hi i am 27 male ,and i am going to get engaged soon , i never had a girl friend,and i never interacted with girls other than in my house , i was like introvert. and before getting married i had imagined certain image of a girl in my mind to get marry , i got may proposals but i did not find a girl near to my imagination , finally i gat one prosition for a girl who was beautiful but not like my as i had in my mind , but all my family liked her very much , and i also admit that i could not have got better girl than her , so after seeing her i first hesitated to say yes but as my family members were very happy with this girl and their family i said yes . i dont know what i was afraid of , may be getting responsibilty or losing my bachelor life , now we are getting engaged next month and we started talking on phone but she too seems introvert like me so and i also feel shy ,we can not talk much unlike my other friend with thier fiancees , will my marriage work ?
2006-11-09 01:39:33 · 26 answers · asked by yahoo .man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave the rest to u and her .....all the best
2006-11-09 01:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are making a big mistake.
You need to get out of your house and hang out with some people. Why are you so worried about getting married? Is there some kind of time-line that you have to live by?
You talk on the phone? What the heck kind of relationship is that? Newsflash hon, you don't get married and THEN have a relationship...you have to HAVE a relationship first and THEN, when you KNOW that you want to spend forever with the person, you get married. If you have doubts this early in then you need to step back and work on the relationship part. Quit trying to put a date on everything. You'll know when it's right...and now is not it!!!
2006-11-09 09:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by dancing_in_the_hail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. It depends on how much the both of you work toward it. Talk to her about it. make sure she thinks she can work for it and will be willing. But I don't believe if you don't know each other that well you should be getting married. Maybe a long engagement to make sure you're right for each other.
2006-11-09 09:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by *Kacie* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless what your family thinks or does not think, if you are having any kind of doubts about the relationship, dont get married. marriage is a huge commintment and if you dont feel comfortable with it, dont do it. there is an old cuban saying that says and i will translate: casado es casa de dos. which means casado (marriage) is casa (house) de dos (of two). in other words, no matter what anyone says or does, you and your partner need to really want to go on with this.
2006-11-09 09:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you're marrying her because your family pressured you into it. Sorry, honey, but my mother picked out a whole slew of losers for me to marry, but I wanted to make that choice for myself. You are getting engaged for all the wrong reasons. I give it a thumbs down. Chose the girl YOU want to marry and the odds will be in your favor.
2006-11-09 09:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by Emm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both not ready. Read your post it doesn't state one thing about being in love. So what if you parents like her. That is not the basis for marriage. Rethink your commitment level. Do not get engaged until you are sure you love this person. The same goes for her.
2006-11-09 09:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by Peloubet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like this is an arranged marriage, which makes it harder for one to develop a normal relationship, i suggest that you begin courting her, taking her out for dinner, to the mosk, etc you have to get to know the person before you can assume anything about them, and its apparent by what you write that you know very little about the person. is her believe structure the same as you, are her morals and principles such that you can accept. etc. your talking in generalities here, and you need to develop the relationship further to see where its headed or end it, but you seem to need to build your own self confidence to , so start working on that to.
2006-11-09 10:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by redsyoungstud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may, but don't be in such a rush to find out. Go for a longer engagement just to get to know each other better, you will both benefit.
2006-11-09 09:43:43 · answer #8 · answered by spencer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are totally normal. Don't think and care too much. And don't imagine too much. It's real world, it's not your dream. Let you to enjoy your life, enjoy your engagement and get married. It's better for you.
2006-11-09 10:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think arrange marriage is better. u both should give time 2 each other & then u both can understand each other & then u will realise she is the right one!reading ur que. i think she is shy,so u give some time 2 her and spend some time withher and be frank and friends.good luck!
2006-11-09 10:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. you shouldn't pick a girl bc they are in your imagination. you should REALLY love them
the only thing holding you back from making your marrige work is love and communication
are you willing to make it work? do you want it to work? are you willing to grow up and take the responsibility and leave your bachelor life behind?
2006-11-09 09:43:03 · answer #11 · answered by iMegan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋