How I really mean this, is yes, I can appreciate the physical appearance, and find a guy sexy. Does that typically mean anything other then, yeah, that dude is hot.
2006-11-09 02:43:10 · 33 answers · asked by Ben W 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Men aren't blind, they can admire and appreciate someones appearance without it being sexual. In our culture it is taboo for heterosexual men to ADMIT they notice other guys as being good looking, and in fact are conditioned to say the opposite. Humans look at members of the same sex to see what "works" and is appealing, for straight people its a way of keeping competitive.
If you fantasize about attractive men and you being with them, then you MIGHT be gay or bi. If that is the case, the pieces will fall together at your own pace, and there is no need to rush something that isn't quite there yet.
2006-11-09 02:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by jack b 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are gay. My boyfriend is always pointing out hot girls when we go out and saying how sexy they are. I mean I we as gay men can still appreciate a sexy woman. I just would never want anything with one.
I think that everyone can tell whether someone or not is handsome.
There is a double standard between men and women. Just think how many girls are talking about their friends and how good they look or hot? If you as a guy say that, that is automatically gay. Like one of the responders said. Which is not true.
You are not gay because you can say, "yeah that guy is good looking/hot." Because then I would be straight and I'm so not. Now if he turned you on than maybe you are bi, but I doubt that. I think you are straight calm down.
2006-11-09 03:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by Alim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have been scared into thinking that only women have the right to see a man as attractive. It is not gay to find another man sexy. Remember that women can always tell you who the other beautiful and/or sexy women are.
This double standard is no longer valid. If you think another man is sexy, that is nothing more than your opinion and is just as valid as any other opinion that you have. It does not make you gay or anything else besides human.
If you think about it, why do we men watch movies that star good looking men? We might have been afraid to talk freely about what makes a man good looking, but we all know what one looks like.
Look at the link in my source list and you will see that men are changing and want the same freedoms that women enjoy today. While the site talks a lot about clothing, the goal is to regain total freedom for men just as women have today.
Take care,
Troy
2006-11-09 03:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can. Being mindful of a mans' physical form is not gay, it is merely an appreciation. Many straight men can and do find other men attractive and yes, even sexy, but that is merely an appreciation not a sexualized admission. Far too often we have sexualized the simplest compliments and turned them inside out and upside down.
A compliment, a glance, a small nod, these are not sexual in and of themselves unless followed through. They are merely acknowledgements of anothers' prowess, form, beauty, or whatever.
As the old saying goes: "if your mind is in the gutter to begin with, there's no use using it to clean the house"
2006-11-09 03:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is OK to find another guy sexy. Even if it is gay, it's still OK. As a matter of fact, if it is gay, it is very OK.
2006-11-09 03:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that it depends. Society has taught many (or even brainwash many) to believe that a male saying that another male is sexy seems wrong. In fact, if you are confident in yourself and find another person of the same sex attractive, just dont care for everyone else's opinion, they do not live your life, you do! As far as being something gay to say something like that, you have to ask your self that question, because you decide what you want from life, in every aspect of it.
2006-11-09 02:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by lyre5 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Depends you could be Bi / Gay if you are doing more than just appreciating the appearance of a guy .
If your have fantasies of a sexual nature etc.. I'd say your either Gay or Bi
2006-11-09 03:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by nygayart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you.
I think you can appreciate physical beauty without being gay. But I don't know....because I've never found another male attractive. I would say though....that if your appreciation of his physical appearance includes feelings of arousal and attraction that you are probably gay.
But it's all okay nonetheless.
2006-11-09 03:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by Barrett G 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
there's nothing wrong with admiting someone is hot, now if you're thinking about this while masturbating thats gay lololol, i can admit as a gay man that gina torres (xena.herc, cleo 2525, marrix 2/3, firefly, serenity) is the perfect woman, but its like admiring a monet
2006-11-09 05:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy who has eyes can see if another guy is attractive or not. That doesn't mean you want to make the guy your life partner or anything. Women recognize each others beauty all the time. Whats the difference?
2006-11-09 02:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋