She is not feminine, so 'mom' variations are out, but we don't want our baby to go to school calling my partner 'daddy' and then be teased by other children. Does anyone have any good ideas for other terms?
2006-11-09 02:34:37 · 29 answers · asked by rowan.rayne 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My partner and I had the same problem...... we haven't exactly came up with a specific answer yet...... First I was Auntie Kinya or Mama K and then the more we started going around my family it evolved into Ka or KK (a child hood family nickname) so I think that if you don't focus on it too much something will eventually evolve. Being masculine or feminine has nothing to do with it though. Although I am not exactly masculine-- I am not all that feminine either. It may seem like you are alone, but you are actually in good company. Good luck in whatever you choose to do.
2006-11-09 05:11:41 · answer #1 · answered by ~T.O.M.B.O.Y.~ 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
How about her name...
2006-11-09 03:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
This seems distinctive observing the family individuals. i comprehend toddlers who call one discern via their first call, some that decision the two mom or Dad. I easily have pals with 3 toddlers who call one mom and one Mama. this might often advance needless to say because of the fact the baby grows up. Congrats on your new addition!
2016-10-21 13:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tuff one. i can't believe it's something i haven't thought of yet so lets see.... You could whilst your child is growing up use the term MUM for the both of you but also teach the little one your first names that way if your both in the room the little one can call for one of you specifically.
If that's not an option then perhaps just plain and simple you can be called mother and your partner mum. there isn't much else left unless you decide to use a different language for the word mum for one of you like Maman which is French for mum etc.
Good Luck !
2006-11-09 02:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I don't think it should matter if she is "feminine". She is still a woman, and a mother to the baby. The situation will pose some difficulties for the child anyways as he/she gets older, and calling one parent by a strange name that is not recognized by society will only accentuate that. I think Mama, or something similar, would be completely appropriate.
However, if she is strongly opposed to going by a variation of mother, maybe the child should call you both by your first names, so there is no sense of unevenness in your relationship to the child (as in, "This is my Mom and this is Laura").
Congrats on your baby!
2006-11-09 02:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by biogirl 3 · 5⤊ 5⤋
Nope
2006-11-09 06:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by georgeewert 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I like mamu
Kind of a gender neutral mother name.
2006-11-09 04:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Call her by her first name.
2006-11-09 03:01:57 · answer #8 · answered by June smiles 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I'd have to go with her first name, if not aunt. Aunt does imply a familial bond and is not quite so questionable as saying Dad, Step dad or something of the sort.
2006-11-09 02:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 3⤊ 5⤋
Jewish lesbian parents will sometimes use 'mom' and 'ima' (Hebrew for mother). Something like that might work, especially if one of you have ties to another language or culture. If not, 'ma' isn't very pretty and certainly doesn't sound feminine to my ear. ;-)
Kids sometimes find pet names of their own, anything like that could be encouraged.
2006-11-09 02:58:17 · answer #10 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 2⤊ 5⤋