After a 27 year marriage does the ex-wife remember the good times with her ex or does she forget everything?

Answer 1

I guess it would depend on the circumstances of the divorce. Mine was due to lying, adultery, and mental illness (all on his part). After 12 1/2 yrs. of marriage and 2 1/2 yrs. of being apart it's getting harder and harder to remember the good times. I know they existed but the details are fuzzy now. I remember the hurtful times more - mostly because those are what you dwell on the most immediately after your spouse leaves. Emotions are usually high then and often negative. That is what sticks with you.

After 27 yrs. of marriage I think it would be difficult to forget everything - especially if there were lots of good times (special vacation spots, things you both enjoyed doing together on a regular basis, events with the kids, etc.). It's a bit harder to go about rebuilding a new life after that kind of time together. You were probably so familiar to each other as the air you breathed at that point. I would have loved to get to that point in my marriage.

People say after that long you take each other for granted, that things are 'boring'. That kind of being taken for granted and familiarity (also referred to as boring) has it's plus side. It has the opportunity to be a deeper, more satisfying, lasting love than what you can get from an affair or new relationship. Even while your brain is producing those wonderful chemical reactions to give you that 'in love' feeling it's hard to compare to 27 yrs. of someone being by your side. Even the stalest relationships can have new life breathed into them with a little effort and regular 'tune-ups'. Unless there was abuse I just couldn't imagine walking away from someone after that long. If it wasn't an amicable parting I feel very sorry for you both.

Answer 2

If she has been married to you for 27 years then you must be doing something right. A woman does not forget anything in a relationship. The hurt or the happiness. But with time she is able to deal with the hurt better and can reflect on the happy times without becoming angry.

Answer 3

yes, she remembers the good times that the relationship had. she may not WANT to remember them, or maybe gets a bad feeling after thinking of them, but i dont think you can forget things that happened with someone you were with for 27 years.

Answer 4

Of-course she will remember. Do you remember the last 27 years of your life?

Answer 5

You say "remember the good times" as if there were no more .... You have to keep creating new "Good Times" .... if you don't the relationship will become stale .... give her some new stuff to recall fondly.

Do something alittle spontaneous ... make it special for her !
No not you wrapped in clear plastic wearing a bow!

A cool neat chick thing ... a special evening .... a live band ..... a treat you and she haven't shared in years ..... Hit the Refresh button!

She will love you for making it new again!

Answer 6

She remembers. Depending how much she has been hurt will determine how she will remember. If she was the one to do the hurting--well, she should remember but has moved on with her life and replacing lots of those memories with new ones. Really impossible to answer. Good luck.

Answer 7

It all depends on how things ended. If she's a cheater or if it ended with lots of fights and arguments then of course she will not remember the good things, but if both partners agreed on separation and peacefully settled things she might remember the good things.

Answer 8

i'm sure she remembers her past like everyone else does, but if she's been married for 27 years her husband must be doing something right.

Answer 9

i am sure she remembers the good times, thats a lot of years to have lots of good times.

Answer 10

It is definitely a YES! Women are emotional beings, they will remember.