I am a husband of my beautiful wife for 3 years. Before married, we had known each other for 5 years. We had sex before marriage. The sex life was great before married, but not right now. Sometime once a month, sometimes none for 2 to 3 months. She had misscarriage and we were afraid to have sex during last year. Now, we afraid to have sex for another reason. I had a strange sex experience with my roommate (guy) few years ago. Wife (was girlfriend) acknowledge of it and she forgave me for doing such thing to her. I thought she really forgave me, but the turth is not. She still remember it and now she is avoiding me from touching her. She said she can image about what I did wrong when I touch her. I really want to have sex with her (also kids). What can I do ? P.S. I was one of childhood assault victim many plus years ago. Can someone give me some direction ? I really love my wife and I don't want to loss and hurt her. Lots of thanks.
2006-11-08 23:56:21 · 8 answers · asked by Nate L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks everyone. I really appreciated by all of you. here I will explain more; "I really want to have sex with her (also kids)." I want to have a kids with her because we have loss a baby a year ago. I have seen people with kids and I am feeling really terrible when I am seeing it. Anyway, my childhood assault experience really affect my entire life. I am not a gay, although I have some sexual identy problem. Read some researches and many of them said childhood truma will affect boys sexual identy. I try hard to elimate the dark side of me. I am already 30 yrs. Still trying. I have talked with wife about it and she said we will fight it together, break the wall, However, I am not sure if we can make it ? There are two person I love most in the world, one is her and another is my mon (past away when I was teenager). In addition, I might talk to her about consoluing. However, she is busy for her Mast school all the time (I almost done my Master, but not busy).
2006-11-09 00:21:59 · update #1
Again, I were sexually assalut by an adult man when I was very little. I am not a person who is assaluting other kids. I want to stop it because I really hate the person who assault me.
2006-11-09 01:48:46 · update #2
your wife is still feeling the betrayal of your sexual encounter with a man...both of you need marriage counseling if this is going to work and maybe even after that it may not work....thinking your spouse maybe gay is possibly a deal breaker for her and she may never get over it and learn to trust you again....good luck
2006-11-09 00:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try conversing to the mummy in-regulation... you reside somewhat close it variety of feels so it does no longer ask your self me in case you weren't heavily related to her... mom-in=rules from time to time have extra pull than husbands do... yet while the in-regulation is a wicked witch from the west i might recommend... looking an "older" buddy of your ol` lady's you have faith extra suitable than the 22 y/o.. me myself.. i'm 22 and that i comprehend maximum 22 y/o lady in no way be able to truly stick to a dating these days.. in case you think of the 22 twelve months is undesirable effect on your ol` lady.. tell her then supply her organization reasoning.. for one the 22 y/o is single... so as that asserts ALOT... She's probable too immature to maintain a dating.. you probably did no longer point out if the female replaced right into a single mom or no longer.. So im out of ammo there.. yet.. paling around... seems to declare something like "bar hopping" to me.. if thats genuine.. alcohol is in no way the respond for something... or drugs... even however I smoke cigarettes.. Does this woman own a vehicle...? Or is it her mommy and daddy's? Does she own a house?? Or stay along with her parents... those are substantial info approximately the different woman.. immature from yet another buddy can deliver approximately... divorce and the three-4 day separation factor... that replaced right into a stupid thought which you will section-handle... your are 30.. or your lady is... if a marriage has issues you artwork it out.. no longer artwork a deal.. that doesn't artwork.. i think of it would additionally be best you the two seek for professional help.. be that of a decrease or pastor/preacher/rev. so forth so on..
2016-10-21 12:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by agudelo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a good idea for both you and your wife to seek some counseling to resolve your issues.
2006-11-09 00:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by Aurora 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is feeling quite natural considering you have been with a man. I think both of you need counseling and need it NOW. And please explain this comment......"I really want to have sex with her (also kids)."????? You are saying you want to have sex with kids? You need help real fast there buddy. I dont care if you were a childhood victim or not, if you want to molest kids you are one sick puppy !!!!!!
2006-11-09 00:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Counseling for the both of you is needed.
2006-11-09 00:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
instead of asking us here why dont you guys sit down and have a heart to heart talk
2006-11-09 00:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by Fergie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is never going to forgive or forget... Time to think about divorce... You are not going to get what you want... At least not with her...
2006-11-09 00:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
show her some x films
2006-11-09 05:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by cactus_52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋