i am 18 years old but i am affraid my parents are going to hate me for the rest of my life because there always tellling me not to screw up like my sisters did?
2006-11-09 01:38:18 · 18 answers · asked by I feel like nothing 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
they won't hate you. they will probably be compationate bc you took the courage to tell them. whatever you do: don't get an abortion. that would be a life you're taking away. Just come clean at a relaxed time, maybe with the father by your side.
2006-11-09 01:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by iMegan 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You are 18 which means you are an adult and pretty much can do whatever you like.
I would just be honest with them about it. Honesty is the only way. I would say something like Mom,Dad I need to talk to you. I got knocked up and I am sorry.
If you don't feel that you can raise the child there are plenty of options there. You need to do whats right for the baby. I know too many be that were selfish when they got themselves into this situation.
Good Luck
HONESTY
2006-11-09 09:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously it is what is and hopefully they will be understanding and supportive. Just because you are having a baby does not mean you are a screw up..you are bring a life into the world and that is something to be proud of. You parents cannot hate you for that! I wish you luck and congratulations.
2006-11-09 09:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by Stacy H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all they wont hate you, they might be hurt and to be honest maybe even dissapointed but i doubt the will hate you. i relate to you in so many levels. my father has always been the strictest man.he is impossible to communicate with and solved everything with screaming and/or hitting so when i got pregnant at 18, i wasnt about to tell him. my boyfriend(now husband of 9 years) and i really wanted to get married so we agreed to get married and keep the pregnancy a secret. my dad had no clue or so i thought, but a few days before my wedding(about 2 months pregnant-didnt show) he went into my room and said,i hope you are not just getting married for that baby,because i can get another job and help you raise it. i almost died of shock,but i love him so much more for that. since i have a younger sister, i became the"screw up siter" you know- dont ruin your life like your sister etc...- but my sister did the same thing,married and had a kid at 19 which drove my dad nuts, but he moved on and loves us and the kids(i now have 3). another reason you should tell them is because you might need help,support and the stress is bad for your baby. my mother lived in my home country when i got pregnant here(u.s.a) but i was too afraid to tell her. so i called her one weekend to tell her but chickened out, i figured ill tell her later(i was about 2-3 months). so i was going to call her the following weekend,but she was killed in a car accident never knowing she was going to be a grandma. i regret not telling her everyday,so since you have the chance;let them know.now that i have kids i think parents are never as bad as we think.good luck and i wish you the best for you and your angel.
2006-11-09 09:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by lola7737 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 19 year old and 4 months pregnant. i live with my bf but i still thought my parents were going to be mad. the reason i thught this was becuase i grew up with 6 other siblings and i just happened to be the little angel. My fatherwas always so proud of me. i told my step mom as soon as i found out because i knew i could trust her. to my suprise, theya re excited and can't wait to see they're new grandchild
2006-11-09 09:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on your relationship with your parents. If you love them and they love you, then just tell them you need to talk. Sit down together and tell them in a very calm voice that you are pregnant. Tell them your decision. My parents took it well when I told them I was pregnant at 17, but they knew I was going to marry my bf. His dad and stepmother tried to make a big deal out of it. Tell them now so you don't stress yourself. I wish you luck.
2006-11-09 09:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by Army Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them. Sit them down and be open and honest with them. They may get upset with you they may even cry but if you are willing to go on to college and work then tell them your plans. They be willing to help you out. Include the father in the talk with your parents that may help as well. good Luck!
2006-11-09 09:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by njacobs7477 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Turn the situation around. Start going to college, get a job show them that your going to make the best life for your child. Even if they are upset they will get over it, anyway your not a "srew up" all things happen for a reason.
2006-11-09 09:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jody 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey first being pregnant is a blessing. I am sure your parents dont hate your other sisters. Sit down with them with eye contact and tell them. Being a grandma for me is awesome.
2006-11-09 09:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
even though your parent may be disappointed i am sure they will learn to cope with the fact that you are pregnant ..... i believe that is better to tell them sooner rather than later the longer you leave it the harder it will get and the more upset they will be that you didnt come to them with this issue....
but all the same if you are happy about being pregnant congrat's.. having a baby and being a mum is a very special gift !!! :-)
2006-11-09 09:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should have told you what TO do, not what NOT to do. The brain doesn't hear the NOT--just the to do.
Just pray like crazy, and trust God. He's your only and best hope. He's the only One Who will always love you and never leave you. Your parents love you. They'll get over it. They'll come around. Just get your act together and learn from your lesson.
Change you handle. "I Feel Like Nothing" is making you nothing. You are made in the spiritual image of God. That is EVerything. It's never too late to get with His program. Change it to iamachildofGod.
This is your test and their test.
2006-11-09 09:42:39 · answer #11 · answered by GypsyGr-ranny 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋