i do it to keep myself in........
2006-11-09 00:48:08 · 19 answers · asked by S 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Though it can seem that the walls, or protective shield, we build around our heart (our truest self) serves to both keep people out and us in, I believe our greatest intention is to protect our purest/truest self by hidding it- in hope that someone will care enough to go inside and find it.
When I was about 13 I remember promising myself that I would let no-one see my innermost feelings, therefore they could not destroy me. I am now 31 and have spent the last many years realizing that our inner self can only feel destroyed if we do not know and live it's truth.
It is not only spirit nature but human nature to desire intimacy with others. Our need to protect ourself comes from a human feeling of vulnerability, so we hide our most beautiful and powerful self out of fear. Just as we pray that someone will be wise and gentle enough to discover and set free our soul. That someone is you; we can only grant ourself that courage.
As time goes on we become aware that we are hurting ourself by starving the expression of our authenticity. We learn to identify those who are lost and hiding and realize they strike out and hurt us based on their own suffering. Through this practice we develop a keen sense of communion with ourself that nurtures trust, security, confidence, and unconditional Love for ourself and others. Unconditional Love for ourself enforces boundaries with others who seek to hurt us, not with judgement- but respect for their pain and your best interest. Experience with the truth of our own hidding reveals the truth of others hidding; it becomes clear that cruelty and sabotage are unresolved and misplaced pain- not a testiment to our (perceived) unworthiness.
I wish you well with your journey and will for you to know that you are more beautiful than you have imagined and the world is better for having you- it is time to shine as brightly as your were meant to.
2006-11-09 02:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by Lovesworth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The walls are constructed by the words of the person speaking to the first person, those words are used to repel the individual and place the first in a containing state of mind, It is better to see a true picture. the contained has been put to shame by the second person and the wall is then the twilight of their sole, a kind of surrogate environment to exist and where safety is in question.
2006-11-09 08:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by Conway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, it's to keep people out. I have no problem letting the real me out with people that I'm comfortable with, but everyone else gets pushed away and I keep myself hidden from them. Probably because all through school I was ridiculed mercilessly by my peers, and I have a really hard time trusting people now for fear of rejection. So I make sure everyone keeps their distance and few know the real me.
2006-11-09 08:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I construct wall to keep people out because I am simple hearted and believe in people, very easily and got hurt very badly. So it's kind of armour to me for protecting myself from those hurts and pain.
2006-11-09 09:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by goodbye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To keep people out. For protection. No one can hurt you if they can't get close.
I should build a wall. Never been good at that. I let myself be vulnerable & give people the power to hurt me. Silly.
2006-11-09 08:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by amp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both to keep people out and keep myself in, only when the world has become too much.
2006-11-09 20:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Engel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To keep other people out because you don't want to communicate with them all the time.
I wish I had some walls that could keep me in when it's necessary, but alas!
2006-11-09 09:12:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. For me it also means that I want to work undisturbed / be at peace with myself.
But it is not healthy to construct a permanent wall.
2006-11-09 08:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by JDGuru at work 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably a little of both.
To let people in, you have to trust them explicitly. In this world, as unfortunate that it may sound, there is only one person that I trust that much, and that's my husband.
Knowledge is power, and I'm not sure that I want to give anyone besides my hubby that much power over my life.
2006-11-09 08:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by Liora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes both.
But mostly it's the same for me as it is for you: to keep myself in.
Beautiful answer lovesworth.
2006-11-09 19:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by .. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋