This isn't my problem, but was asked by one of my aunts... Her son is 11 years old and will be 12 in April. She received an email from a 14 year old girl, which she forwarded to us to help her out with her problem. The 14 year old girl insists that she's in love with my 11 yr old cousin and is doing the whole "let me prove it to you" bit. Now, seriously, 3 years isn't a big difference when you're an adult, but it's a huge difference at that age. How should she approach this girl and get it through to her that my cousin is too young to have a girlfriend of any kind? She doesn't want to be mean, but she also doesn't want Z to be "dating" some 14 year old girl.
2006-11-09 00:32:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Here is the key... they are children. They should be treated like children. The fourteen year old should be told like a child that she is only fourteen and she should find interest and friends in children her own age. And you should tell the boy that there is something wrong with the girl and to stay away from her. Mom doesn’t need to be running a dating service but raising a child.
2006-11-09 03:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by Raylene G. 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think this 14 year old girl is acting out. Her parents need to know. If not sheis going to have problems. If a older boy see how willing get is somoene will jump at the chance to sleep with her. I don't know of many 11 year old boys would want a girlfreind. At 11 he truely is a *boy*....not a young man looking for a girlfreind.
2006-11-09 01:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by broc1212 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just inform your aunt that it is best to be honest with the girl. Afterall, she is the mother. She can just politely tell the girl that she does not want her son to be dating at this age, and that it is better off to be friends. It is not that hard to do. If your aunt is really that cautious about her son, then she would have no problem doing that. But also, she needs to be aware that it could just be "puppy love" or realize they both may have a crush on each other. It is harmless at that age.
2006-11-09 01:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by spyder90tishuez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys mature at a much slower pace than girls mentally and physically, therefore even though this boy is eleven going on twelve, he's not only physically immature for her, but mentally immature as well. Besides, the relationship is inappropiate. She shouldn't even be dating someone that young, which shows her to be kind of desperate.
2006-11-09 01:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how does the 11 yr old feel? If he doesn't want any part of her, have your aunt limit his exposure to this girl. She may think she is emotionally ready and talk him into things he isn't ready for.
2006-11-09 00:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by #2 in the oven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are way too young to be physically or emotionally "in love"
2006-11-09 00:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mary Smith 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋