your answeers 1-3 fit my situation, but I can tell you that I came from a family who barely knew I lived and breathed most days. I am 27 now.
My parents knew I was sexually active at the age of 15 but they never said lets get birth control, this is wrong ect.....
My sexual activity was accepted, so I never thought of it as wrong or life changing. My parents did not raise me in a Christian enviroment, which I thank God I found a wonderful church and great mentors now! When you are 15/16/17 and your parents let you run wild, all the kids envy you in high school so with out restraints you tend to live it up!
My hubby and I are still married with 5 kids! Our family is our everything, however the road hasnt been easy (having kids so young). My parents were divorced, alcoholics, drugs ect

Take from that what you will!

Answer 6

I was a teen mom. I did have proper education and I used it too.(i was on the pill)

My school, a catholic school, taught all about how babies are made and how to prevent pregnancy. -- the options form the pill to a condom and how to use it -- in detail.

I got pregnant anyway (i won't get into details)
The fact remains that if you have sex you may get pregnant. Of course the chances are so much reduced using protection. I was the only one of my friends who became pregnant.

My family fully expected me to go to college and I have. I delayed it until my daughter was in school but now I am attending university.

I was a teen mom from a poor area of my city and faced much scorn from people buying into stereotypes.

Answer 7

I was put on the pill at age 14 because i was a pretty girl going to a catholic uniform high school ( short skirts knees highs white tops ties think britney spears in her first video) i never had sex even tho i was on the pill till i was 18 and that was purely my choice and me being studborn
We accually didnt get taugh sex ed because of the whole catholic school thing

Answer 8

i was a teen mother i had my oldest son at age 17.i did have the proper education about protecting myself .but when your young you go through so many changes mentally especially when it comes to sex and peer pressure.i was a chance taker.when i first had sex i thought i was so in love with my kids father .i thought i knew everything and noone could tell me any different.i was raised up in a house with alcohol parents .dad in and out of jail.mom taking care of us most of the time.so basically there was no parental guidance in my life.i lived in a fast paced world so all of these things felt so natural to me .i am 29 years old i have two beautiful children.i wouldnt change having them for nothing in this world they are my everything.but if i knew then what i know now i would have waited to have my children.i would have waited until i was at least more financially stable then i am at this point in my life. my oldest son is a great kid he is 11 years old and we both listen to the same kinds of music i am agood friend to him and he is to i .but i also am his mother and what mother says goes i am growing with my children and i love it. there are so many things young women should know lots of teenage girls have this big dream they will fall in love with the man of there dreams have lots of children live a happy life yeah thats what i thought.its not about your dream honey its about learnig to be real and wise.nothing is garrunteed in this life.i am a single mother raising my boys with my parents help still to this day and i thank god i have them to day to show me how to be aparent to my children even though they werent good parents to me they feel they have to make up the lost time they lost with raising us with our children.with there help i am learning to be a great mother to my children

Answer 9

What?? Why all the questions. I got pregnant when I was 19 and am married to the father now and hoping for another one.

Answer 10

the most important thing is to have parents that you can talk to about anything and they listen objectively without criticizing while helping you and loving you whatever the outcome.