My wife left me for my first cousin., we just finished the divorce. What should I do? Give me your answers, or i'll go crazy!
2006-11-08 19:09:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know some people are telling you to move on but that's often easier said than done obviously. If you are really so down in the dumps then I suggest you seek counseling for yourself to help ease the pain. It sounds like you need someone to talk to.
2006-11-08 19:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by Leila G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to take divorce like that. Someone whom you love, cheat on you and leave you with divorce. You'll feel angry, disappointed, useless, and lonely. Feeling lonely cause of divorce is harder than anything else. I think I will be crazy if I have that problems.
But It's already happened. Nothing can change it. And I think it's better for you than living with someone who cheat on you. Even though you sad and lonely, that will not change anything. So, what for do you feel so sad and depressed.
Move on, and take another chance. Feel and breath your new life. Keep busy with your new life, your works, your hobbies, and anything you want. You're free now, but don't forget you have to be a responsible person.
Take care, good luck.
2006-11-08 19:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have the power within ourselves to control our thoughts, our actions, our words and our emotions. Sometimes we have to take control and say to our self.........Today is a new day and WILL NOT LET MY THOUGHTS CONTROL MY ACTIONS OR MY EMOTIONS TODAY.
I know this is easier said then done. This is how I take control of my life.
First of all think about what you LOVE to do.
( For instance I love to horseback ride.)
Take time out to do some activities that you really enjoy. Make sure that when you step out of the house that you feel good about yourself. Dress up a little, put some nice smelling cologne on. Life is only what you make it. Sometimes we get so caught up with our thoughts and emotions that we forget that we do have the power within us to change the way we feel. You can chose to sit around and think about your circumstance or you can chose to live life....There is a big world out there with wonderful things just waiting for you to come out and play.
Also remember this.....................
An idol mind is the Devil's playground!
God Bless
2006-11-09 01:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life does not wait for anyone. All setbacks are temporary. Try to concentrate on some other activities in order to divert your attention from the above mishaps. With time the mental trauma shall definitely heal my friend.
2006-11-08 19:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by Abhijit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing u can do is to go thru the grieving process. It's going to take time but as days and weeks pass, it will get easier and easier. Unfortunately there are no short cuts.
2006-11-08 19:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a hard pill to swallow. However, I am sure that you know that you are a desirable man. After all you have already been married once right? Get out there and find yourself a new woman! Good-Luck!!
2006-11-08 19:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Smith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone doesn't love you, sorry. It's like a prize. You open the packet but it says, "Try again." Love is like that. You can't make people love you by force. The choice is completely the other one's. Get on with your life! Marry again.
2006-11-08 20:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by archangel_of_fire_and_air 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its obvious that you are in pain right now and you should take the advice about counseling also go out ,find a hobby that helps me out alot when i feel that way
2006-11-08 19:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by dodgerchik 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me for saying this, but it's for your good. You don't need a woman like that. What you need a woman who understands life, and who's willing to go through it together.
It's a good thing it happened now to let you know who she really is. Move on and find a better woman.
2006-11-08 19:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by Dumbo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OH man,i'v just been dumped too its real hard koz its my first love. i cant imagine life with another person,yet i have to live. i wud advice u to destroy evrythg dat reminds u of her,ofcourse souvenir and feelings cant be erased but lets hope that with time it will fade...goodluck
2006-11-08 20:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋