I'm going through an unsettling period of not really living anywhere permanently and looking for a job, I've just finished uni and not sure what to do with my life. I've lost confidence in myself and unhappy with my looks...yet I have the man of my dreams who is so lovely and loves me just the way I am, why isn't this enough?! Should being in love mean I don't care about these things?!
2006-11-09 02:05:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Being in love doesn't mean losing yourself. Who ever told you that a man can solve all your problems?! You are still a person in your own right, and of course you want to fulfill your goals as well as being someone's girlfriend.
Best of luck- that's a difficult time of life, I've been there, but give it some time. It will all work out.
2006-11-09 02:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is great to have a lovely guy and you are very lucky, but you are young, educated and obviously you want to do something with your life!
So why not sit down with a piece of paper and just brainstorm! Put down all the things you might like to do - big and small - just write, dont really think about it and see what you can come up with.
Just because you have a guy in your life doesnt mean that you give up on YOU, does it?
Dont be unhappy with your looks - really - so many girls are and it is so silly, honestly, when you look back you will think 'Gosh i was so young and pretty then! What are you? Early 20's? Make the most of your youth - go out, work, have fun, make the most of your looks but not be paranoid..... I'm 49 and still have fun but wish i'd not taken things so seriously when i was your age!
I wish you all the luck in the world!
2006-11-09 12:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great that you have support from your dream man, and being in love in wonderful, but obviously cant solve all your problems! You said so yourself; you are unsettled having just left uni you are suddenly vunerable as you have no job (yet) and no home (yet), it must be a very hard and worrying time for you, so no wonder you feel like crap! Just start taking steps to get the basics in order and the rest will follow. Good luck
2006-11-09 10:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by Estee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be having a self-respect crisis at the minute and just coming out of uni and needing to find a job don`t seem to be helping things. Think about what you need to do with yourself, start to make a plan of action and take it slowly, one step at a time and you will soon be fighting fit and ready for anything.
2006-11-09 11:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wonderful man and soulmate is enough to give up everything and commit completely, but you need stability and inner peace if you will ever be truly happy.
My boyfriend, the man of MY dreams, has helped me work through self-esteem problems similar to the ones you are having. He constantly reminds me that I am beautiful, he believes in me, etc. and sure enough I have come to believe the things he says.
I wish you both luck.
2006-11-09 10:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by Pepper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in love is supposed to inspire you to be the best person you can be not let go of all other things in your life.
It's great that he loves you just as you are, I mean it doesn't matter to him that you're in that confused, unstable stage but this doesn't mean that he likes you to stay that way or else that would mean a different thing.
Take him as an inspiration to plan your career move, you're young and you have a lot of potentials before you...be in love, yes, but don't let other areas in your life stop because of it but let that love inspire you to greater things...
2006-11-09 10:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by ivy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its just a phase and soon it will pass..if your so in love with this man....let him be what cheers you up and makes u feel good about yourself.If he's going to be there for you then let him...everyone gets lost in their own life at sometime or another.If just him loving you isnot enough then try not to take him for granted.Im unhappy with my looks too..maybe you should try going to a spa or working someplace relaxing...just try not to pay much attention to everything else and dont let it get you down.
2006-11-09 10:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww thats nice for you.. there are people out there with less
as for your confidence it will return you are just down at the minit
we all feel like this from time to time..
2006-11-09 10:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look concentrate on sorting your life out, it is a worry having no place to live and you have a right to be concerned and so should he be.
2006-11-09 12:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by guysmithdenise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's nice to have someone to love you like that,but realize that he cannot fill all those empty little spaces. You must do that for yourself dear.
2006-11-09 10:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by kick it 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋