Ok to CRY????

Question

My last period was on the 16th of Sept, i have irregulars,my boobs are so big now,i have cramps once in a while too. i just did a blood pregnancy test and it came negative,am so down right now,should i let the tears flow?i've been ttc for close to 3yrs now.is it ok to cry??????????

Answer 1

Awww hun, I am so sorry. I completely know how you feel, we have also been ttc for almost 3 years and it is so sad to see that neg test each and every month!

Answer 2

of course you can cry .... I cry all the time sometimes for no reason and I think you have a reason .... its hard when your hopes get up so high then come crashing down... I have been ttc for 9 months with 1 m/c every month my period is late I start jumping for joy and then the test come out negative and I get my period I am so depressed and I promise myself I wont get my hopes up next month and I will wait until I'm at least 2 weeks late before testing.. but I can't do it I just get so excited...

have you been to your doctor 3 yrs is a long time.. maybe you can be put on some fertility treatments.. good luck !!!

Answer 3

of course its ok to cry, it took my hubby and I 5 years to conceive our son. I also have irregular periods and I understand how you feel. I know that every time my period came I was so disappointed and would cry. I'd wonder what was wrong with me and I use to be so jealous of people who were pregnant. Why couldnt I do what every women seemed to have no problems doing. We wanted a baby so bad no matter what we did, it felt like it was gonna happen. I finally got to the place where I knew I couldn't get pregnant and gave up trying. Well wouldnt you know it, 2 mths later I got pregnant. I really think that stressing over it the way I was played a role in it. Pray and relax, it'll happen. Good luck and God bless

Answer 4

Oh my gosh - It would probably be good for you to have a good cry!

Then once you're out of tears go do something to pamper yourself - a massage or a facial or a manicure or some beautiful new shoes. Then sit down with your husband for a nice dinner and talk about your options - see a fertility expert, research adoption etc.

There is still hope - my aunt adopted my cousin after about 3 years of trying and 10 months later had a baby!!!!! My co-worker tried for 4 years and just had her baby which was concieved with invitro (she also had several miscarriages and 2 other failed invitro attempts).

Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Yes you can cry! I think trying to get pregnant it one of the hardest things a woman can go thru. I know first hand. Let me tell you what I have been thru.(I'll try to make this short)

My husband and I got married, wanted a family and thought nothing about getting pregnant. After 5 miscarriages, testing, cysts removed from my ovaries, DNC'S, sperm count for my husband, body basal temps, clomid. Nothing worked!! It was so hard for us. Here we are a good couple, good jobs, house, etc.. Our siblings had children with no problems. We couldn't figure out what was wrong with us??

We finally accepted that we weren't going to be able to have children. I didn't want to go thru another miscarriage again. Our lives went on for about 2 yrs. I went to the Dr because I had a UTI. Next thing I knew they were telling my husband and I that we were pregnant. I was so excited but, yet so scared to tell anyone. We broke the news when I was 3 months along. Our families couldn't believe it. I was in the hospital a few times for bleeding but, everything was fine. On Sept 26,2005 our son was born happy and healthy. We couldn't have been more excited.

I just didn't know why it took so long for us to have him. I figured it out. I was always very close w/ my father. (i'm the youngest girl of 6) On March 17th 2006 my Dad was diagnosed w/ terminal cancer. I was totally devastated and didn't know what I was going to do w/o him. Unfortunatly he passed away 6 weeks later.

I now know that God planned it that way. He wanted me to have this child right before my Dad died. My Dad loved our son and saw him on a daily basis.

Sorry for the long story but, what I am trying to say is not to give up. It will happen. We tried for 7 long years and finally got the miracle we were waiting for.

Please don't give up and know that your day will come.

God Bless.

Answer 6

Of course it is ok to cry.
Last month I also taught that I was pregnant, I had all kind of symptoms. Had a blood pregnancy test done and it came back negative.
I felt just like you. I wanted to cry but the tears wouldn't come out.

Answer 7

Of course you can cry! Why the hell not? Hey, i know. i got some cherry choco ice cream,a nd we can have a cyber cry party, with ice cream, a good chick flick and some good ole "puffs"

Don't ever be ashamed to cry because you can't make a baby easy. But don't give up either! Sit down with your partner and cuddle for awhile...And don't have sex on a schedual for awhile..makes it hard to make a baby =s.

Answer 8

hun there is no need to ask if it is OK to cry!!!? of course it is...
your feeling down and blue.. i dont blame u for feeling a little lost!!
i dont know how i would be in ur situation...
but somehow u seem to have gotten this far... u will go alot further if u let the tears flow!!

the strong will succeed!!! chin up hun :)

Answer 9

yes yesyes
let it out
I know how you feel, but don't give up
you probably about to have your period
but once you have it have sex every day after it finish
or every other day and buy a ovulation prediction kit
and more thing get your husband to start taking vitamin with ginsen and you start prenatal vitamin & folic acid
I did all of these and I am preg ttc for 21/2 years
Good luck

Answer 10

You poor darling - you go ahead and cry and I'll send you some BIG BIG HUGS and tons of positive vibes.