I'm a married straight guy, but I have a big urge to masturbate whilst in the company of other men?

Question

I've never had a gay/bi experience, but this urge is there in me. Are there any groups in London where I can try this.....??

Is this a bit twisted??

Answer 1

all I can say is that if you need a hand
just ask
would love to help you fulfil this fantasy

Answer 2

This doesn't make you gay but it has the potential of turning out that way. Basically what you have described is pretty common among males. You don't actually want to perform the sexual act with another man but you do enjoy the company of another male while self-gratifying yourself. I'm gonna go out on a limb and assume that one of your fantasies is probably a locker room experience where there's you and a few other manly men around and you just all whip it out and go to town in the company of others. Probably starts off as a playful gesture then turns into one huge circle jerk followed by a "good game" and parting words like "See you tomorrow, Tim."

It's ok to think about these things. Do you want to include your wife in your fantasy as well? If so then I would suggest talking to her about your sexual desire to be in the company of another male. She might go for it and see it as new way to spark up the romance. Try swinging or voyuerism (watching) and see which helps out. All in all if you keep it a secret from her then what does that say about the relationship you two have, plus the horrible possiblity that your urge might get the better of you and she finds out the hard way in a "Honey, I can explain...it's not what it looks like" situation.

Happy hunting and good luck.

Answer 3

At the very least you are bisexual but not straight as you call it. Don't be afraid of your feelings nor who you are. I am bisexual and am proud to be what I am. So should you be. Tell your wife this and if her love for you is really true she will not be offended. She will be hurt yes, but she will understand. I found out that I was bisexual last year! I have had both testes removed but was never given any testosterone supplements to combat the affects of the oestrogen. All males produce it females produce testosterone also but usually the male/female hormones are cancelled out by testosterone in males and oestrogen in females if you follow - so when the male hormone testosterone is absent the oestrogen takes over unless a supplement is taken. Likewise in females when oestrogen is absent testosterone takes over.

In small amount cases this happens naturally in men with both testes still in place but are in advanced years.

This explains my bisexuality but I don't know in your case. It may have been dormant and something has aroused it. But if you have had these feeling for quite some time then you have been bisexual right from the outset.

Good luck in your quest to carry out what you desire.

Answer 4

I wouldn't necessarily call you gay or bi just yet. It could be that you just have an exhibitionist nature. Would doing any other kind of "exhibition" activity, maybe with your wife fulfill this fantasy of yours? Like maybe having sex outdoors, or somewhere with the risk of getting caught and having someone see you? Or, even maybe a swingers party where you can be "watched"? Some people like to be watched. Are you sure you just want to be watched by men?

Btw, I don't think it's sick or twisted at all, just a curious nature.

Answer 5

It sounds like you want to have a secret life. If you sneak around behind your wife and get together with men, the time might come when it will impossible for you to deny your gay fantasies, with unwanted implications and complications later on.

Maybe you've heard about an American minister who was recently exposed for his secret meetings with a gay man. It was a huge story here this past weekend.

Answer 6

if you're thinking about it there's a possibility you are gay or (more likely) bi. more and more people are coming out as Bi at the mo (me, my two best mates and my boyfriend included).
try www.gaydar.com (poss .co.uk, can't remember).
my bloke only came out last month, and i've been with him for two years, and i really don't care. there's no point in changing him cuz he wouldn't be him, so don't try and change yourself. see how things go. you don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to and are happy the way you are, if you aren't happy, tell someone, and if they really care about you, they will stand by you.
good luck xxx

Answer 7

It's not twisted at all.
Maybe it's an exhibitionist thing.
If it feels good, do it. If you don't like it at least you can say you satisfied your curiosity.

Try Chariots Sauna near Liverpool Street Station:
www.gaysauna.co.uk/
It's clean, safe and there's a bar!

Answer 8

Try typing "gay sauna"+London into Google.
I think that'll be the sort of thing you're looking for.
My gay male friends tell me they meet loads of married guys in these places.

Answer 9

No it is not twisted, and you may well be straight. I have straight friends who like to jerk off with their male friends and sometimes get blown by them.

Don't sweat it, find someone nice, and enjoy

Reyn
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Answer 10

I think you are heading down a very dangerous road, if your sex life is getting boring have a word with your wife.

Answer 11

visit a gay sauna, its nowhere near as scary as you might think, plenty of guys in exactly the same position as yourself use them for exactly the same reasons, no one bothers you unless you want them too,as a bonus its actually quite relaxing too, steam rooms tend to have guys bashing one out, the steam makes it a litle more private if your shy.