Should I let my husband go?

Question

Me and my husband have been married for two years. (No childern) He put his hands on me and say things negative to me all the time. We split up for seven months and just got back together. Now he's going back to his old ways and He hurts my feelings all the time. We were suppose to go to counsling but now he don't want to go. He's tellng people that were getting a divorce when he never said anything to me about it. Should I try to work it out or just let him go?

Answer 1

Do yourself a favor, No one should EVER be abused physically , mentally verbally ! You are in an unhealthy relationship if this is happening and NOTHING is changing.. It is time to move on. If you are afraid of him then seek help . If he is willing to get some help for his abusing ways then this is great.. if not, then you already know the answer in your heart.. Please Please do not stay in an unhealthy relationship. you are entitled to be happy.. remember that!! If he is telling everyone you are getting divorced then that's another thing.. how come you are finding out this from others?? All I can say is sometimes you kind of have to harden your heart to get strong enough to let him go.. I am not sure where you live area I mean state, usually they can give you assistance to help you out of bad situations.. and on this last note I was told once don't be a statistic. You have no children by this man, so you have no worries there.. like I said you have the right to be happy.. please be happy. don't live in fear.. i hope this has helped a little.. find happiness okay.. God Bless and you know what I will keep you in my prayers !!

Answer 2

I'm a strong believer in that what ever the problem is, things can be worked out by constant communication with each other. But when it comes to physical abuse and hardcore verbal abuse, I say no one has to stand for it. It doesn't matter what other people will say about the marriage failing or this or that. You need to look out for yourself and believe that you deserve better. Get away from this guy, I'm sure you can do better. It's in your hands to stop this guy. If he puts a hand on you between now and the time you decide to leave, call the cops. Having a report on record that he abuses you will make things a lot better for you when you settle your divorce case. The fact that there are no little ones to hurt by the split up should make your decision a lot simpler.

Please be careful and take care !

Answer 3

Is putting his hands on you, hitting?? If that's the case, and he came back again, doing the same thing, LET HIM GO! You have no ties to him (children) so go find a guy who appreciates you and doesn't have control issues like this one. You can't teach an old dog new tricks, and Sorry only last for a day if you're lucky. Once they hit you, it makes it easier for him to do it again and again, he'll never change. And he'll try it again with his next victim. Be Strong, Let Him GO! He's not worth it!

Answer 4

Yours is a tough situation. You are aware of your problems and have lived with them for teo years. I can respond in two ways... either I can just sympathize with you or I can help you see that your role in this situation is what is making things worse for you, thus empowering you to change your situation. I believe this to be a more effective way.
It seems like you have already decided what works for you and are willing to put up with an abusive situation. Your have lived with your husband and know that he is not going to change. So why are you still with him? Silence on your part is participation and enabling your husband to continue being abusive, and making a bad situation worse.
You need to find support system in your community? Stress causes limitations that when one moves out of the situation are alleviated.
Ask yourself: what you are willing to change about yourself if you want to change your situation. Are you willing to take the risk of supporting yourself on your own? Do you value a peaceful life enough to take the risk of leaving an abusive situation?
You already tried to counseling it did not work and there is no chance that you alone will change his beheavior.

Answer 5

Let him go. You do not need a man in your life that is so insecure with himself that he has to put his hands on you. Have you seen sleeping with the enemy? Do you want to end up dead? I don't understand why women put up with men like that. You deserve better, someone who will love you and treat you with the respect your entitled to. I think you should start learning how to love yourself and realize that you don't need that negative energy in your life. Realize that a man can love you without putting his hands on you. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

If he doesn't want to go to counseling and is telling people you are getting a divorce-then by all means--it is over-let him go. You deserve better then the abuse he is putting out anyway. Good luck.

Answer 7

Go to a counselor with or without your husband and let the counselor help you sort through what would be best. It's hard to know from just a paragraph.

Answer 8

I am confused. You say he put his hands on you...? What does that mean in this context? Did he hit you? Is it in a sexual way? (he is your husband.) As for the negative way he speaks to you, you should tell him this hurts your feelings and ask him to be more considerate. And yes, you do need counseling, even more so if he hits you.

Answer 9

Set him free .......

Choose another that cares for you ... remember the proof of the relationship is in the deeds not the verbiage.

When it gets negative and becomes hands on ....walk away.

Good Luck ... Be Safe !

Answer 10

it didnt work the first time so what makes you think it will work the second time. no woman deserves to be abused, find a new guy that will treasure and love you