and i told him how i felt about it. he told me it beacuse of the way i act. and the name calling. i think i act ok. it is very hurtful
2006-11-09 02:24:56 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i really want to leave him but he keep tell me he is sorry
2006-11-09 02:28:29 · update #1
I'm very sorry to say this, but if he won't stop, as much as it may hurt, its time to let him go. Verbal abuse is ABUSE. And sometimes worse than physical. If he won't stop now, your relationship will continue to always be like that. There are guys out there that don't verbal abuse. You have to decide now that you are worth him not verbally abusing you and if he doesn't like the way you act, then he really doesn't like you. Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness, and respect. Don't you agree.
2006-11-09 02:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Elvira 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is already your fault according to him. So you know what will happen next? He will start hitting you because everything that will happen in your relationship will be your fault. You cannot change him, and you should get out of the relationship now. If you stay and have children with him, it will only get worse, as you will be in a situation that will be next to impossible to leave. This will not be the only help you will need the longer you stay with him. Next time you could be in the emergency room being treated from a beating he gave you. Been there, done that. I was lucky because we didn`t have kids, and I was able to walk away from it. Some women choose to stay only to be killed by their boyfriends or husbands, because they "love him." How about loving yourself? Do you have such low self esteem that you want to be belittled and humiliated and later the possiblity of being beaten? If you choose to continue to stay, it will be your fault if you choose to stay in an abusive relationship.
Oh, I saw you wrote he always says he is sorry. He sure is sorry. He is a sorry excuse for a human being. He will always tell you this to get you to take his sorry a$$ back.
2006-11-09 10:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you act "a certain way" does not at all mean he can verbally abuse you. As an adult he should calmy address his concerns, so that you can work it out together, but in no way does it validate verbal abuse. Nobody derserves that, why should you?
Talk to him, address your concerns, tell him there is a better way to communicate, and the way he does it is hurtful. Tell him you are willing to work on your "faults" if any, if he is also willing to work on his verbal abuse. If he cannot do this, move on. Everyone deserves a healthy adult relationship.
Hang in there and good luck.
2006-11-09 10:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by imix3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two words LEAVE NOW. Verbal abuse can lead to physical and emotional abuse as well as dominating behaviour. If he says he is sorry it will only happen again. Sorry indicates that you will NEVER do it again.
I suggest leaving, it is easier said then done but wait until he is out or something and call a relative and leave, get out of the relationship, you will love yourself for it.
2006-11-09 10:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Lizzie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out now!! My abuse started with verbal then once we got more serious it became physical. The man almost killed me in front of my children. There is no reason for him to disrespect you like that. He is your BF and he needs to act like it and show you respect. DEMAND respect or leave him because you deserve better! They always apologize but they usually do it again. If you want give him another shot but I am sure it will eventually happen again.
2006-11-09 10:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by cmsmith114 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get out of the relationship, you have done nothing wrong to deserve the abuse, the problem lies with him and his lack of control over his emotions, the only reason why he tells you he is sorry is because he knows that answer works for you but he still continues to have the same patterns of behavior because it has already been accepted, take a stand and tell him sorry doesn't work anymore and that you will no longer accept his abusive behavior and that you are checking out of the relationship for good....
2006-11-09 11:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even oprah said that that is one of the first signs that a man will treat u bad in the future! on television a woman got burnt by her own husband (and survived), and it all started with verbal abuse! then isolation from the family....
so dump him, b4 its to late! u deserve someone much better, than will treat u like an angel, no matter what u say
2006-11-09 10:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by sabinaauchi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He suffers from what is called an Inferiority Complex, and the only way he feels important is by putting you down. You deserve better. Leave his pathetic behind and you'll be happy. Keep in mind that such people do not change so don't hold your breath waiting for him to.
2006-11-09 10:29:15 · answer #8 · answered by vanityspice 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dump him...you can get someone that will treat you much better. You don't deserve that at all. What a jerk!!!! Keep in mind that sometimes verbal abuse turns into physical abuse...get out while you can.
2006-11-09 10:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a man I can tell you this is very degrading and demeaning behavior on the part of your boyfriend. I would ask him if he would talk to his mother or anyone he respected in this manner. If you really mean something to him why does he not treat you with respect? He sounds immature and should talk to a professional about his abuse before it gets physical. Good luck.
2006-11-09 10:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by azjimhowe 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋