my sisters husband cheated on her while she was pregnant. she has taken him back. whats the chances of him doing it again?
2006-11-09 00:54:29 · 30 answers · asked by illinois girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he was with this girl for over a month and towards the end it was like he was having an affair with my sister ( HIS WIFE) he would talk to her secretly and meet up with her.
2006-11-09 01:47:05 · update #1
he is not interested in family like kevin federline did to britney spears ---
2006-11-09 00:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That depends on a lot of things. Why did he cheat? What's changed? Was it just the once?
OK, just as a possible scenario, when my wife was pregnant, she didn't want to be intimate as much, which is understandable. Some guys can't take going from three times a week to once a month if they're good, so maybe he was feeling neglected? Then maybe the other girl approached him and made an offer he just couldn't refuse? It was just one time the one night, and he felt bad about it the next morning and crawled home on his hands and knees and begged his wife's forgiveness. In that case, it's not likely to happen again.
OK, here's another scenario. He never was the commitment-minded type. He got married because he felt he had to, but his eyes never stopped straying to the other girls in the room. His wife gets pregnant, and it all becomes too "real" for him all of a sudden. A cute girl shows up, and he takes the excuse to start an affair. His wife finds out, confronts him, he denies it, tries to keep everything going. Finally, he can't deny it anymore, and promises to stop, and she forgives him. In this case, it's almost definate he will do it again.
Probably he's somewhere between the two extreems.
2006-11-09 01:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the chances of him cheating again is not known...he may never cheat again, or he may still be cheating. Why do people say once a cheater always a cheater? does that saying go for everything else? Like once a lair always a lair. Or once a killer always a killer. Once a flirt always a flirt. A mother gets layed off from work. She has two children and is a single parent. She has no family and has exhausted all her resources to borrow money. she goes into a super market and steals some food and diapers. She does this for two months, and finally gets a job and gets back on her feet. It's been 5 years that she has the job and hasn't' stolen in that time. Does the saying apply here? Once a thief always a thief. forget the reason that both of them did what they did because both of them have reasons. Who ever is without sin let them cast the first stone. I'm not a religious man but that saying seemed appropriate. Obviously the man couldn't go 9 months without sex. A lot of men can a lot can't A lot of women can, but some women want sex while they are pregnant, and some men feel it is nasty. To each his or her own.
2006-11-09 01:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many people say once a cheater always a cheater. However, 65% of guys that have cheated on their significant others will only cheat that once. So I guess it would really depend on his character...is he a womanizer? Is he always disrespecting her? It could have been many things that drove him to another woman... Men are more likely to seek another woman when their spouse is pregnant becuase of sexual attraction, the feeling of "this is it, this is the rest of my life" that kind of scares them so they want that so called "last" fling. Does he treat her well? Was the affair emotional or just sexual? Is he friends with the other counter part? If he is chances are it might happen again. I know this doesn't help you...but like I said the percentage is high when it comes to him not cheating again. Have her just trust her instincts.
2006-11-09 01:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by mysterious_qt 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People always say once a cheater always a cheater. I know many people will say exactly that to you here.
I do not follow the sheep, and I give advice from the center of who I am. Everyone can make mistakes. There are many reasons that lead people to cheat, and many that lead people to forgive. The most important is love. If he loves her and she him, and they are willing to give it another try, why should people be so quick to throw negativity around and say nah- dump the bastard! - once a cheater always a cheater.
The chances of him doing it again are directly proportional to how they resolve why he did it the first time. Some men ARE just bastards, yes, but many aren't. They should attend counselling and try to see what went wrong. Affairs happen not just because one person is an a*ss, but because one of the parties is not finding their needs met at some level. It's really that simple. They have a child now, and why should they not for the sake of that innnocent child and their past love, try again?..
I wish them all the best resolving why it happened and how to prevent it happening again, from either of them, because revenge affairs are also, unfortunately, a subconcious reaction to a very real inability to confront why things like this happened.
2006-11-09 01:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by Sugar 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people can change, but most times not. They will change for a short period of time the flip back into the same old behaviour once the threat has passed.
It will really depend on your sisters husband, how much does he want to make his marriage work and his he willing to accept the mistake as.
Both you sister and hubby need to get communicating and identify why he cheated. Not to make an excuse, but maybe he wasn't getting the love and support needed.
Just a thought that needs to be addressed. All to often we forget about the needs of others and focus only on our own.
2006-11-09 01:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by SRC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is a very good chance it will happen again, once a cheat always a cheat. I'm not trying to be mean, but guys like that never learn.
2006-11-09 01:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jeremy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hes gonna do it again! Once a cheater always a cheater!! I understand how it is when your pregnant and you think you have to have this person.Lets just hope you sister one day will see the best thing for her and her child is to dump this loser piece of **** sue his *** for child support and move on with her life find a man who wants her and her only they are out there you just have to look really hard!!
2006-11-09 01:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by witchy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is the ulitmate sin in marriage. If my husband cheated on me he would be kicked to the curb right away and i would file for divorce. They say once a cheater always a cheater. Since he cheated on her his true feelings for your sister are questionable.
2006-11-09 01:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by Darcee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
about 100 and 10%
2006-11-09 00:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by DASH 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
chances are, that since he was "welcomed " back, he knows nothing will happen if he does it again. Unfortunately your sister was (or is) in a vulnerable position. I hope she becomes stronger in her sense of self esteem and will see that she doesn't have to put up with this ever again.
2006-11-09 01:10:36 · answer #11 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋