I just lost my mom about a week ago, i need some advice to help me get though(p.s only 16)?

Answer 1

I'm so sorry for your loss. Try going to church my dear friend and ask for prayer from the church & Pastor. Prayer helps alot.

I pray the Lord to comfort you.

God Bless!

Answer 2

I should hope you have been directed to counselling. This is hardly the forum for getting all the help you need.

This is not something you will get over in a few days or a few months. It will become a part of who you are, and that process takes about a year or two, so expect to have some bad days until then.

You can choose to use this to make you a stronger person eventually, or you can allow this to lead you astray into non constructive choices. I hope you have a good support system.

In this acute phase, surround yourself with the things that give you the most comfort, whether it is stuffed animals, other family, friends, or photos of your mom. You could probably describe how you have felt this last week as "zombie". That feeling is normal and goes away very slowly.

Don't deny yourself the feelings of sadness that will wash over you from time to time. You will very likely experience to some degree, all the following "classic" phases of grief: anger, denial, bargaining, depression, acceptance. You may bounce back and forth between them and may experience more than one at a time.

Answer 3

I can truly appreciate the pain that you are going through. I was 28 when I lost my mother and I was devistated. You are only 16 and it must be really hard for you. The only advice that I can give you is try not to dwell on the loss but think of all of the good times and it will make you smile (probably cry too) but if you think of all of the good memories it makes you feel like she is still with you. Thats all you have now and it will get you through. You NEVER get over the loss of a loved one it just gets easier as each day passes. I wish you luck in you healing.

Answer 4

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. i just lost my grandfather in September and i was close to him so i guess i sort of know what you might be going through, however it does not compare to loosing a mother. unfortunately life must go on for the living and i guess that where its hard. i bet your confused and left wondering well the hell she is? you will have your good days and then you bad. in my grandfathers case he had cancer and i watched him suffer for three months but found peace in the matter once he had died and was relieved in one way that he wasn't suffering anymore. i hope that you have a close family that you can be around and share happy memories of your mother together. if you talk about the good times it will make you feel better. other than that you just have to continuing living; going to school and do the things that you know your mother would be proud of. don't be afraid to have a good cry and talk to her it will make you feel better too. light a candle and put a picture of your mother next to it that's what i have done (pic of my grandfather). she's still there with you everyday. I'm sure that she is very proud of you and will watch over you and guide you through your life. all the best sweetie.

Answer 5

To be very honest with you, this isn't an easy thing to go through anytime in our lives. I'm sorry for everyone going through the loss of a loved one. I was 8yrs. old when I lost my mom, I'm 35 now. She was only 27yrs. old when she died. I think about her everyday and keep in my mind of how lucky I was and still am that I had the chance to fullfill her life she got to live with a special love only a mother knows. I will miss her till the day I die. And no matter what I know she's watching over me and with me 24/7 in my heart. You and your mom will be together always and forever. The love you have for one another will never die, Believe me...

Answer 6

i'm so sorry for your loss, this will be very hard for you growing up without your mother but you will pull thru.its always hard when you lose someone dear to you and though your feeling alone andthat emptiness that comes with a loss.my advice to you would be to remember what she taught you remember who she was to you her strengths ,her smile and know that she is with you. shes all around you her memory her belongings her smell and hold onto those and cherish them.but most of all stay strong andknow that this too shall pass eventually your hurt will disapate andyou will move on and she will be watching over you from heaven above .i lost my brother and its been 22 yrs and the loss still makes me cry but i try to remember the good things . and though the hurt never goes away you will find its easyier to remember her as the yrs continue to go by.

Answer 7

First off I am truly sorry about your loss, second you just have to remember that she is in a wonderful place now and you will see her again some day, Your mother is watching down on you and I am sure she wonts her little girl to live as happy and healthy as possible, talk to her regularly in private that seams to help alot, my friend died a few years back and I can have a bad day, and just begin to talk to her just as if she were sitting right there, it always makes me feel better, and no i'm not crazy. But believe me it will be ok .

Answer 8

Hi Nicole, I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mum when I was only 15 and it hurt like hell.
But you have to think now of the future and moving on. She wouldn't want y ou to be sad for so long, and I'm sure she didn't mean to leave you behind. It takes time to overcome this loss, but believe me, it will get better. Hang in there and support your family. They need your love now. Hang in there Nicole. And if you ever need to talk, email me. My heart is with you, best wishes, Simon.

Answer 9

Remember all of the good times and all of the memories. Know that she is watching over you. Never forget the little things that mean so much to you. Allow yourself time to grieve and remember that the time will come when you see her again. Time will help to heal you, but you will always know the pain.

Answer 10

I'm 16 as well...but I definatly dont know what you're going through. All I can say to do is pray about it, don't turn your back on God. He will get you through it.