I'm 21 and in my last year of school and love my bf very much. until about a year ago i thought i would never want kids, then i thought maybe i would adopt. we started having sex in july and every time we do some weird part of me hopes the condom breaks or fails and i will get pregnant. i am not pregnant now but my period was 3 weeks late and i tokk a test right before it started. most ppl my age would be relived and i sort of am but i am also feeling a little depressed, like i was really hopin the test was wrong and that i was pregnant. i don't know what to do or think, i feel like i'm a bad person for wanting a baby when we aren't planning it now. how do i overcome these feelings?
2006-11-09 00:59:58 · 6 answers · asked by soccer2music 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think it's totally normal. The same thing happened to me when I was about that age. Previously, I thought that maybe I would adopt some day, but then BAM, I was suddenly hit with this crazy desire to be pregnant. When I'm in big stores I always walk by the aisle with all the strollers and baby clothes really slowly. I constantly have dreams that I am pregnant and feel sad when I wake up and know it's not real. I think it must be some kind of hormonal change or something. I'm in grad school now, so it makes sense for me to wait a little while longer before starting a family. It does help keep me on track though- I keep telling myself that I have to do well in class so I can graduate on time, then I can have a baby. I know a lot of people who have kids right after school, so you should talk to your boyfriend. Who knows, he just might feel the same way.
2006-11-09 01:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by Krista D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you are not a bad person for wanting a baby. It is your biological clock ticking away inside of you. Wanting a baby, and YES not wanting a baby are normal emotions for women. I have three kids, and I sometimes at times want another baby (I will be looking at pictures in the album, or watching TV) The only thing that keeps me from dragging my husband to the bedroom at these times is that I cannot get pregnant again.
I would advise you, though, to wait until you are married. That way there is no squabble about insurance, coverage and all that.
2006-11-09 09:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by newcovenant0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women do get that maternal instinct sooner or later. You are still young, wait a bit. Offer to babysit a friend's or family member's baby for a few hours to get a chance to try out your parenting skills. Meanwhile talk to your partner how he would feel about becoming an accidental parent before it happens.
2006-11-09 09:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by aliciarox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you and your boyfriend sat down and discussed having children? Maybe you wanting to have a child is your motherly and nuturing instincts kicking in. Just because you want a baby does not make you are bad person. Most pregnancies are not planned, it just happens.
2006-11-09 09:07:54 · answer #4 · answered by boonslilsis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your nature. There's nothing wrong with it. Though, 21 is too soon in my opinion.
2006-11-09 09:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by Totally Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your boyfriend see how he feels about being a father then loose the condom if you are both ready
2006-11-09 09:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by crazylady1193 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋