I married my husband a month and a half ago, but it seems like he married his computer instead of me. we have a daughter and another on the way. he also has no sex drive. how can i get him more interested in me again?
2006-11-08 23:02:40 · 11 answers · asked by kelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on what is going on with hubby in his head. Everyone needs a break and time away to unwind. IF the xbox/computer does that great, could be worse. He could drink.
But if it is done in excess then you have a big problem. Find out what is going on. Maybe he is stressed about the money, is he happy and fufilled in his job.
Your husband maybe starting to feel he will be neglected when the second child arrives.
All to often, we hear that women (No offence implied) need to know they are beautiful, loved, cherrished, special, desired etc. Men need this also, but we may not always come right out and say it. Everyone man/woman want to know that their spouse will be there to love them, hold them and support them. Make them feel good when they are down.
Everyone has a bad day, and knowing that when you come home, your spouse will be there to give a big hug, kiss and say that they love you. Most of all, sit and listen when you need to get the crap of the day off of your chest can make all the difference. Also, knowing that your spouse will sometimes make the extra effort to make those stresses/issues/problems go a way. Even if it is for 5 or 10 mins. IE Massage, Oral Love, what ever. The point is that they try and you feel supported.
Time to talk to hubby and find out how he is feeling, and express to him how your feeling. Take time and focus on your relationship, one night a week. Put the kids to bed early, hire a sitter what ever. But don't just expect it to change. Kids are important and reqire so much attention, but not so much that you neglect your partner, your relationship/marriage.
2006-11-08 23:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by SRC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Serious problem. My wife also has the same problem with me at times. Discuss with him and tell him you need more love and attention. Fighting may not help.
I am sharing my experience.
If nothing helps, please do not damage the XBOX or the comp. It would hurt him a lot and you dont wanna do that, right?
Ask him why he is not interested in anything else apart from the box and try to analyze what u can do to make him interested in you. Go out for some time and freak out with him. May be, he will change soon.
Best wishes,
God bless
2006-11-08 23:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by Subhasis G 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dont make your husband give it up. Come on there are enough stresses and strains in the world without a little R&R. If you have to just set some boundaries, let him play for a few hours each day and then spend time with you. Its quality not quantity. if you start controling him he will resent you for it. Besides, after about 60 hours he will have completed the game and then you can have a go.
2016-05-21 23:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unfortunately, you married the package. And that is the risk we all take marring someone. BUT, it is usually found to be phases in everyones life that interest change. So the x-box thing, I am sure he was doing this before you got married, so this should not NOW be an issue with you. If it was, probably shouldn't have married him. But since you did, it is time to find out what YOU are doing different that might have caused him to lose his drive and fix that (as we can only control what we do) then hopefully HE will become re-interested in you and want to play with your buttons for a while, what do ya think !!??? As an avid game player myself, I do it alot to help with my stress. Get back to how you 2 fell in love in the first place, was you playing X-Box with him??? hmmmmmm...................................
2006-11-08 23:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by ludwigkicker 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
while hes on the xbox show him how xxx your box is by getting out the toys, bet e wont be on the game for long
2006-11-08 23:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by paulisfree2004 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Smash the xbox with an axe. That's what I did to the tv.
2006-11-08 23:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by melfromhell001 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Let him know how you feel. He can't read your mind and chances are he thinks everythings just going fine.
2006-11-08 23:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by Aurora 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
lean to play or teach your daughter to play
and take control of the xbox....
2006-11-08 23:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by TJ 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Go online and see about getting yourself some fun there.. ;)
2006-11-08 23:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
There r 2 player games !... join him !!! :-)
2006-11-08 23:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by kay 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋