They're not close friends but it worries me he will try and convince my husband to cheat on me.This is a guy who slept with some bimbo when his wife was pregnant with their 3rd child. he tells my husband all about it and how good it is.My husband tells me he does'nt like what this guy does but it still worries me.should it?
2006-11-08 22:14:11 · 12 answers · asked by poptrash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your husband "hangs out" with him and goes along with his wrongdoing, then he's also wrong. He has no business being with that man, and you need to tell him that he should be more of man, himself and speak up/stop associating with him.
2006-11-08 22:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would worry any woman. Is your husband someone who would be influenced by this man? Or is he the type of person who sticks to his own beliefs and morals? We are all influenced by the people we hang out with, but ultimately, our actions are based on our own personal standards of behaviour. Most men I know would be completely horrified about the guy cheating on his wife while she was pregnant. And from what you've said your husband isnt encouraging his behaviour. It is possible for your husband to be friends with this guy, even though he doesnt like that he cheats on his wife. They would most likely just watch football or drink beer (or whatever it is that guys do when they get together).
Considering your husband has told you about what his friend has told him, I dont think you have to worry about him following along with his friend's behaviour. If he was going to cheat on you, he wouldnt bring up the fact that his mate is doing it.
If you had a friend who was cheating on her husband and bragged about it to you, would you feel obligated to cheat on your husband? You wouldnt, because you are your own person who makes her own decisions and the knowledge that your friend had done it would not make you think twice about it.
Trust your husband, if he (and he alone) has not given you any reason to believe that he is cheating, then the chances are he isnt and has no intention of it.
2006-11-09 06:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by roman_goddess_venus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry that much. looking at your story, i can say that your husband doesnt like the idea of unfaithfulness. So i dont think your husband will also follow what this guy is telling him. Your husband is sane unlike this guy whom i belive so insane that he is very proud that he is unfaithful to his wife!!! So talk to your husband about this issue. He can garuantee you.... This is just a simple insecurity you have. My advise is open communication wih your husband. good luck!!!
2006-11-09 06:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by bugi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are not close friends, and your husband doesn't like what this guy is doing...the WHY does he hang out with him. He needs to choose better friends
2006-11-09 06:24:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since your husband does not like what this guy is doing, you should not worry much, dont suspect him, just advice him to limit his movement with this guy, because if people see the two of them always they will feel your husband is like him. this is the best period to prove your wifehood to your husband as in taking extra care of him and shower much love on him so that even if he want to misbehave your care, love and concern to him, will make him think twice
2006-11-09 06:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jecs O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband isn't a child, so stop treating him like one...
Explain your worries with your husband... Has he any reason to cheat???
2006-11-09 06:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u wont be able to stop urself from worrying and im sure you will get told if u trust him u wouldnt worry well not true. its normal but u do have to explain ur concerns to ur husband and put ur faith in him also tell his friend his a jerk.
2006-11-09 06:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by mrs nevz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust your husband? If you do, then worrying about who is friends are is not very trusting. If you don't, then what do you want to do with him
He is entitled to have friends, and if he has been open with you then what are you worried about
2006-11-09 06:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can make another person do something without their participation and permission. Don't think your husband can be so easily lead. good luck
2006-11-09 06:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep the lines of communication open with your husband, talk to him, get his feedback, often and you shouldn't have a problem. If things are good with you, then he shouldn't want to stray.
2006-11-09 06:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋