the thought of a child coming out of there grosses him out, on the other hand i think it is a beautiful thing.
2006-11-09 00:26:28 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
sorry, society has unfortunaly turned this other wise beautful natural normal process in to some gross scary horrrible medical problem. maybe try finding informaiton and images that show how natural and beautiful it is to pursade him, and make him see birth for what it really is.
2006-11-09 00:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree that in a "Perfect World" we all want the father of our babies to be there when they are born.
However if it is something he really doesn't want to do, you shouldn't try to force him. You would be better off on your own with a close friend or family member than having him there when he doesn't want to be. As you said, YOU think it is a beautiful thing so let it remain a beautiful experience for you. Don't ruin the occasion by having him in the room and you worrying about what he is thinking or feeling rather than you enjoying the experience.
You might like to try giving birthing classes a go though and see if he will come to those with you - it might make it all seem a bit less 'gross' for him.
It also sounds like he may be young and if that is the case he may just be too immature to deal with it.
I hope you have a wonderful birth :-)
2006-11-09 00:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by Libbypeace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband (who was my bf at the time of our 1st child's birth) was nervous. We ended up having him be at the head of the bed near my upper body, the view was completely blocked of the baby actually coming out. He did get up the guts to go glance a few times but he felt more comfortable up helping me through the pain. The rush of emotion he felt once she was born made him forget anything else and he was able to cut the cord no problem. Our second baby came so fast he missed the whole birth and he regrets that. He's glad he was there for the first one.
2006-11-09 00:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by Allyson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During the birth of our first son, I had my boyfriend, mom and dad in the delivery room with me. Although we had done the prenatal classes together, my boyfriend "froze" and it was my mom who supported me through labour and delivery. As much as both he and I wanted him to be my "supporter", he ended up being an "observer". Our son had some complications after birth and was in the NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) for a week, with drs appointments and tests for the next 6 months. My boyfriend was my rock during that time.
When our second son was due, I had a planned c-section. A few weeks before the baby was due, my boyfriend announced that he couldn't be in the delivery room with me. He didn't think he'd be able to focus on me as he'd be too worried about the baby. Instead we asked my mom to be there. She was thrilled and was exactly who I needed at the time. She was able to focus on me and be excited with me (she hid her worry very well). It also brought us closer together.
If you have a family member or close friend who you feel you would want to share this experience with, ask them. Sure it would be ideal for your boyfriend to be with you but don't force him. He has his reasons and although you may not fully understand or support them, you should try to respect them. He'll still love you and the baby and will get to share other experiences with you and your child.
2006-11-10 16:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by devils'littleangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thought grosses me out too, but people say once I go into labor I will want to see. He may change his mind. I would ask him to be in the room with you. He can always stay towards your head and hold your hand.
2006-11-09 00:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by #2 in the oven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe--but i have known a guy to be disgusted with the act of childbirth since he sees the vagina as a sexual thing and does not want to screw up that image with seeing a birth. he told my husband that he really doesn't want sex with his wife anymore because he can't get the childbirth image out of his head.
i wouldn't have wanted to see my boys born--even if i could have. my husband was there for the whole thing and has medical training so he loved watching it.
to each as own--let him hold your hand and tell you how much he loves you at the top end rather than looking up the bottom end.
2006-11-09 00:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of men are like that. My husband says he would be grossed out as well and doesn't want to watch the process of the baby coming out. He still wants to be in the room though and see the baby after its out, but does not want to cut the umbilical cord. (that grosses him out too) Men are babies. lol.
2006-11-09 01:04:05 · answer #7 · answered by Momof2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother was the same he couldn't stand the thought of being there!!!!!
however the min my sis in law went into labour he never left her side and now says it was the best moment of his life seeing his daughter born so don't give up hope just yet hunni he may surprise you
if he doesn't that's not a bad thing coz you are gonna need someone with you who can give you 100% support and if hes worried he may not be the best person so find a back up person just in case
all the best x x x x
2006-11-09 00:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by mum_2_many 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how important is to have him right next to you,supporting you in that momment. Giving birth to one's baby is the most amazing miracle...bringing a new life into the world...tell him that he needs to get over it and be there with you. He'll probably be there for you, maybe he's just scared right now, but when the momment arrives he might feel different. Good luck
2006-11-09 00:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NONONONONONONONONONO!!!!!! Men are not designed to see such things. Trust me we are very shallow people and seeing your missus give birth is enough to warrant no more sex. If you want the guy to look at you the same way as he did prior to birth then do not let him watch. It may be considered a beautifull thing in the way that men consider farting a beatifull thing, Women simply cannot appreciate it and ultimately look down upon you. The same goes for men.
2006-11-09 00:41:26 · answer #10 · answered by David B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A lot of men (and possibly women) feel that way. It doesn't make him a bad person. Maybe he is afraid he will pass out (which is very common), and seem less masculine to you. Just be understanding, and love him through it. You know, he can be there for you, and just stay up at your head. He won't have to see anything that he doesn't want to see.
2006-11-09 00:31:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋