bed wetting?

Question

I have an 11 yr old daughter that has gone back to bed wetting, she was dry for quite a while and now seems to have started again.
She doens't say anything about it, the first i know is if i go in the room and find the wet sheets still on the bed.
any suggestions on what to do, she has already been going to the enurisis clinic. but that doesn't seem to have helped a lot.

Answer 1

She could be worried about things,,this is actually quite a common problem...she will eventually grow out of it...dont give her much fluids at night and maybe she could wake up during the night to go to the toilet with an alarm clock.

Answer 2

talk to her or ask a family member to speak to her i think she may have something on her mind i wet the bed until i was 13 and even after that when i was an adult if something upset me it used to happen i went to see a dr when i was an adult and i had a bladder stretch since i had this my problem has stopped you could also try waking her when you go to bed so she can use the loo but from personal experience please be patient with her and always make sure she showers once she is up as we all know kids in school can be very cruel good luck with this i am sure you will get through it make sure she knows you love her know matter what x

Answer 3

It's not "normal" for an 11-year-old to start wetting at night again after being dry for some time, but it does happen. The first step should be to have her doctor look her over, as it *could* be a sign of something medically serious, like a bladder or kidney infection or early-onset diabetes. It also might not be any of those things, but it's not worth taking the risk because the consequences of leaving any of those conditions untreated are not good.

Assuming nothing is seriously medically wrong, it's not all that uncommon in children who wet the bed for an extended time at a young age (past the age of 5 or 6) but have stopped for awhile to have "relapses" in response to stress. Even though her bladder is probably physically mature enough to keep her dry now, it's probably still somewhat less developed than normal for her age (because of her years of bedwetting previously) and it won't take a huge amount of stress to her system to bring her back to the "pattern" of letting go of her bladder during sleep, since she already had several years of being accustomed to it anyway. Also, paradoxically, the onset of puberty can bring this on in some kids -- while many bedwetters stop at around puberty because their bladders take advantage of the growth spurts to "catch up" with the rest of their bodies, in other kids the opposite can happen -- the body starts growing very quickly and for some reason the bladder doesn't grow along with it, making it increasingly difficult for her to hold her growing body's urine production during the night. This can make the problem worse for a few months or even years, but eventually, most likely, the bladder will catch up again and she'll be fine in the long run.

At any rate, have some patience with her and don't be hard on her, as that will probably only make the problem worse. Do make clear to her that you understand it's not her fault she's wetting the bed, and encourage her to take off her own wet sheets and put them in the laundry first thing in the morning, not as punishment, but just to keep her room clean and odor-free. Then, I'd suggest calling the enuresis clinic and asking them how they recommend proceeding, as they know your daughter's case better than anyone. Even though they may not mention it in their ads, these places are well aware that relapses happen and most likely have good strategies for dealing with them -- better than anything you're likely to find on here, at any rate. :)

I hope this is helpful and that your daughter finds a way past this soon -- but in the meantime, the BEST thing you can do for her is keep showing her love and support!!

Answer 4

hi betty blue,iv got a 9yr old daughter who also has problems with bed wetting,from being very young she's never really been dry,i had the same problem with the enurises clinics,so i took her to my G.P,they refered her to my local hospital for tests,they said her bladder was immature & needs to be re-trained,they said do NOT stop drinks at night,make sure she wee's at bed time,stay there an extra minute,to make sure she finished weeing,they also gave my daughter tablets to help her stop bedwetting,i personally was then at the end of my tether.she's now been on them for about 3months & have been absolutley brilliant,in 3months she's probably wet the bed about 8 times.the tablets are called **DESMOPRESSIN**,the worst thing you can do is get angry,try to stay calm about it,explain to your daughter she must tell you if she has an accident in bed,just so you know & want to change her sheets,etc.
i totally know how you are feeling,ask your G.P to refer her to the hospital,its worth a go...
also talk to her about any bullying that may be going on,i used to buy those dry nites.

Answer 5

when i was a child i used to wet the bed!! until i was 12-13 i was taken to clinics, hypnotists had electric blankets i hated it!!
My advise would be not to make a big deal out of it and make sure she keeps away from fizzy drinks in the evening. Ps i just seemed to grow out of it.

Answer 6

Oh she must be sooooo scared the poor thing. I bet it is something emotional. Maybe peer pressure from school??? Tell her that it's ok to wet her sheets but not to leave them for u to find but to come and tell u that she did it. Make her more secure within herself and tell her that she isn't alone ( more kids are prone to this than we all would like to think). She is covering something up for sure. For ME it was sexual abuse. Thats NOT to say this is happening to your daughter....but something is going on with her and its best now to find out what. xxxx

Answer 7

i wet the bed ad i am 17. the doctors neer helped me one it. finaly the 4th doctor i went to said that i would probably out grow it and to use goodnites or night pants to help with the mess. isay get her some goodnites and dont make it a big deal.

Answer 8

Hi Betty, some very good answers here already I think but I just wanted to say best of luck with everything

Clive Jenkins | Parenting

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Answer 9

Very touchy subject. Can you sit down with her and talk about stuff? Whatever you do (it must be very frustrating for you), try not to get angry with her. Could be a recurring urine infection or something is bothering her. Or could be a growing problem, messages aren't getting to the brain in time etc. Hope things improve for her.

Answer 10

i have the same problem with my 10 almost 11 yr old daughter. i have resorted to making her wash her own sheets. weve tried meds and all and it doesnt help. he said they would do more tests if she hadnt quit by 12.... thats what i was told so im waiting patiently... good luck