MY EX AND I BROKE UP IN MAY WE HAD BEEN DATING AND LIVING TOGETHER FOR 2 YEARS...WE HAD A BOUGHT A HOUSE, HAD BOUGHT A MOTORCYLE AND GOT A DOG...I THOUGHT WE WERE SET AND GOING TO BE TOGETHER THINGS WENT BAD AND HE ENDED IT I MOVED OUT AND THAN IN AUGUST STARTED DATING SOMEONE ELSE AND IT WAS REALLY GOOD MY EX AND I ARE CIVIL...THAN THINGS GOT SERIOUS WITH MY NEW AND MY EX STARTED COMING AROUND A LOT AND HE SAYS HOW SORRY HE IS AND MISSES ME TERRIBLY. I'M SO CONFUSED MY NEW AND I ARE SCHEDULED TO MOVE INTO OUR OWN PLACE IN 1 WEEK AND MY EX I THINK IS WANTING ME BACK I NEED HELP!!
2006-11-09 00:54:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't make the mistake of taking him back......He ended it and now he See's you have moved on, he doesn't like that. Have you ever heard the saying......you want what you can't have? If you did take him back it wouldn't work. I think you are a challenge to him right now. He would love nothing more then to break you up just to see if he could. Move on....You will be better off.
2006-11-09 01:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex left after 12 1/2 yrs. of marriage - a kid, a new house, etc. I didn't hear squat from him for 7 mos. - until I thought about starting to date again. He got wind of that and suddenly wanted to work things out. He was still with the wh--- he had left our son and I for but didn't want me to see anyone else! I didn't take him back - I firmly told him I was going to do us both a favor and decline. Guess what? 2 1/2 yrs. later he's already cheated on that girlfriend and is with someone else. I'm dating someone who appreciates what I've been through and is fun and supportive.
Ask your ex why he is doing this now and what he possibly thinks could come of it. Chances are it's just old possessivenes and jealousy coming out - that is definitely no basis for a real relationship.
2006-11-09 09:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the question is do you still have strong feelings for him? If he does pursue a relationship with you will you be able to say no to him? If your feelings are so strong for him that it may jeopardize what you have going on with your new guy, then you may have to hold off on the moving in and see how it goes with your ex. You may want to do that anyways because its a big commitment to move in together and you don't want to have to go through all that and then end up cheating on your new guy or something. Just tell him its too fast and you need some time. I seriously wouldn't move in if you are even considering having another relationship with your ex. You obviously aren't over him and vice versa so you need to address that before you begin anew with someone else.
2006-11-09 09:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by jmk_jenmarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is an ***! You are happy with your new man right! Dont even think of letting that creep back into your life. He gave you a false sense of security as far as Im concerned. You had all the things that go along with a serious relationship/marriage and he did you like that!! The only thing it sounds like you didnt have was a child. I wouldnt take him back. If he did it once, he'll do it agian. What, breaking it off with you was his way of not cheating on you!!! Now he is done with her and wants you back!! PRICELESS!!
2006-11-09 09:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take this the wrong way, you say you and your ex are civil. Well if he is coming around....what does he feel? Are the vibes he is getting from you more than civil. Take a step back and examine how you 're coming across to him...are you unintentionally showing him more than "civil " emotions...is he reading more into it than what is there and since you are confused... do you still want him? Please don't move in with this other guy until you are absolutely sure of you feelings. Too many broken hearts already.Good luck!
2006-11-09 09:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by samantha H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This always happen if a couple just living together. No true responsibility is involved in their relationship, it's just for fun. Why don't you try to get married with someone who love you? Being married means you will get true responsibilities from your spouse.
But for this case, I think you have to leave him and go to the new one. Your ex must realize that it should be happened how wrong or how sorry he is. Past is the past, he must learn from that.
2006-11-09 09:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT COULD BE THAT YOUR EX DOESN'T WANT TO SEE YOU WITH SOMEONE ELSE. IF THINGS WERE THAT BAD BETWEEN YOU THAN YOU NEED TO JUST END IT, PUT THE PAST BEHIND YOU, AND MOVE ON. FOCUS ON YOUR NEW LOVE AND NOT WHAT YOU HAD.
2006-11-09 09:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by Forceof1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being manipulated dont fall for it again. You should be married before you make all those financial commitments be careful he isnt just trying to recover financially.
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-11-09 09:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by msqtech 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean this a dis to you- but it's like a dog with an old bone, he's done with it, but he'll be damned if anyone else is going to chew on it.
2006-11-09 08:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OUT WITH THE OLD>>> IN WITH THE NEW!!!
He has just realized what he lost and thats just tough.. you are happy, and you have no responsibility for him and his past actions. Stay with the new guy!
2006-11-09 08:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jonny B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋