Why won't women commit to building families these days? Why do they only care about their careers?

Answer 1

I put it down to advertising. Women are told they should be like Carrie from Sex in the City. Work hard, drink with the girls, go out clubbing, get a nice new sofa, L'Oreal I'm worth it, pay the mortgage, new Nokia, keep the car running, read Heat mag etc. Lots of these things aren't compatible with having a stable family, but unfortunately having a stable family isn't advertised in the breaks for Big Brother. Phew, rant over.

Answer 2

Not all women are unwilling to commit to building families.
Those that are, and choose to focus on their careers, do so in greater numbers now than previously because they now have the opportunity to do so and are not forced into motherhood when they do not want it.

Personally, I am choosing not to have a family because I have yet to meet a man I can trust enough to have children with, and although I've not given up hope entirely, I'm not expecting to find one. I'd rather throw myself into my career than bring any children into a family and a world which will be shattered by pain, betrayal, loss, and sorrow.

You might as well ask why men won't commit to building families, and only care about their careers...in this culture it's almost an equally (ir)relevant question.

Answer 3

Family life has changed so much, since the 1960's and before. At that time there was only one 'bread winner' - the man, the woman stayed home; ran the house and raised the kids. Over time this has changed dramatically. When my children were small (I had them all in the 1970's) I stayed home and loved it.
We wanted to buy a house but were told, by a lending institution, that it took 2 incomes to buy a house - without me working there was just no way we could buy one. So, we rented and I remained home until my youngest began school.
Ever since then the world has opened up, so much, to women. There's just so many opportunities out there for us that in order for us to get what we really want (without being a big burden on our husband's income) - we must have a career. Now careers are more important than a family. The focus, now, is 'how much will we have to retire on'...... Without 2 incomes - retirement is more of a burden to family members than to be able to remain in your own home or live comfortably.

Answer 4

They've been brainwashed by feminism and the media that they need to "do it all" to be happy. They get the idea that it's what everybody else is doing, so they follow along like lemmings over a cliff. The end result is that they spread themselves too thin to effectively create a family, whether they express a desire to or not.

Family must be the priority...not just one item on a list. It must be second to nothing. Many women (and men) have lost this concept...which is a big part of the reason why we have so many dis functional familes these days that spit out immature young adults with equally twisted ideas about priorities in their own lives.

What's also sad is that very few of these women are happy...though they'll never admit it for fear of not living up to the norm that's depicted in the media...which really isn't the norm, but you can't tell them that.

Answer 5

I think you'll find that your generalisation of women is actually wrong. Not ALL women feel this way, personally, I gave up work to have a family and only returned when they started school. I was in a very fortunate position to be able to do this as my husband earns a good salary. In an ideal world, every parent would be able to spend the first few years at home with their children.
It is true that some women do feel the need to gain a career before settling down, but this may be for a number of different reasons, not always selfish ones.
For example, may be this woman has taken years out to study, trained and FINALLY got her dream job.. would you want to suddenly just stop and give up everything you have ever dreamed of? After a few years, she may be able to say that she has had her career and is ready to settle down.

Answer 6

That is an incredibly huge generalisation. Women can be equally committed to their careers & their families. This is 2006, not 1946! If you want to go with your generalisation, maybe women are less inclined to commit to families i.e. getting married & having kids because men these days are too unreliable & cannot be counted upon to provide for women/children the way they used to. Nor can they be counted on to keep it in their pants & not request a divorce when the going gets a little tougher. Maybe the woman behind this question is not the problem. The man asking it is.

Answer 7

I don't think that women aren't commited to their families I just think that they judge that commitment in different ways.
I choose to stay at home(my husband works) and sacrifice the holidays and caviar in order to bring my children up 'properly', being here for them, reading and writing with them, cooking proper meals etc are all things that my husband and I believe are more important than Tenerife bi-annually.
Other parents feel that the nicer things in life are not luxuries as we categorise them, but necessities and so they feel justified in seeing their children less in order to provide what they deem appropriate.
I had a very good career and maybe, when my kids are older, I'll consider getting back into the workplace, but I don't want to miss out on something I can't return to later, and that's giving my children what I consider to be the best start in life.
Being at home doesn't make me a better or lesser parent than someone who works, it just makes me a different parent, and at the end of the day the people who will really be judged on how good a job we've done are our kids not us.

Answer 8

From my point of view, the family unit is the most important thing. Briefly, I came from a broken home and was placed in foster care for 9 years until I turned 16. I married very young the first time. But I still knew i wanted to go to college. I wanted to, because I needed to prove to myself that I could overcome the odds. I did. My first marriage of 18 years failed. Due to abuse, not my career. Now that I am secure financially and have remarried to a wonderful man. I am ready for a family at the age of 37. For me, it is security and support of a loving husband who will be a loving father as well. Yes I am willing to give up my career and be a fulltime wife and mother. I love taking care of my husband and my home, and a baby now would be perfect. We shall see.....

Answer 9

I think its what a women has to go through she needs a trustworthy husband not one that would leave her all by herself one day to look after the kid, and its allot of responsiblty , and todays time a women can become anything she wants, long time ago women had to be maybe a house wife but not any more

and we women want to enjoy rather than beign tied to a kid , its also the freedom a women wants and mainly a security for that she has to find a suitable partner willing to be with her always

Answer 10

Because dear Bob, the cost of living these days is far more expensive than it was back in the day!

I would love nothing more than to be able to give up work and be able to take my daughter to and from school and not have to pay for a childminder to do it!

Aside from the school run, I actually enjoy contributing my wages into our home! I have never wanted to be a kept woman who has had to ask for money!

You should pull your head out of your ar*e, and realise that this is no longer the 1950's!