i really love this man and have been married to him for 7years, can any one give me some advice on how to move on PLEASE
2006-11-08 23:38:31 · 20 answers · asked by mary l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why what did you do on him, joking just trying to cheer you all girl. hes not worth it not one bit. Come to me and i will have a girly night out with you. Let your hair down abit. LET HIM GO
2006-11-08 23:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, keep in mind, that your husband left you for another woman. The fact that she is younger has no bearing on it. If fate had played out a little differently, she could have just as well been older. He left you and has made the ultimate representation of his lack of true love and consideration for who you are and what you have to offer in a loving relationship. You really love this man, but he does not love you. Don't lessen your self-worth by chasing him. You deserve better and you know it.
Moving on? That is easy. Remind yourself every minute of every day, that his leaving was because of some lack of character on his part, and in no way reflects on you. Actually, you are the lucky one. You get rid of an uncaring husband, and still retain your honor by doing what is right.
Focus on yourself, your work, your kids, etc. Put the time and energy that you spent on your marriage and refocus it on the other things in your life that you love. Do not suffer the loneliness of missing him. Reach out to friends and spend time with then. They can be your greatest source of support. Do not sit around the house wishing things were different. This is an opportunity, seize it with both hands and make the best of it!
2006-11-09 00:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by brado1962 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don’t ever blame yourself! Don’t feel old! Don’t starve yourself! Start going out a lot, party party and meet some people and go to the gym and work on your self-confidence and treat yourself and tell yourself everyday that you are worthy! Don’t do it to get him back, forget about him! You must! Use this opportunity as a new start in life, something new to explore and enjoy! Tell yourself this happened for a reason, because it did. Your seven years with him was just to learn, that’s the truth. Make peace in your heart, it will just break you if you don't. Just think when the time is right, you will fall in love all over again, that’s so much fun! The one is out here! Just take a day at a time... Relax and give love, rather to wait for love... Giving feeds the soul... Stay busy! Don’t be alone, but don’t get in to a relationship to fast! You go girl!girl!
2006-11-08 23:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by confussie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your pain. Unfortunately, too many men (and women) today are not committed to their marriages and are always looking for the "next best thing".
Honey, it's his loss and NOT yours. Keep your head high. Don't let him see you sweat...he's not worth it. If he can't stay true to that vow he made, then cut the cord and let him go.
I went through something similar 4 years ago (after 16 years of marriage and 2 kids), but I counted my losses and moved on. I got an apt. for my kids and I, went to counseling, and focused on me and the kids. It was hard at first, but after just a few months, I was feeling better than ever and when he saw how good I was looking (inside and out), he came running back asking for forgiveness but it was too late. He decided to leave and I decided to move on.
Put your focus on you girl. I know it's hard, but it's not impossible. Do things that you enjoy doing...take care of you. If he can't appreciate the good woman he had, I'm sure someone else will. 2 years after my divorce, I met a wonderful man who is crazy about me, respects me and also loves my children. I love my life now and I'm glad I didn't take my ex back.
Hang in there, things will get better and you WILL survive. Good luck!
2006-11-08 23:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he has done is very cruel, but I can assure you his relationship with her won't last. Don't be too quick to get with someone else just to forget him because you will doing yourself a lot of damage and also the next person. Right now you probably are not feeling good about yourself, treat yourself to a spa, a new haircut, new makeup and ask a good friend to go with you. Treat yourself to dinner and ask a friend to go with you, or movies or maybe even plan a trip somewhere. Time will heal all wounds.
2006-11-08 23:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to heal, then move on. You're better off without him. Be glad you have only invested 7 years in this marriage...I know a woman who was married 28 years and this happened to her. Maybe karma will come into play andd this younger girl will leave him for a younger guy...he will deserve it, and learn first-hand how you feel
2006-11-08 23:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously wasn't worthy of your love. Take some time to heal your wounded heart & spirit and then get on with your life.
Life's too short and we only go around once, so don't waste any precious time on the bum!
2006-11-08 23:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still have any of his credit cards and still on his bank account Break him. Run up the credit cards and spend the money in the bank. It is hard for a older Guy to impress a younger women if he is BROKE!!
2006-11-08 23:47:55 · answer #8 · answered by bill a 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
iam still young and i have never got marry.but what my mother have face was i think harder than yours. my dad left my mom for an 18years old lady who have given birth to 2 child but she was with my dad because of his money but when he got problem his young lady live down and he came back with my mom. u have to be Strong that girl won't stay long with him promise...... she is after some thing and very soon it will come out so don't worry. good luck
2006-11-08 23:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by jojo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be like Nike- Just do it. Get yourself together, put on foot infront of the other.... and put your life back together. Let yourself know, that this IS your husband, and it says nothing about you.
2006-11-08 23:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by ~MB~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋