Does he love me?

Question

I have been seeing him for over 2years, does he love me?

We get on great, have a laugh, great sex but he won't commit... I am very persistant and don't want to let him go... I think any other girl and guy would of walked away from each other a long time ago as we've had our bad times, done our faults but still we always find a way back into each others arms... This is nearly 3 years of knowing each other.... He tells me he loves me, and yesterday for the first time he said he's in love with me, he spends 90% of his time with me, we just chill out and laugh till our stomach hurts, it never used to be this good but now its so much better... But he said a few weeks ago that he never thought we could be together because of the past, but now he's thinking maybe we can... but his ex is having his baby... this doesnt have to get in the way does it? I know it may be hard but I am willing to support him every step of the way.... If you really love someone anything is possible right?

Answer 1

yes he does very much

Answer 2

Some think of ATTRACTION as the result of being
good-looking or otherwise "attractive". In fact, I
think a lot of people confuse ATTRACTION with
"being attractive".

When I think of the concept of ATTRACTION, I
think of it primarily as an EMOTION.

ATTRACTION IS A FEELING that we
either feel, or we don't.

And there's not much of anything at all in
between when it comes to a man being at a place
where he's ready to be open, loving and COMMITTED
with a woman... long term.

It seems to me that attraction is actually more
of a COMBINATION of powerful experiences and
beliefs that come together to form a very, very
special and all powerful SUPER-EMOTION.

However you think about it, there is a process
that happens between men and women that keeps them
connecting - to get together both physically and
emotionally in relationships

If a man feels ATTRACTION for a woman, on a
deep emotional level BEYOND PHYSICAL ATTRACTION,
then nothing else really matters.

Not looks, age, nationality, wealth, religion,
etc.

Not peer pressure from friends and family.

Not even where a man is in his own life, which
he often uses as an excuse - such as where his
career is, his personal income, that he needs his
freedom, he's too young, he needs to "have his
fun" before he settles down... all that stuff.
None of it matters!

On the other hand, if a man DOESN'T feel
ATTRACTION for a woman, then nothing else matters
in that case either!

You can't "talk" a man into feeling ATTRACTION
any more than you can "talk" a person who hasn't
eaten for three days out of feeling hungry.
Unfortunately, some women try all the things
they can think of that would work for them, and
try and make a man feel a certain way about them
inside and prehaps fall in love.

Think about some convincing behaviors:

Convincing a man that he should open up and
share his feelings for you

- Convincing a man that he should share his
personal thoughts and feelings

- Convincing a man to be loyal and monogamous

- Convincing a man to do things to show that he
cares and thinks about you

- Convincing a man that he should have an interest
in your life and your friends and family

- Convincing a man that he should want to be with
you, and only you

- Convincing a man that a commitment and a long
term relationship is what he wants with you

Honey this is gonna hurt but I think what ye have together is more of attraction rather than LOVE.

As one of the girls answered above, he has had sex with his ex in the last nine months or so if she was to fall pregnant. You say you were with him for the last 2 years??? (bells!!!)

You seem happy at the moment so dont ruin that on yourself, enjoy the belly ache laughs ye share and enjoy his company as a boyfriend. (it sounds lovely).But be prepared to allow yourself to drift away and allow your emotions to develop. I think ye will always remain friends but a romantic relationship will cease. This wont make you unhappy as you'll definately find your Mr. Right.

Hugs xxx

Answer 3

If he says he loves you then he must, you have to believe what he says if you want to have a future. I dont know what has happened in the past between you but if you always end up back together and are happy there is no reason why you cant as long as what has happened stays in the past and can be forgotton. You say that his ex girlfrind is pregnant, if you have been together nearly 3 year it has nothing to do with him unless it is his and only you can decide if you can live with someone with a constant reminder of what he done. Good Luck xx

Answer 4

Yes with love anything is possible. But I just hope he doesn't have baby momma drama. Because personally I wouldn't be with a man who is having a baby with his ex. I mean you say you've been seeing eachother for three years and his ex is having his baby? The timeline here is weird. He had to have been sleeping with both of you in order for her to get pregnant. Doesn't sound like the most honest man. Personally I would walk away.

Answer 5

I'm glad things are going so much better for you now in your relationship. Finally he seems to be in love with you! About the baby, you will have to always make sure never to come between him and his child. This does mean he will have contact with his ex, assuming she's the custodial parent. Make your peace with this, find a way to be a part of the child's life, too, and continue in your loving relationship. Be happy!

Answer 6

im happy fo you that things are going so great but truthfully i dont think your relationship will last?
this is because, he told you after 2 years that he loves u! this is a very long time and he definitely sounds insecure honey.
His ex is also having his child, which may create problems in the future...do u talk to his ex? he would wanna see his baby, so it might be hard if you and his ex dont get on.

Answer 7

I'd say you two are very much in love. The baby won't come between you unless you let it, but remember, he may have to give his ex some of his time cos of the baby. And yes, anything is possible.

Answer 8

OK first of all if you love him stand beside him right now he probably is having so many mix emotions right now that it ain't even funny. You know that baby will always be there no matter what. But you need to see how he going to act after that baby gets hear cause feelings can change trust me they can .

Answer 9

not sure if he loves you or not, you've been seeing him for over two years, yet he is about to have a baby with his ex, which means at some point during your relationship, he cheated on you and he's afraid of commitment, is this really a person you want to have a relationship with in the long run.....

Answer 10

if you have to ask then I think it maybe a no I would not get too comfortable if I were you. You should see what happens once the baby arrives if you are still on the same level there may be hope.

Answer 11

ok it does sound like he really loves you....however....He has had sex with his ex sometime in the last 9 months!!! You said "having his baby" which suggests that he doesn't have a baby already....so, when did this happen? If he's in love with you, he wouldn't have had sex with an ex!!!! yikes, I know you love him but be sure to work through that first....I wouldn't do it, but it's up to you.