My best friend and i used to hang out alot, with another friend. But since the fall out of my other friend, me and my best friend no longer see each other no more. The last time i spoke to her was last christmas, but have recently recieved a phone call of news from her that she is pregnant. I congratulated her on the news, however our conversation didnt last long... she says she plans to visit me some time, i dont count on it as she is more the other girls best friend now, and only sees me for a bit of gossip. Is that why she rang besides her news to catch up on the juicy gossip of my life and report back to the others... about how miserable i am doing?
2006-11-08 21:34:50 · 23 answers · asked by lonely as a cloud 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sorry my best friend is known for stirring it up and spreading gossip and rumours.
2006-11-08 21:36:02 · update #1
hey...why see things so negatively, people change, perspectives change..
she's pregnant, hormones are up and down and maybe she really just wants to see how you're doing and feels like a chat. enjoy it..
look at it this way, take it as it comes. see what comes of the meeting and don't be negative about it. people respond to us in the way we show our feelings. if u show her a heartfelt smile u'll receive the same in return.. don't waste time thinking about the what if, and what are her reasons for it...u won't know that until u see her (if that'S what u want) and if u feel she's no good for u, then don't see her... the choice is yours!
i'd say try and be positive, even if u've had bad experiences with her.. u guys aren't in Kindergarden anymore...give her the benefit of the doubt, after all u must be important enough to her for her to ring u after nearly a year... even if she wants to see how "badly" u are doing... u still interest her!!! :)
2006-11-08 22:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a best friend who I see maybe once a year. Twice if we are lucky. We don't see each other or talk on the phone much but for all the special or monumental things in our lives we try to be there for each other.
The question for you is... do you feel like less of a person because your friend only contacts you when you think she wants something? Can she really be that good a friend?
2006-11-08 21:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She rang you because she is absolutely thrilled that she is pregnant and wanted to share the news with you. If she's not thrilled then she knows you as a trusted friend and although it's been a year thought she could turn to you.
My friend of 20 years is still my friend and we can go a year withouth speaking, true friends don't need to live in eachother's pockets.
As for gossip, she only knows what you want her to know, so it's up to you what you tell her.
2006-11-08 21:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's either fallen out with the other mate....broke up with the father of her kid or she's bored, there must be a reason after a year of not contacting you...if she's known as a gossip monger then dont bother with her any more, just plod on and ignore her...she may be trying to worm her way back into your life coz she's got no one else...be careful...theres a motive somewhere in this....watch for the signs, if she makes a date to visit you and you feel uncomfortable about it...make some excuse up that your not there and very busy and you will call her...i smell a rat
2006-11-08 23:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like she is trying to sound better than you by getting pregnant when or if you meet up its gonna be all about her you ain't really gonna be interested in what she has to say because you ain't a part of her new life . Any way don't let her think your life is miserable you can still go out and have a good time your not the that is gonna be tied down with a baby ...
2006-11-08 23:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
being pregnant makes women look at things differently, or I know it did for me. It seems that all this time she has missed your friendship and didn't quite know what to do about it...now she has decided to just call and see what happens.
It could also be that this other friend has not been there for her since she fell pregnant and she is trying to make up with you so she isn't alone. It happens all the time, and it is not that anyone is horrible, just that situations change and they don't relate anymore.
Instead of asking us, why not ask her
2006-11-08 21:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I phoned a friend last night for the first time in 2 years, just because I was bored, maybe that's why she rang...
2006-11-08 23:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by Fu Manchu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she's so thrilled to be pregnant she just wanted to tell everyone she knows. Maybe, deep down, she was also exploring to see if your old friendship could be renewed. If as you say, the conversation wasn't entirely enjoyable, she's now realised that the friendship is past.
2006-11-08 21:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by mad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well next time you see her just tell her how great you are doing and how happy you are even if you are not don't give her anything to gossip about.
2006-11-08 21:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by Gossip81 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't get miserable by this friend. Its your choice to be her friend and if you don't want to be, make sure your very disinterested next time you see or hear from her. Its part of growing up emotionally when it suddenly dawns on us that we can say no to someone. Try it out its very empowering!
If she makes you this sad then she ain't no friend!
2006-11-08 21:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by Supersammy :o) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋